Honest opinion. rape?!


Question: Honest opinion!. rape!?
okay!. i wan't an honest opinion of this!.

so i had a party!. you know everyones drinking and having a good time!. i was smashed!. i have never been so drunkin my life!. well anyways, i somehow ended up in a room on the bed with him ontop of me!. i asked him what he was doing, and he told me to just relax!. my friends told me that they could hear us through the walls, and they said i was "likeing it"!. the only thing i remember was asking him why, and what he was doing, and sometimes, even to get off!. it felt like i was only in there for 5 minits, but my friends say it was about 30-40!.

my friends are saying that it was not rape!. was it!?
he was barely drunk!. he only had a few beers!.!.!.

and another thing, my friends said they tried coming in, but he would keep them out and lock the door!. i dont remember that at all, if i woulda known i woulda told them to get me out!.

so, is it rape!? is it my fault!?
please!. honesty only!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
ok so here are the legalities of it, il take the yes and no factor out of it, and the latter in i will put it back in,
so legally!. and payattention to what i say, in oder to give legal consent to have n e kind of sexual relation including intercourse!. you have to be of legal consent age in some states its 15 and others states its 17 !. so the age depends on the state you live in!. so if you are uunder legal consent age for your state wether you willing said yes or not its still considerd rape!. because the laws says before a certant age you cant give legal consent!. the other thing you have to be inoder to give legal consent is sober, !. meaning if you are legally drink you cant legally give consent!. because you cant think clearly or make right or wise choices as you normally would of you were sober!. !. how ever it does cancile out if both of the people involed are the same age and underage as well as / or legally drunk!. now as to you friends saying you enjoyed it, or you sounded like you enjoyed it, well heres some facts most people dont know, even when you rape female or male you can secret body fluids its your bodies protection mechanisms!. and men believe it or not can get an erection when being raped wich most people think that they cant!.
when did it become rape the moment you told him in one way or another to stop, rape is NEVER the victums!. it is the person who is doing the victomizing!. rape isnt about sez!. its about power!. you wont to know why he chose you!. it wsnt because of what you were wearing how you smelled who you were hanging out wiht what he heard about you, he knew with the amount you had to drink that night he could take you and you couldnt fight back!. chances are you did black out!. none of this is you fault you did nothing wrong it was him!. i understand that you dont want to take this to court!. in court they will tell you its your fault dig up allot of things about you!. bring your friends and his on the stand to say what you just said that they said, and the doctor will be calle dapon the stand to give their testamony and so will you!. he may go to prison or he may be let go!. either way the choice is yours!. whatyou have to do either way no matter what you decided is to get you back!. to sleep threw the night again!. to not look pver your should to make sure your really alone!. to not shudder ever time a guy touches you!. to not see his face everytime yyou have an intamet moment with a man of your choice, you now have a long battle ahead of you!. because he not only violated your body he took a piece of your soul and you have to get that back because your the only person that can!. but its not your fault!. and im sorry but no matter how many people tell you that its not you will still wounder!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It sounds like you were raped!. I am so so sorry that this happened to you!. It was sooo not your fault!. You have to agree to have sex with him!. Also the fact that you were prob!. unconscious, makes it worse! Let the police or someone know about this!. Again I am so so so sorry that you went through this!. I guess in one way that it is good that you don't remember anything!. =] Best of luck and best wishes!. =]Www@Answer-Health@Com

It sounds like it to me!. If you were that intoxicated, you obviously weren't able to make your own decisions!. You also told him to get off, which means you didn't want to do it but he kept on!.
It is also possible that you blacked out, if you thought it was only for 5 minutes!.

It's also really not your fault, he took advantage of you in that state!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes!. In my honest opinion it looks like u may have been raped!. You were absolutely taken advantage of because you were drunk, u didn't know what you were doing, and he did!. Sex against your own will is rape!. You also did tell him to get off and he didn't, so that's even worse!. You also might want to get checked out by a doctor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

That is a tough one!. I mean the guy probably took advantage because you were so drunk!. I would think your friends would have watched out for you better unless they were just as drunk!. Sounds like there were witnesses (your friends) and if you were to accuse him of rape, I think you would have a very very hard time proving it!. Sorry!. Alcohal ,makes us do dumb things sometimesWww@Answer-Health@Com

yes!. it's rape if you did not know what was going on, even if you did not say no!. as long as you didn't say "yes"!. And also, you CANNOT consent to have sex when you are drunk!. So if you were drunk, it was rape, even if you were running around BEGGING him to have sex with you!. hope this helps and I'm sorry this happened to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You were drunk and you were taken advantage of!. Dont let anyone else tell you other wise!. Just because you werent screaming at the top of you lungs for him to get off doesnt mean you wanted it!. You were to impaired to make any decisions!. In my personal opinon yes it is rape!. Im sorry and wish you the best of luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

