Teen father..need woman help!?!
Question: Teen father!.!.need woman help!!?
i want to leave her cause i realized i can't take the resonsibility whats the best way to leave w/o hurting her!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Well you should tell her how you feel or leave a note on the table or something noticeable that says how you feel and what you think is best for you (and if you have kids) family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Umm there is no way that you can leave a young teenage girl with a child without hurting her!. I am sure that you cannot take the responsiblity but how do you expect her to!. The fact is you have a child (or will) and the best thing you can do is man up!. Do your best with what you have accept support from family, yours and hers, go to college get a good job!. I am not saying that you should marry this girl because more than likely that would not be the best idea!. However, you should remain a part of this child's life, for it's sake and yours!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You made the Baby with her, so you need to stick around and be the father to your baby!. You would actually be hurting your child more by leaving the mother!. [unless there's domestic violence] that's totally different and in that case it would ok to leave your girlfriend, but you should take your kid with you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
DO NOT LEAVE HER! By leaving her, you give millions upon millions of men a bad name!. There are so many mean, nasty things I could say to you right now, but I'm not going to because I want you to listen!. You need to accept the consequences of what you've done!. You loved her enough to have sex with her, so you should love her enough to stay with her!. I can guarantee she's more scared about this than you are!. And do you think you want that kid to grow up knowing their father left because of them!? Leaving won't help anything, it'll just make it worse!.
Good luck with everything, and I hope you make the right decision!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Good luck with everything, and I hope you make the right decision!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
YOU can't take the RESPONSIBILITY!?
Should've thought about that when the two of you made this baby, man-up and take responsibility for your actions!
It takes TWO to raise a baby! YOU helped, YOU need to STAY!
Even if you do leave theres still the small problem of the fact that YOU WILL BE RESPONSIBLE FOR CHILD SUPPORT FOR THE NEXT 18+ YRS, I SAY PLUS CAUSE IF THAT CHILD GOES TO COLLEGE YOU WILL PAY FOR THE FIRST 4YRS!.!.!.I KNOW FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Should've thought about that when the two of you made this baby, man-up and take responsibility for your actions!
It takes TWO to raise a baby! YOU helped, YOU need to STAY!
Even if you do leave theres still the small problem of the fact that YOU WILL BE RESPONSIBLE FOR CHILD SUPPORT FOR THE NEXT 18+ YRS, I SAY PLUS CAUSE IF THAT CHILD GOES TO COLLEGE YOU WILL PAY FOR THE FIRST 4YRS!.!.!.I KNOW FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE!Www@Answer-Health@Com
My husband's father walked away, denied the whole thing, took absolutely no responsibility!. My husband later refused to see his biological father (and I use the term "father" losely) or have anything to do with him; he said if his father could ignore him (and his mother) like that when he was a baby, he wanted nothing to do with the man!. My husband was the only child this man ever had, but they never even met one another!. Thank heavens my mother-in-law met a real man who raised my husband as his own and loved him as his own and protected him as his own!. The world needs more Real Men!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
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SO PATHETIC HA HA YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE RESPONSIBILITY THEN WHY DIDN'T YOU USE PROTECTION, AND DON'T USE THAT LINE WE DID BUT IT BROKE, THAT IS THE LINE THAT MY EX-BOYFRIEND SAID TO ME WHEN I ASKED HOW HE GOT MY BFF PREGNANT!!!!!!!!!!! HA HA YOU ARE SO IGNERANT FROM WHAT YOU JUST POSTED YOU WILL NEVER LEAVE HER WITHOUT HURTING HER SO DON'T ACT LKE IT IS THE END OF THE WORLD BECAUSE IF IT WAS THE END YOU WOULDN'T OF MADE A LIFE!.
So any way if you want to get ride of her just tell her that you lied to her when you told her everything and that even thought she loves you, you are going to be a Jake A$$ and leave!. there you go go to H###Www@Answer-Health@Com
SO PATHETIC HA HA YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE RESPONSIBILITY THEN WHY DIDN'T YOU USE PROTECTION, AND DON'T USE THAT LINE WE DID BUT IT BROKE, THAT IS THE LINE THAT MY EX-BOYFRIEND SAID TO ME WHEN I ASKED HOW HE GOT MY BFF PREGNANT!!!!!!!!!!! HA HA YOU ARE SO IGNERANT FROM WHAT YOU JUST POSTED YOU WILL NEVER LEAVE HER WITHOUT HURTING HER SO DON'T ACT LKE IT IS THE END OF THE WORLD BECAUSE IF IT WAS THE END YOU WOULDN'T OF MADE A LIFE!.
