How can I prepare for sex?!
Question: How can I prepare for sex!?
I'm 23 and have never done it before but would like to with my bf by the end of the year (hopefully not sooner, but sometimes I wonder if I can control myself)!. I have "experimented" with myself to the point of orgasm and have also gotten up to 2 fingers inside!.
Pain part aside, I am paranoid and have been planning ways to protect myself from pregnancy!. I am planning on going on the pull about 2 months before, using a condom w/spermicide, having him pull out, and picking the least likely fertile times according to my cycle!.
I also started Gardasil this month, so I won't finish the 3 rounds until the end of the year anyway!.
What else can I do to prepare!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Pain part aside, I am paranoid and have been planning ways to protect myself from pregnancy!. I am planning on going on the pull about 2 months before, using a condom w/spermicide, having him pull out, and picking the least likely fertile times according to my cycle!.
I also started Gardasil this month, so I won't finish the 3 rounds until the end of the year anyway!.
What else can I do to prepare!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I disagree with kajjo in some respects!.
1) No method is 100% effective at preventing pregnancy except for abstinence and menopause!. If you use birth control perfectly, it's a bit more than 99% effective, leaving a less than 1% chance!. Granted, that is an extremely remote possibility, but it's STILL A CHANCE!. And that's with PERFECT use of birth control!. If you want to cover all the bases thoroughly then by all means use a condom!. It doesn't harm anyone, and it'll probably help in the sense that it will make you feel that much more at ease!. And yes, condoms do prevent STD's, so there's another reason to use them!.
2) The pull-out method is rumored to be more effective than it actually is!. Sadly, a lot of girls think that if he pulls out, they're safe!. Not true!. Before a guy actually comes, there's pre-ejaculate, which contains sperm and is too small to notice when it's happening!. Even if he pulls out when he actually comes, the pre-ejaculate would still be inside you and that leads to risk of pregnancy!. Now, since you will be on birth control, it's extremely unlikely you would get pregnant from pre-ejaculate, but you did want to cover all the bases!. If he's wearing a condom, then you have nothing to worry about!. The pre-ejaculate stays in the condom!. Simply put, having him pull out would do absolutely nothing to further prevent pregnancy if he's already wearing a condom!. If he's wearing a condom your chances are exactly the same whether he comes while still inside you or if he pulls out before hand!. The ONLY way this statistic could possibly change is if the condom slips off inside you, or slips off outside you and he enters you again or if the condom breaks!. And if either one of those happen pulling out still would do very very little as you either have pre-ejaculate in you or actual ejaculate (either from the condom slipping off inside you or his re-entering you after the condom has slipped off outside)!. If he's ever used a condom before he should know what fits and that condoms have expiration dates, obviously you shouldn't use an expired one!. So the chances of the condom slipping off or breaking should be extremely slim!.
I understand you're just wanting to be totally prepared!. So you could make him still pull out, but honestly, the pull-out method wouldn't be any more protective!. If the condom does break/slip off and he pulls out, you'd still have pre-ejaculate inside, so either way, you'd be relying on your birth control!.
At the same time, and I know this is all sounding complicated, if you think you'll feel best by having him pull out, then do it!. Statistically it won't make a difference, but if it reassures you then there isn't any harm (unless he can't get off once he pulls out, or is too worried about pulling out to get off in the first place)!.
3) Agree with kajjo here!. The pill stops ovulation!. The cycle you're thinking about with your most fertile days is in regards to your fertile days being the days you ovulate!. When you're on the pill, you don't ovulate!. And if you think there's a chance that because you have been only on it for 2 months you still might ovulate, nope!. Not true!. The pill starts working the first time you take it, and is fully effective after the first WEEK!. (That's why the directions say to use an additional back-up method that first week, because the hormones are still kicking in)!. After that first week, there's no chance of you ovulating UNLESS YOU SKIP PILLS!. If you don't take the pills as directed, then there is a chance!. BUT, you probably wouldn't be able to calculate your fertile days from a calendar because your ovulation would then depend on the days that you missed the pills rather than the 28-day ovulation calendar!. So don't miss pills, if you do miss one, follow the directions about what to do (the directions will tell you how many pills to take the next day)!. Attempting to track your fertile days will not work the moment you start taking the pills!. Try calculating it all you want, but it won't have any meaning because your body is now scheduled around the pills, not its natural cycle!.
