Abstenance (virgin til married)?!
Question: Abstenance (virgin til married)!?
OK!.!.!.!. im a virgin and plan to be until marrige cuz of religion, safety, security, and privacy! but where do u stand on the topic!?!? wondering cuz its really important to me! Be nice plz and mature THNX! :))) ( do think its good to wait, or not and Y)Www@Answer-Health@Com
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i grew up in a strong christian environment (church every sun!. and wed!., christian school, involved in church etc!.) and i never thought twice on the subject!. i KNEW i was going to stay abstinent til i was married!.
however, i went to a public school for a couple years, and my whole life changed!. its like another world had opened up!. my style and tastes changed!. i went from modest preppy to flashy hip hop clothes!. from christian music to hip hop/ rap!. all of my views had been "twisted" as my parents put it!. i ended up losing my virginity at 18, and im still not sure if i regret it!.
i got a bad rep at the christian school that my parents switched me back to (in the middle of my senior year btw)!. and i now applaud people like you!. i thought i was so cool for being the only person who lost their virginity!.!.!. but what people were saying behind my back was unbearable!. truth is, they could be like me in 10 seconds!.!.!. but i can never go back and change what i did!.
honestly now i dont think twice about sex before marriage!. i dont see a big deal with it!.!.!.!. i just think its so wierd how a persons views can completely change, just by the environments they are put in!. some people (who are weak like me, ill admit) arent strong enough to stand up for what is right, they would rather do whats popular!. what is this world coming to!.
sorry if i didnt make any sense, you just got so many thoughts rushing through my mind all the sudden!.
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i agree with your statement!. i wish i could start a campaign to show teenagers the dangers of sex before marraige!. its not just a physical thing!. its mental too, whenever you have sex (whether youre in "love" with the person or not), it just puts you in a state of confusion!. honestly im glad that i didnt wait!. now, i plan to make the teenagers in my community more aware of the dangers of sex before marriage!. this isnt a big deal!.!.!. it's a HUGE deal, despit what people say!. if i had gone on waiting until marriage i wouldnt have opened my eyes (so to speak) and realized how much my community needs a wake up call!.
i plan to go back to my public high school (which was pretty big with 3,500 ppl), and the surrounding schools to discuss this issue with students!. i know that most of them will blow me off and roll their eyes, but i have to try!. if i can prevent just one student from being a "statistic" then ill be happy!. my goal is to prevent unnecessary pregnancies!. i need, we ALL need, to show the world that this isnt an issue to just blow off!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
however, i went to a public school for a couple years, and my whole life changed!. its like another world had opened up!. my style and tastes changed!. i went from modest preppy to flashy hip hop clothes!. from christian music to hip hop/ rap!. all of my views had been "twisted" as my parents put it!. i ended up losing my virginity at 18, and im still not sure if i regret it!.
i got a bad rep at the christian school that my parents switched me back to (in the middle of my senior year btw)!. and i now applaud people like you!. i thought i was so cool for being the only person who lost their virginity!.!.!. but what people were saying behind my back was unbearable!. truth is, they could be like me in 10 seconds!.!.!. but i can never go back and change what i did!.
honestly now i dont think twice about sex before marriage!. i dont see a big deal with it!.!.!.!. i just think its so wierd how a persons views can completely change, just by the environments they are put in!. some people (who are weak like me, ill admit) arent strong enough to stand up for what is right, they would rather do whats popular!. what is this world coming to!.
sorry if i didnt make any sense, you just got so many thoughts rushing through my mind all the sudden!.
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i agree with your statement!. i wish i could start a campaign to show teenagers the dangers of sex before marraige!. its not just a physical thing!. its mental too, whenever you have sex (whether youre in "love" with the person or not), it just puts you in a state of confusion!. honestly im glad that i didnt wait!. now, i plan to make the teenagers in my community more aware of the dangers of sex before marriage!. this isnt a big deal!.!.!. it's a HUGE deal, despit what people say!. if i had gone on waiting until marriage i wouldnt have opened my eyes (so to speak) and realized how much my community needs a wake up call!.
i plan to go back to my public high school (which was pretty big with 3,500 ppl), and the surrounding schools to discuss this issue with students!. i know that most of them will blow me off and roll their eyes, but i have to try!. if i can prevent just one student from being a "statistic" then ill be happy!. my goal is to prevent unnecessary pregnancies!. i need, we ALL need, to show the world that this isnt an issue to just blow off!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think it is best to wait until marriage!. I think that you are a rare find!. I wish you good luck!. The only thing for me is that it feels like religion only really cares if the women wait and not the men and that's not ok with me!.
