A woman's personal preferrence used to insult me... did I over react?!
Question: A woman's personal preferrence used to insult me!.!.!. did I over react!?
I had a baby last November!. I was still needing pads for a month and a half after giving birth!. You can't use tampons after giving birth because of infection and such!. I was living with my in-laws and I'm sure they saw my pad wrappers in the trash and knew I was using pads instead of tampons!. I didn't think it was a big deal to follow doctor's orders!.
I know I have to consider the source, but, my 15 year old sister in law ran out of tampons!. She asked her mom to take her to the store for more because she stated, "I stopped using pads, I only use tampons now!." Directly in front of me and her brother (gross, eh!?)!. My husband took her to the store for more tampons!. I'd be embarrassed but apparently she was proud to use tampons!.
It offended me because she acted like I wasn't grown up enough to use tampons!. I know for sure she didn't understand that after you have a baby, you can only wear pads for the first few weeks!.
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I know I have to consider the source, but, my 15 year old sister in law ran out of tampons!. She asked her mom to take her to the store for more because she stated, "I stopped using pads, I only use tampons now!." Directly in front of me and her brother (gross, eh!?)!. My husband took her to the store for more tampons!. I'd be embarrassed but apparently she was proud to use tampons!.
It offended me because she acted like I wasn't grown up enough to use tampons!. I know for sure she didn't understand that after you have a baby, you can only wear pads for the first few weeks!.
What do you think!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
She was probably trying to act cool, not realizing you can't use tampons directly after giving birth, and thinking she was grown up for using tampons!.
It was rude of her though, since it's kinda a private thing to discuss!.!.!.and in front of her brother!? Not appropriate!.
I can understand why you would be offended, particularly because you were probably emotional for other reasons too, such as hormones being higher directly after birth, etc!. Most likely you already hated the fact you couldn't use tampons,so for you to be offended by her thoughtlesness is completely understandable!.
Yes, she was only 15 and didn't know that you shouldn't use tampons directly after giving birth, but it was still inconsiderate of her to state that directly in front of you!. I think your reaction was warranted, and if I were you I wouldn't feel guilty about it now!. Someday she'll figure it out and remember what a complete brat she was and feel bad!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
It was rude of her though, since it's kinda a private thing to discuss!.!.!.and in front of her brother!? Not appropriate!.
I can understand why you would be offended, particularly because you were probably emotional for other reasons too, such as hormones being higher directly after birth, etc!. Most likely you already hated the fact you couldn't use tampons,so for you to be offended by her thoughtlesness is completely understandable!.
Yes, she was only 15 and didn't know that you shouldn't use tampons directly after giving birth, but it was still inconsiderate of her to state that directly in front of you!. I think your reaction was warranted, and if I were you I wouldn't feel guilty about it now!. Someday she'll figure it out and remember what a complete brat she was and feel bad!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, I think you're over reacting!. I'm sure the fact that you were using pads wasn't even in your sister in laws head when she came and said she needed tampons!. And it's nothing she should be embarrassed about, every woman has periods, I think it's good that she isn't bothered about it and is happy to talk about it in front of her brother!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Being 15 years old i honestly think that she was taking things way out of proportion!. All she needed to say is "mom i am out of tampons!." Whether not and why you use tampons or pads is your business and not hers to discuss!. I don't think you overacted at all!. And i hope you and your baby are doing well =]]Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't think her comments were about you at all!. She was just thinking about her excitement at not having to use the pads!. At 15, she's not thinking about whether her comment might make you feel awkward!. That's just not where her head is at!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, is she 16 years old!? Obviously shes never had children so she doesnt know this!. Dont worry about it, she is clueless!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think that the over-reaction factor from being post-partum aided in you being offended!.
You're right -- at 15, she probably has NO clue that you cannot have sex or use tampons for the first few weeks following delivery!. Moreover, some women NEVER use tampons (for misguided hygiene, discomfort or personal reasons)!.
That being said however, maybe because it DID bug you, you should sit her down and explain to her that her statements and attitude rather pissed you off and suggest that maybe she think before she speaks in the future!.
Good luck and congrats on the new baby!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You're right -- at 15, she probably has NO clue that you cannot have sex or use tampons for the first few weeks following delivery!. Moreover, some women NEVER use tampons (for misguided hygiene, discomfort or personal reasons)!.
That being said however, maybe because it DID bug you, you should sit her down and explain to her that her statements and attitude rather pissed you off and suggest that maybe she think before she speaks in the future!.
Good luck and congrats on the new baby!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's your body and your health, and you have a very valid reason for using pads!. If the 15-year old was trying to brag about tampons (maybe she wasn't even trying to compare herself to you but just plain bragging), maybe she had a pretty harmless intent in doing so!. If she continues to bug you, you can talk to her calmly about it, she probably doesn't even realize it bugged you, so don't make a big deal out of it!.
Btw, you can get a garbage can of your own if you wish or take out the garbage more often so that your pad wrappers aren't in sight as much!.!.!.!.up to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Btw, you can get a garbage can of your own if you wish or take out the garbage more often so that your pad wrappers aren't in sight as much!.!.!.!.up to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You're wayyyyy too sensitive!. Unless she looked at you and sneered or pointed and said "I'm mature enough to use tampons!. I can't believe you are still using pads!" how in the world is that directed at you!?
I don't think it's gross to discuss feminine hygiene products in front of men!. Where in the heck do they think babies come from!? Now if she was at the dinner table, that'd be one thing!.
Unless she directed it at you and you are sure it was an intentional insult, I think you're very hormonal and that occurs often in the post partum period!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't think it's gross to discuss feminine hygiene products in front of men!. Where in the heck do they think babies come from!? Now if she was at the dinner table, that'd be one thing!.
Unless she directed it at you and you are sure it was an intentional insult, I think you're very hormonal and that occurs often in the post partum period!.Www@Answer-Health@Com