Why Can't I have an orgasm!?!
Question: Why Can't I have an orgasm!!?
I've been sexually active now for a few months, only had 2 partners since I've lost my virginity and I still can't have an orgasm!. I mean don't get me wrong it feels good, and I feel like when I was a virgin I masterbated so much that I messed myself up!. I'm not sure anymore, I really don't want to hurt my man's feelings so I just lie and say I've had one, he used to wait for long periods of time but now I just tell him when you feel like its coming go ahead, he still asks me do I want him to wait, but I just get so frustrated that I just say go ahead and get yours!. I feel so less of myself, I can please him, but he kinda gets sad when i finally told him that although he feels so good, i don't reach orgasm!. Can somebody please help me out!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Two comments that may help you!.!.!.
First, don't dwell on this!. One other answerer said that you were trying "too hard" and that may be true!. My advice is to simply enjoy the intimacy and feel of your relationship and let the orgasms happen as they may!. As long as you're keeping a scorecard (orgasm!? yes!? no!? CHECK), you are taking much of the love and romance out of it!. It's kind of the same thing that happens when couples who are trying very very diligently to have children without success have sex!. It becomes something to do, not something to enjoy!. Relax!.
And second, the comment about penetration does not equal orgasm is so true!. My unscientific research and practice talk tells me that a loving and patient lover, one who is willing to learn and to find a perfect and subtle way to "touch" you will have much greater success bringing you an orgasm!. Try this!.!.!. get your partner to very gently manipulate you with his finger(s)!. Avoid direct penetration, only occasionally edging into and out of your vagina!. Subtle touch is the key!. Also, it's very important that his attitude NOT be "I'm doing this to get it out of the way"!. Also, have him put just a bit of personal lubricant onto his fingers so that his light manipulations do not begin to make you sore or sensitive!. You want him to literally glide!.
Good luck!. :)
John Jones, M!.D!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First, don't dwell on this!. One other answerer said that you were trying "too hard" and that may be true!. My advice is to simply enjoy the intimacy and feel of your relationship and let the orgasms happen as they may!. As long as you're keeping a scorecard (orgasm!? yes!? no!? CHECK), you are taking much of the love and romance out of it!. It's kind of the same thing that happens when couples who are trying very very diligently to have children without success have sex!. It becomes something to do, not something to enjoy!. Relax!.
And second, the comment about penetration does not equal orgasm is so true!. My unscientific research and practice talk tells me that a loving and patient lover, one who is willing to learn and to find a perfect and subtle way to "touch" you will have much greater success bringing you an orgasm!. Try this!.!.!. get your partner to very gently manipulate you with his finger(s)!. Avoid direct penetration, only occasionally edging into and out of your vagina!. Subtle touch is the key!. Also, it's very important that his attitude NOT be "I'm doing this to get it out of the way"!. Also, have him put just a bit of personal lubricant onto his fingers so that his light manipulations do not begin to make you sore or sensitive!. You want him to literally glide!.
Good luck!. :)
John Jones, M!.D!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Many women cannot have an orgasm during sex!. You are normal!. It has nothing to do with how often you masturbate!. Show your partner what feels good-you should know since you have learned thru masturbation!. You may also benefit from reading about the female anatomy and how an orgasm is achieved by a woman!. This may help explain why you have trouble and may or may not help you achieve orgasm thru sex!. Trust me, many women go thru life without ever having an orgasm during sex!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Uhm!. A lot of girls don't orgasm when they are having regular sex!. I have known women who orgasm 10 x better with some kind of vibrating whatever thing than an actual penis :/ I think it just has to do with the speed or something!. Like, a man cannot go nearly as fast as a massager/showerhead/whatever people use now!. But no, I highly doubt you messed yourself up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sweetie, I'm almost 31 and I've never had an orgasm with a guy before!.
A lot of women can't "get off" from intercourse alone and need extra clitoral stimulation!.
Try to relax!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. or close your eyes and fantasize!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. or join in the fun and do yourself while he's doing you!.
Just experiment!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
A lot of women can't "get off" from intercourse alone and need extra clitoral stimulation!.
Try to relax!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. or close your eyes and fantasize!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!. or join in the fun and do yourself while he's doing you!.
Just experiment!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When you masturbated, did you orgasm!? Statistically (and they vary a little) 10-12% have never orgasmed!. 25-35% of women orgasm during sex!. Not great odds :) You aren't alone at all!. I can't really give you advice about what to do since I have the same problem!. All I can say is keep trying!. Also, try toys and such!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Most women think that penetration will give them an orgasm!.!.Not always the case!.!.Sounds like yo both are young and you need to explore your own body and know what feels good!.I am pretty shy when it comes to disclosing information which is as personal as this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well lets see!.My first time was at a really young age about 9 years ago and until last year i have never had an O-----
I found it happened much more ofter when i was on top
Now im always on top :)
Try it
Ity just never happed if he was on topWww@Answer-Health@Com
I found it happened much more ofter when i was on top
Now im always on top :)
Try it
Ity just never happed if he was on topWww@Answer-Health@Com
Some women are not able to orgasm through intercourse , foreplay may be the answer!. Also some girls cannot orgasm until they are older!. If you were able to make yourself orgasm maybe try assisting him buy rubbing yourself that may work!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try other things too!. Toys, oral, ect!. Have him rub the clit while he is doing it!. There are really alot of options!. Or mabe you need to have him talk dirty to you , pull hair!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try different positions!. Also you can touch yourself and he can touch you to achieve and orgasm!. I think when I'm on top it's easier to get one!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
try clitoral stimulation along with vaginal stimulation!. The clitoris has more nerve endings than the vagina!. I think you have to do both to get an orgasmWww@Answer-Health@Com
Try something else!. Experiment until you find something that works!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
well d usual advice is dont force itWww@Answer-Health@Com
try putting more romance into it - wear some sexy lingerie, light some candles, put on some soft music, do it after you guys had a fun Saturday night date or something, when you're really in the mood and you really feel connected to each other - having the correct mood can really help get into it!.
Also, try doing more foreplay before the actual sex!. On average, it takes about 20 minutes of foreplay to get a woman completely ready for sex, fully wet, passionate, and full of desire that she needs it NOW! so yea, mood, foreplay, good feeling, and hopefully you should have it!.
If not, try also doing it somewhere you've either never done it before or never even imagined doing it - in the staircase, in the kitchen, outside in a park late at night behind a tree, etc!.
Hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also, try doing more foreplay before the actual sex!. On average, it takes about 20 minutes of foreplay to get a woman completely ready for sex, fully wet, passionate, and full of desire that she needs it NOW! so yea, mood, foreplay, good feeling, and hopefully you should have it!.
If not, try also doing it somewhere you've either never done it before or never even imagined doing it - in the staircase, in the kitchen, outside in a park late at night behind a tree, etc!.
Hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
OMG don't fake it!!! that is the worst thing you can do! that totally kills the trust in the relationship!.!.!. but now that you have told him you should now research things on the internet becasue there are zllions of web pages about that!.!. you have to be comfortable together and you both can find a way to get you off!.!.!. idk about the messing yourself up with masturbation!.!.!. I think that too because I haven't been able to have an orgasm with my bf and we have been having sex for 8 months!.!.!. some women just need some extra stimulation!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com