For me (I'm 17 so take this with a grain of salt because I'm not wise age wise since I'm pretty young) I am planning on waiting until marriage but if I feel I am ready before that and with someone I love and trust I will have sex with him!. So long as he gets tested first and the relationship is a mature one!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
For me (I'm 17 so take this with a grain of salt because I'm not wise age wise since I'm pretty young) I am planning on waiting until marriage but if I feel I am ready before that and with someone I love and trust I will have sex with him!. So long as he gets tested first and the relationship is a mature one!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Good for you!!! Speaking from experience!.!.and asking this you'll probably get a lot of people who say you're retarded or whatever, but if you truly believe in your reasonings then let me encourage you to stay strong! So often the virgin is portrayed in society as the geek or nerd who is because basically no one will do them, but if one chooses to be a virgin by choice, it is a wise decision which includes no unwanted pregnancies, stds, or sense of self given to just someone!. My husband and I both waited until marriage to take part in this, and it was totally worth waiting to share that experience ONLY with him and no one else, and also to wait until marriage to be with one another!.!.!.though I will admit it was definately hard to wait at the end cause I got a sexy man, but it was way worth it, so if it's important to you, go for it!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Whatever works for you and makes you feel good about yourself is right!.
Whilst I am not advocating that everyone should have sex before marriage, perhaps it is worth considering the possible consequences of waiting until marriage and then discovering that for whatever reason, you and your partner are sexually incompatible!. This does happen, and it can have disastrous consequences for the marriage!.
Whilst I also not suggesting that sex is the most important thing in a marriage, it is an extremely important one which can make, and/or break, a relationship!. Consider what a huge shame it would be to marry the partner of your dreams only to then discover that your intimate relationship with them is a bust!.
I know young women who feel as you do and I've actually had this discussion with them!. Quite a few of them had simply never considered this and were quite disturbed when I raised it with them!.
Perhaps a compromise here might be that once you are in a fully committed, long-term relationship that is obviously heading toward marriage, you could consider losing your virginity a little earlier than originally planned!.
I hate to be crass here and say it's better to "try before you buy", but I will do so in the hope that you will accept it in the spirit in which I'm saying it!. There is absolutely nothing better in the world than a fulfilling intimate relationship with your life partner and a marriage without this can become a very dry and disappointing thing!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Whilst I am not advocating that everyone should have sex before marriage, perhaps it is worth considering the possible consequences of waiting until marriage and then discovering that for whatever reason, you and your partner are sexually incompatible!. This does happen, and it can have disastrous consequences for the marriage!.
Whilst I also not suggesting that sex is the most important thing in a marriage, it is an extremely important one which can make, and/or break, a relationship!. Consider what a huge shame it would be to marry the partner of your dreams only to then discover that your intimate relationship with them is a bust!.
I know young women who feel as you do and I've actually had this discussion with them!. Quite a few of them had simply never considered this and were quite disturbed when I raised it with them!.
Perhaps a compromise here might be that once you are in a fully committed, long-term relationship that is obviously heading toward marriage, you could consider losing your virginity a little earlier than originally planned!.
I hate to be crass here and say it's better to "try before you buy", but I will do so in the hope that you will accept it in the spirit in which I'm saying it!. There is absolutely nothing better in the world than a fulfilling intimate relationship with your life partner and a marriage without this can become a very dry and disappointing thing!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I waited until I had graduated high school and had turned 18 years of age!. This was a promise I made to myself not for any religious reason but something I wanted to do to avoid possible complications such as pregnancy, etc!. It is my opinion that it is unwise not to know your prospective spouse in this intimate way, as long as you both respect and love each other and the trust is there!. I've had a couple friends who waited till the wedding night and they said it was a disaster that night, and caused problems later in the marriage!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think its good to wait just because you are making sure that it is to someone that you really love!. i think that you are brave because you are planning to resist all the temptaions!. im sixteen a virgin personaly am not chosing to stay a virgin till married but i am planning to make sure it is someone that i truly care for!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
So many teenagers have sex its unbelievable!. You would think that the movies exaggerate that, but they honestly dont!. it may be even worse!. at my high school, pretty much everyone has sex!.!.!. Every preppy kid for sure, they talk about how they have sex with each other!.!. its sick! makes me soo mad! (sex with friends!?) just because you guys are all attractive doesnt mean you can just have sex with each other!. com'on!.!.!.!. ohh--- back to your question!.