So any way if you want to get ride of her just tell her that you lied to her when you told her everything and that even thought she loves you, you are going to be a Jake A$$ and leave!. there you go go to H###Www@Answer-Health@Com
Instead of thinking about yourself, try to think about how that will be for the mother and child!. When the child grows up, and never knew his/her father!? That can really affect a child!. And the mother, for 18 or so years, being a single mother, raising the child by herself!. It would be incredibly difficult!. And later in life you will regret you did it!.
Plus, don't you think that since YOUR the one who got her pregnant, that you should stay with YOUR baby!?
You should have thought about the responsibilities when you decided to have sex with her!. There is always a chance that she will get pregnant!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Plus, don't you think that since YOUR the one who got her pregnant, that you should stay with YOUR baby!?
You should have thought about the responsibilities when you decided to have sex with her!. There is always a chance that she will get pregnant!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You're really just feeling overwhelmed right now!.
Moms and Dads as adults get these feelings!.!. teen parents too!.
This anxiety is normal!.
Bailing out is not the answer!. This child did not ask to be born!. Our society is full of fatherless children!. Is that really what you want for your own flesh and blood!?
You aren't hurting the baby's momma, you are hurting your child!. If you bail now, your baby will grow up hating you in the long run!.
Parenting is hard at any stage and any age!.
We don't get a couple days off when the going gets tough!.
Please consider talking to one of your own parents if you can!.
A school counselor!?
Call your local health dept!. and talk to a nurse there or ask for a referral!.
Please try not to make any more babies right now!. If you must have sex, use a condom!.
There are websites too where you can post anonymously and do some venting without anyone knowing who you are!.
Try to get a good night's sleep, eat a decent healthy meal, and strongly reconsider bailing out on your child!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Moms and Dads as adults get these feelings!.!. teen parents too!.
This anxiety is normal!.
Bailing out is not the answer!. This child did not ask to be born!. Our society is full of fatherless children!. Is that really what you want for your own flesh and blood!?
You aren't hurting the baby's momma, you are hurting your child!. If you bail now, your baby will grow up hating you in the long run!.
Parenting is hard at any stage and any age!.
We don't get a couple days off when the going gets tough!.
Please consider talking to one of your own parents if you can!.
A school counselor!?
Call your local health dept!. and talk to a nurse there or ask for a referral!.
Please try not to make any more babies right now!. If you must have sex, use a condom!.
There are websites too where you can post anonymously and do some venting without anyone knowing who you are!.
Try to get a good night's sleep, eat a decent healthy meal, and strongly reconsider bailing out on your child!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
So!.!.!.you are fully half the reason the child exists, but want to stick her with 100% of dealing with it!? Yeah, she's probably not ready for the responsibilty too, but I guess she doesn't get to get out of it, huh!?
There is no rule that you have to stay a *couple*, but you need to still take responsibility with you child!. Maybe you can just let the relationship grow apart and eventually tell her that while you will be there to care for the child, you wish to see other people!.
Ten years from now do you really went to be known as the dead-beat dad who left!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
There is no rule that you have to stay a *couple*, but you need to still take responsibility with you child!. Maybe you can just let the relationship grow apart and eventually tell her that while you will be there to care for the child, you wish to see other people!.
Ten years from now do you really went to be known as the dead-beat dad who left!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are a father now, which means that there is a small child that didn't ask to be brought into this world but your actions have made that happen!.
Parenting is for the long haul - around twenty years minimum!. There is no quick and easy way out, but it does get easier!.
You need to enlist the help of some support, and if you aren't getting that from your family then approach either your local doctor, hospital or community centre!.
Parenting can be overwhelming at any age, but running away is not the answer - for you or the baby!.
I have just read your profile, questions and answers!. YOU SOUND LIKE AN IMMATURE LITTLE JERK, I'm amazed anyone even slept with you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Parenting is for the long haul - around twenty years minimum!. There is no quick and easy way out, but it does get easier!.