It certainly sounds like rape!. If it was against your wishes then it was

It wasnt your fault and you are not to blame

You prolly need to talk to someone about this!. A parent, counsellor!. Report itWww@Answer-Health@Com

first of all!.!.!. u need to contact the authorities!. second of all!.!.!. it's not ur fault and thirdly!.!.!. remeber he could have given you a rape drug!.!. which makes u groggy!.!.!. get help!.!.!. and ur friends don't seem like the type that care all that much!.!.!. but i don't knowWww@Answer-Health@Com

i think it is rape if e wouldnt let your friends com and take you out of there or maybe you did want to but just to drunk to rememberWww@Answer-Health@Com

it's a rape as he did it when you were drunk period!. Both of you are at faultWww@Answer-Health@Com

I would say he took advantage of the situation!. Was he a stranger !? If so, that's probably rape!.

You told him to get off of you, that seems like it would also be rape!.

In court it would be hard to prove since it happened in your house and you appeared to have willingly gone into the bedroom "somehow ended up there !?!?!?"

I hope you have learned a lesson!. Girls have to have the upper hand when it comes to guys!. That doesn't excuse the predatory nature of the guy that took advantage though,Www@Answer-Health@Com

If your friends were there and said it wasn't then it wasn't!. They have no reason to lie!. If the guy locked the door (for privacy so he could keep doing it with you maybe!?) and your friends didnt stop him for 30-40 minutes you being in room with him, well that's a clue that it didn't happen!. It's consentual sex to me!.

You're in good company with women before you that made bad moves when they were drunk!. Some guys actually count on it and prey on women like that!. Best thing is tell your friends next time watch your back when you drink, and try to limit the drinking!. I've had to "card" a guy that my friend wanted to go home with before!. I told the man I'd hold his driver's license and then maybe he could take my friend home!. He didnt want to give it up!. We argued for a bit and then I made him scoot and took my friend home!. She thanked me the next day!. I've been drunk before done things I regret!. It's so good to have friends watch your back and you watch theirs!. Had to learn hard way sometimes though!. Hope this info helps!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

my opinion is yes!.!.!.you were out of it and asking questions of what he was doing and why he was doing it, obviously you did not know what you were doing!. Besides, keeping you 'friends' out of the room and the door locked, sounds like he tried to keep you against your will (in some sort)!. If you ask me, sounds like your 'friends' are not much help for they didn't stop or try every method to get their 'drunk friend' out of the room!. So it's not your fault but I would talk to someone and get check for STDs or pregnancy!. Just be careful next time if you decide to have another party!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You don't even need to say no for it to be rape!. If he knew you were out of if enough not to be able to make a good decision, it's rape!. Don't listen to your idiot friends!. Do what you feel is right, and you were taken advantage of!. File the charges!. It is not your fault!.!.!. of course not!. Never!. He knew what he was doing and he knew he shouldn't have, but he did anyways!.

It is rape and it should be prosecuted!. Only about 4% of rapes are reported!.!.!. and we wonder why it runs so rampant!. Be the change and stand up for what you believe in!. Your friends are ignorant!.!.!. do what you believe!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It was rape becuase you never gave consent!. You were too drunk to give consent, and he wasn't that drunk!.!.!.so he should have thought to himself,"wow, this girl is really drunk and she hardly knows what she is doing so I should just leave her alone or help her get home safe!." But instead he thought, "this girl is so drunk, I can have sex with her and she can't do anything about it!. I can take advantage of her!." Now that's rape!. And you asked him to get off and he didn't!.!.!.again more proof that it is rape!. My boyfriend would get off of me if I asked him to!.!.!.!.!.and not have sex with me against my will!.

I'm sorry this happened to you and it is not your fault!. He should have treated you with more respect!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It's a good question!. Because you were under the influence of alcohol, you had impaired reactions, and memory of this incidence!. Maybe you could call a police station and ask them how they view an act like this!. If you don't want to be identified, just say it was someone else/or you don't know all the details!.
In my opinion, it is similar to date rape!.
The thing is not to drink too much alcohol so you can be in control always!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





The consumer health information on answer-health.com is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions.
The answer content post by the user, if contains the copyright content please contact us, we will immediately remove it.
Copyright © 2007-2011 answer-health.com -   Terms of Use -   Contact us

Health Categories