I found my mom's pot pipe.HELP!?!


Question: I found my mom's pot pipe!.HELP!!?
i talked to her about it but she limits me with the information!. like where she got it and who she borrowed the pipe from!. It REALLY bothers me that she smoked it!. She's not an addict but i HATE it! I want to rat her out but i know i couldn't live with her in jail!. I took the pipe and hid it!. I will NEVER do drugs! NEVER! so i don't want her to! Don't tell me i should leave her alone about it! When ever the subject comes up i start crying and yelling at her!. I usually tell her "I hate you!" then she says "I hate you too!."(casually so i know she not telling the truth) then i say "Your lying but i mean it!" I feel like i can't trust her anymore!. I HATE it! I just want a normal mom!. Please help me!Www@Answer-Health@Com


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You are obviously a young person!. First of all, you should calm down and differentiate more carefully between your emotions!. You obviously don't hate your mom, just the fact that she might be smoking pot!. Calm down!. How do you expect her to listen to you clearly and talk to you if you are screaming and telling her you hate her!?

If it helps, instead of talking to her, write a calm letter to her explaining why you have to write a letter instead, detailing why it is distressing you that you have found the pot pipe, and why it is important for her to explain to you about it!. Avoid phrases you don't mean, like "i hate you" or angry and hurtful words!. They don't help and just create more confusion and pain!.

If your mom feels like she can have a mature, calm conversation with you, she is more likely to talk to you and explain it to help you cope with your feelings!.

Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

for one marijuana isn't addictive and two you CAN"T overdose from THC so you all are completely misguided!. Just let your mom know that while you are living in the house you don't appreciate her doing it!. Try to get her to commit to a healthy relationship that doesn't involve substances!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

when u 2 start yelling @ each other, ask why!. why is she doing it !? why is she doing this 2 u !? she might say something like it doesnt concern u, but tell her that it does because shes ur mom and anything that is hurting n killing her by doing drugs is ur concern because it affects ur life 2Www@Answer-Health@Com

Turn her in!.

I know it might hurt, but it's the right thing to do!.

Would you rather have her alive in jai, or under the ground cuz she over-dosed or was high and jumped off a building!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Talk to her and tell her you hid it until she stops for a while, but never give it back to her!. Just ignore her, she will knowwhy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

my mo mdid pot too!. she wanst an addict and it was a long time ago!. just ask, but how old are you, if your just early teens she may not think your serious!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You can't be a pot addict!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

A lot of teenagers would kill for a mom like yours!. xDWww@Answer-Health@Com

i know who u are now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You shouldn't hide it!. You should get rid of it!. She doesn't need it and you don't either!.

She also won't necessarily go to jail if you rat her out!. She could go into a treatment program like an AA program!. It could be an outpatient program where she still lives at home with you!.

It's really important for you to talk to somebody else about this like another adult family member or a guidance counselor!. She probably isn't taking it seriously how you feel b/c you're young!. So, talk to somebody and decide how to handle it together!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

WOW, most of you people have not smoked before and have no idea about weed!. Some of these responses are funny!. She will not stop for you since she has been doing it for a long time!. A pipe is like 20-40 dollars, she already has a new one!.

You are right not to do drugs but weed is truly not something to disown your mom about!. You can let her know you are disappointed in her but yelling and saying you hate her will do nothing for the situation!.


GOOD IDEA:

Look her straight in the eye and say "I am very disappointed in you" then hand her back her pipe, start to cry, and walk to your bedroom and lock the door for at least the rest of the night!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

The laws are going to hurt your mom more than the pot!. She won't get sick, addicted, brain damaged or become insane or anything else, all of that is myth and just bad information!. Smoking pot is safer than drinking AND smoking in terms of the damage it could cause to her body!.

It is good that you love her so much that you worry about her like this!. Ask her if you two can talk about this with a counselor!. The counselor will help you two to talk to each other without saying such mean things!. You'll understand each other better that way!. Maybe if she really hears what you think and feel she will give this up!.

Your school counselor can help you find a good counselor to help you and your mom talk!. You'll only need to go once or twice!.

Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

oh my god! maybe you can call rehab for your mom!? i am so sorry this happend to you!? if ur dad around, let him know!? maybe he will take care of her!? or tell your mom that u are going leavin for few days and maybe if she was like no! u can explain, wow ur mom sound like really mean! she should not said " i hate u too" u tell her that I want a normal MOM!!.!.!. she prob will felt hurt and will change!?!.!.!.or call to steve show!.!.call that tv show!.!.he is really good help at it!.!.!.!.!.good luck!!.!.!.!.!.or tell ur familys to get her help or call a cop to make her stop!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You seem young, and I'm also presuming there is no father in the picture [I know my daddy would step in or stop my mom if she ever tried to do pot; I also have friends who talked to the other parent when a problem like this aroused--even if the parents were divorced or seperated] which really doesn't leave you very many good role models!. Kids look up to their parents, and what they see when they're "kids" affect what they do or do not become, when they are older!. Do you have an aunt, grandmother, family friend, et cetera who could step in and help you!? You seem worried about your mum--and with good reason!. It takes only once for the body to become addicted to something, and unlike this one-time rendezvous, addiction is a lifelong struggle!. It seems confronting your mother didn't help the situation, so I would suggest this:
*Talk to family friend--somebody who has doors that will always be open to you, and is willing to take you in for a short (or long) time period--about the pot pipe, and schedule an intervention with other loved ones!.
*In this situation I personally, would choose to give my mother an ultimatum: after she checks into or goes to some sort of rehab center or addict support group, you can live with her again; while she is recovering, you will not be with her (forcing your mother to choose the pot or YOU, though I'll admit you may not be pleased with the verdict ]= )
*Move in with the family member, or family friend and either talk to school counselors or a therapist!. If you don't have health insurance, school counselors or teen helplines are FREE!.
*Research about addiction and how to help a loved one who's dealing with it!. I'd also recommend reading "A Million Little Pieces" by James Frey--parts are fabricated but it's pretty much the truth about addiction!.
*Help your mom and be there for her-- you may want a normal mum, but none are! You have to love her for her flaws and embrace them! (Hehe, and watch True Life: My Embarrassing Parents, because you are def!. NOT alone!)
Good-luck with your mum, and I hope that all goes well!.!.!.You are def!. not alone in any of this, and there are support groups for the kids of addicts!. Remember that being the child of an addict gives you an increased risk of being an addict yourself--so no matter how much self control you have or think you have, the "I'm not them I can do this just once and not have a problem!.!.!." mentality won't work!. Pot, alcohol and other drugs tear the strongest families apart all the time, although it's good to know you care about your mom enough to be there to pick up the pieces!. =]

P!.S:
Try getting involved with a Brothers/Sisters type thing!. You can be the little sib or act as the older sib to someone!. It will help mold you to both be a good role model, and have one you can look up too!.=]Www@Answer-Health@Com





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