4) Perhaps you are paranoid, but there is nothing wrong with that!. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be prepared for the first time you have sex!. Obviously, more women need to be paranoid, or we wouldn't have so many unplanned/unwanted pregnancies! I wish there were more women who take so many steps to ensure they are prepared!. I hope thinking about it doesn't keep you up at night--that perhaps is the only way you could be too paranoid -- but otherwise, it's awesome that you want to do all you can to make sure your first time is a fun yet as-safe-as-it-can-be experience!. And if preparing now helps you to relax then, that's yet another reason to do it, because relaxing then will make it that much more enjoyable!.
And yes, by all means please wait if you are doing this for any other reason except "I want to do this"!. If you're feeling pressured, or like you're too old to be a virgin (so not true) or afraid he'll leave you if you don't have sex, then wait!. You're worth waiting for and if the guy doesn't get that, than clearly he doesn't deserve you!.
5) Agree with everything kajjo says here!. Have fun!. Don't push yourself if you're not ready, but exploring your body and your guy's body with your boyfriend is something that should be exciting and will make you more comfortable with him!. Once again, if he's pressuring you or you're pressuring yourself, then don't do it!. But all in all it sounds like you've thought things through which is awesome!. So do what you need to do to be comfortable and protected so that when the time comes you know you've got everything covered and can relax and have fun!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1) No method is 100% effective at preventing pregnancy except for abstinence and menopause!. If you use birth control perfectly, it's a bit more than 99% effective, leaving a less than 1% chance!. Granted, that is an extremely remote possibility, but it's STILL A CHANCE!. And that's with PERFECT use of birth control!. If you want to cover all the bases thoroughly then by all means use a condom!. It doesn't harm anyone, and it'll probably help in the sense that it will make you feel that much more at ease!. And yes, condoms do prevent STD's, so there's another reason to use them!.
2) The pull-out method is rumored to be more effective than it actually is!. Sadly, a lot of girls think that if he pulls out, they're safe!. Not true!. Before a guy actually comes, there's pre-ejaculate, which contains sperm and is too small to notice when it's happening!. Even if he pulls out when he actually comes, the pre-ejaculate would still be inside you and that leads to risk of pregnancy!. Now, since you will be on birth control, it's extremely unlikely you would get pregnant from pre-ejaculate, but you did want to cover all the bases!. If he's wearing a condom, then you have nothing to worry about!. The pre-ejaculate stays in the condom!. Simply put, having him pull out would do absolutely nothing to further prevent pregnancy if he's already wearing a condom!. If he's wearing a condom your chances are exactly the same whether he comes while still inside you or if he pulls out before hand!. The ONLY way this statistic could possibly change is if the condom slips off inside you, or slips off outside you and he enters you again or if the condom breaks!. And if either one of those happen pulling out still would do very very little as you either have pre-ejaculate in you or actual ejaculate (either from the condom slipping off inside you or his re-entering you after the condom has slipped off outside)!. If he's ever used a condom before he should know what fits and that condoms have expiration dates, obviously you shouldn't use an expired one!. So the chances of the condom slipping off or breaking should be extremely slim!.
I understand you're just wanting to be totally prepared!. So you could make him still pull out, but honestly, the pull-out method wouldn't be any more protective!. If the condom does break/slip off and he pulls out, you'd still have pre-ejaculate inside, so either way, you'd be relying on your birth control!.
At the same time, and I know this is all sounding complicated, if you think you'll feel best by having him pull out, then do it!. Statistically it won't make a difference, but if it reassures you then there isn't any harm (unless he can't get off once he pulls out, or is too worried about pulling out to get off in the first place)!.
3) Agree with kajjo here!. The pill stops ovulation!. The cycle you're thinking about with your most fertile days is in regards to your fertile days being the days you ovulate!. When you're on the pill, you don't ovulate!. And if you think there's a chance that because you have been only on it for 2 months you still might ovulate, nope!. Not true!. The pill starts working the first time you take it, and is fully effective after the first WEEK!. (That's why the directions say to use an additional back-up method that first week, because the hormones are still kicking in)!. After that first week, there's no chance of you ovulating UNLESS YOU SKIP PILLS!. If you don't take the pills as directed, then there is a chance!. BUT, you probably wouldn't be able to calculate your fertile days from a calendar because your ovulation would then depend on the days that you missed the pills rather than the 28-day ovulation calendar!. So don't miss pills, if you do miss one, follow the directions about what to do (the directions will tell you how many pills to take the next day)!. Attempting to track your fertile days will not work the moment you start taking the pills!. Try calculating it all you want, but it won't have any meaning because your body is now scheduled around the pills, not its natural cycle!.