Anyway, lots of teenagers believe that sex is an important part of High school and is something they should experience!. when they Shouldnt! Teenagers are the horniest people in the world!
but, anyway!.!.!.!. i applaud you for sticking to your beliefs and not falling into temptation!. its takes a lot of strength and self control to not have sex!. good job!
Pro: no STDs!. no Pregnancy!. no being called a whore!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Anyway, lots of teenagers believe that sex is an important part of High school and is something they should experience!. when they Shouldnt! Teenagers are the horniest people in the world!
but, anyway!.!.!.!. i applaud you for sticking to your beliefs and not falling into temptation!. its takes a lot of strength and self control to not have sex!. good job!
Pro: no STDs!. no Pregnancy!. no being called a whore!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
okay; I'm 18
&& I think sex is part of growing up!.
The whole sex before marrigae thing is bogus to me; since it is very highly unlikely that your first is your forever only!.
I lost my virginity when I was 16 && I'm still dating my boyfriend I lost it to!. We have been together for 5years (since I was 13) && I see nothing wrong with him && I having sex since we are in love && most likely I will be with him forever!.
but no; it is NOT wrong!.
&& I read in Coso!. that anal sex && oral sex are much more
common in virgins than in people who have sex!.
not trying to be rude lol; but it is a fact =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
&& I think sex is part of growing up!.
The whole sex before marrigae thing is bogus to me; since it is very highly unlikely that your first is your forever only!.
I lost my virginity when I was 16 && I'm still dating my boyfriend I lost it to!. We have been together for 5years (since I was 13) && I see nothing wrong with him && I having sex since we are in love && most likely I will be with him forever!.
but no; it is NOT wrong!.
&& I read in Coso!. that anal sex && oral sex are much more
common in virgins than in people who have sex!.
not trying to be rude lol; but it is a fact =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am a full hearted believe in waiting till marriage in order to have sex!. Besides for the obvious factor of safety, it makes the first time with your life partner that much more of a bonding experience!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think that I would rather know how my partner is in bed before marrying him- because sex is important
also, I don't want to regret not being with anyone else and being curious for the rest of my lifeWww@Answer-Health@Com
also, I don't want to regret not being with anyone else and being curious for the rest of my lifeWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think it is an outstanding person who remains a virgin for marriage and for those very good same reasons!. I pray for you and your decision to save yourself for the outstanding man that marries you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think it is the mature thing to do!.It will make your marriage stronger !.God Says wait till marriage so you would be keeping Gods commandment!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I was not a virgin when I got married and I do regret giving it to someone else but I was glad to know what I was doingWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think your doing a really good thing because most women don't have the character to do what your doing!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Same here!! I think its awesome because it keeps you pure for your true love, and you will be true to your religion!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You probably won't keep a boyfriend around too long when he has to get it somewhere else!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i don't think you should be ashamed!.!.!. i think you should be proud of yourself for respecting your body and not just losing it with someone you might regret it from!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yesh!. abstinence is being a virgin until married!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
virginity is it's own punishment!
Yet I respect your right to do as you see fit!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yet I respect your right to do as you see fit!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well, I'm a guy, and here's what I think:
I think you are absolutely, totally, 100% right! Never change!. It is very good to wait until after you're married!.
One reason for this is /because/ some guys might drop you for wanting to be a virgin until marriage!. You don't what that kind of guy do you!? If he wants you for sex, then he's not going to be a good husband or whatever!. Lots of people have said stuff about trying so that you know he's good or whatever, but that's /not/ what love or marriage is about!. Love is wanting the very best for the other person!. It isn't about emotions, feelings, or sex!.
Don't lower your standards!. Be different!. Be special, and preserve yourself for your husband!. It makes you more beautiful!. Don't go with guys who want sex from you!. Go with guys who truly care about you!. !.!.!.And don't depend too much on your emotions; --they can often be deceiving!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you are absolutely, totally, 100% right! Never change!. It is very good to wait until after you're married!.
One reason for this is /because/ some guys might drop you for wanting to be a virgin until marriage!. You don't what that kind of guy do you!? If he wants you for sex, then he's not going to be a good husband or whatever!. Lots of people have said stuff about trying so that you know he's good or whatever, but that's /not/ what love or marriage is about!. Love is wanting the very best for the other person!. It isn't about emotions, feelings, or sex!.
Don't lower your standards!. Be different!. Be special, and preserve yourself for your husband!. It makes you more beautiful!. Don't go with guys who want sex from you!. Go with guys who truly care about you!. !.!.!.And don't depend too much on your emotions; --they can often be deceiving!.Www@Answer-Health@Com