4) Perhaps you are paranoid, but there is nothing wrong with that!. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be prepared for the first time you have sex!. Obviously, more women need to be paranoid, or we wouldn't have so many unplanned/unwanted pregnancies! I wish there were more women who take so many steps to ensure they are prepared!. I hope thinking about it doesn't keep you up at night--that perhaps is the only way you could be too paranoid -- but otherwise, it's awesome that you want to do all you can to make sure your first time is a fun yet as-safe-as-it-can-be experience!. And if preparing now helps you to relax then, that's yet another reason to do it, because relaxing then will make it that much more enjoyable!.
And yes, by all means please wait if you are doing this for any other reason except "I want to do this"!. If you're feeling pressured, or like you're too old to be a virgin (so not true) or afraid he'll leave you if you don't have sex, then wait!. You're worth waiting for and if the guy doesn't get that, than clearly he doesn't deserve you!.
5) Agree with everything kajjo says here!. Have fun!. Don't push yourself if you're not ready, but exploring your body and your guy's body with your boyfriend is something that should be exciting and will make you more comfortable with him!. Once again, if he's pressuring you or you're pressuring yourself, then don't do it!. But all in all it sounds like you've thought things through which is awesome!. So do what you need to do to be comfortable and protected so that when the time comes you know you've got everything covered and can relax and have fun!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Im happy to hear that you want to prepare!.!.!.!.Alot of people dont and they end up with kids or some diseases (sp)!. It sounds to me like you got all the bases covered!. Just have fun and enjoy it, if anything else there is always Plan B!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
that sounds like a pretty good way to prepare yourself!. you could get a woman condom, whatever those things are called, but other than that it looks like you've got it covered!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1) If you take birth control pills, then there is no need to use condoms for contraception!. However, using condoms to avoid sexually transmitted diseases is reasonable!.
2) "Having him pull out" -- Please forget about this!. Either have sex or not!. There is no sense at all in letting him penetrate you and pulling out before orgasm!. You both should enjoy sexual intercourse!. If you feel like sex being a duty, then skip it totally until you are ready!. There is nothing more unfulfilling and unsatisfying for you both if you stop sex!. Anyway, coitus interruptus does not significantly contribute to contraception!
3) If you are on a birth control pill, then each day is equally safe if you take the pill according to prescription!. Please learn that you have no natural cycle when on the pill! Read about it! The bleeding is just due to hormone withdrawal, not because of any cycle when taking the pill! Thus, it is not sensible to select any special day of the "cycle"!.
4) Honestly, you are really a little bit paranoid!. Please relax and decide whether you want to have sex or not!. It is part of having sex to feel love for the man, to enjoy the intercourse, to have an orgasm and to let your boyfriend have an orgasm!. If you do not positively anticipate sexual intercourse, then please wait!.
5) Best preparation to have sexual intercourse is to have non-penetrative sex with your boyfriend!. Try to be close, to mutually discover your bodies!. Grip and caress his penis, maybe kiss and lick it, bring him to orgasm!. Watch him ejaculating and get used to his body!. Let him caress you and masturbate you, let him bring you to orgasm!. Such playing can be very stimulating and satisfying and will prepare you perfectly for the real thing!. Get comfortable with your boyfriend, loose any shame or self-consciousness!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
2) "Having him pull out" -- Please forget about this!. Either have sex or not!. There is no sense at all in letting him penetrate you and pulling out before orgasm!. You both should enjoy sexual intercourse!. If you feel like sex being a duty, then skip it totally until you are ready!. There is nothing more unfulfilling and unsatisfying for you both if you stop sex!. Anyway, coitus interruptus does not significantly contribute to contraception!
3) If you are on a birth control pill, then each day is equally safe if you take the pill according to prescription!. Please learn that you have no natural cycle when on the pill! Read about it! The bleeding is just due to hormone withdrawal, not because of any cycle when taking the pill! Thus, it is not sensible to select any special day of the "cycle"!.
4) Honestly, you are really a little bit paranoid!. Please relax and decide whether you want to have sex or not!. It is part of having sex to feel love for the man, to enjoy the intercourse, to have an orgasm and to let your boyfriend have an orgasm!. If you do not positively anticipate sexual intercourse, then please wait!.
5) Best preparation to have sexual intercourse is to have non-penetrative sex with your boyfriend!. Try to be close, to mutually discover your bodies!. Grip and caress his penis, maybe kiss and lick it, bring him to orgasm!. Watch him ejaculating and get used to his body!. Let him caress you and masturbate you, let him bring you to orgasm!. Such playing can be very stimulating and satisfying and will prepare you perfectly for the real thing!. Get comfortable with your boyfriend, loose any shame or self-consciousness!.Www@Answer-Health@Com