You need to enlist the help of some support, and if you aren't getting that from your family then approach either your local doctor, hospital or community centre!.
Parenting can be overwhelming at any age, but running away is not the answer - for you or the baby!.
I have just read your profile, questions and answers!. YOU SOUND LIKE AN IMMATURE LITTLE JERK, I'm amazed anyone even slept with you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ok first of all you should never leave the girl even if you do beleive she did this on her own!. and secondly!.!.!.!. ive neverheard of agirl getting knocked up just bc she fingered herself with your sperm on her!. spem dies withing seconds of being out side the body!. so i don;t find that logical you just need to take responisibilty bc then when your older you'll wanna know your child and it could be too late then you need to thnk into the future and how its gonna hurt you if you leave, think of the girl she needs you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
First of all, I know it's very overwhelming!. All of these people that are insulting you aren't stopping to think of the pressure you're feeling right now!.!. it's scary!
BUT, with that said, they say all of those things, because it IS a pretty horrible thing of you to do if you walk out on the girl!. No one's saying you have to marry the girl or spend the rest of your life with her!.!. but you have to be there for YOUR child!. This is not HER situation, it's both of yours, and you are both equally responsible for her getting pregnant!.
Just take it one day at a time!.!.!. be there for her while she's pregnant, she's gonna need you there, because sooo many other people are NOT going to be there for her just cause it's a teen pregnancy!. Maybe it won't work out between you two in the end, but you should do the right thing NOW!. How will you feel for the rest of your life knowing that you have a child somewhere out there that you abandoned!?!?
When you feel you're ready (10 years from now or so!.!.) are you going to get married and have kids then!? What about THIS child!? It's not going to go away!.!.!. it's not fake, this is not your "practice round"!.!. this is FOR REAL!. This is more real than anything you've ever had to deal with in your life before!.!.!.
*** You were a man enough to get her pregnant, now be real man and do what you need to do!. ***
Finish what you started, and take care of your responsibility!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
BUT, with that said, they say all of those things, because it IS a pretty horrible thing of you to do if you walk out on the girl!. No one's saying you have to marry the girl or spend the rest of your life with her!.!. but you have to be there for YOUR child!. This is not HER situation, it's both of yours, and you are both equally responsible for her getting pregnant!.
Just take it one day at a time!.!.!. be there for her while she's pregnant, she's gonna need you there, because sooo many other people are NOT going to be there for her just cause it's a teen pregnancy!. Maybe it won't work out between you two in the end, but you should do the right thing NOW!. How will you feel for the rest of your life knowing that you have a child somewhere out there that you abandoned!?!?
When you feel you're ready (10 years from now or so!.!.) are you going to get married and have kids then!? What about THIS child!? It's not going to go away!.!.!. it's not fake, this is not your "practice round"!.!. this is FOR REAL!. This is more real than anything you've ever had to deal with in your life before!.!.!.
*** You were a man enough to get her pregnant, now be real man and do what you need to do!. ***
Finish what you started, and take care of your responsibility!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i am not going to put you down i dont understand where you are comming from but i think you will have to take the responsibility i wouldnt leave her but if you do it will hurt her no matter how you do it i would probobly talk to her and both of your parents just be honest when telling her how you feel i understand this is really hardWww@Answer-Health@Com
Wow!.!.!.what makes you think you could do that without hurting her!? Did she impregnate herself!? No!. You contributed, you need to stick to it!. If you can't take the responsibility, what makes you think she can!? She can't simply back out if it and wipe her hands clean and neither can you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I don't know how you should leave her but if you don't think you can handle taking care of a baby what makes you think she can do it alone, so ummm if you break up with her at least be there for her, that's the least you could do!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
go up to her and say "sweetie, I am a self absorbed stupid coward that doesn't want to be inconvenienced by this child I helped make because I was too dense to use a condom" You understand, do you!?"
then wait for her to get her older brothers and dad out to have a little chat with youWww@Answer-Health@Com
then wait for her to get her older brothers and dad out to have a little chat with youWww@Answer-Health@Com
It totally just seems like you dont want to handle the responsiblities!. If you were man enough to lay down with her, you should be man enough to handle the consquences (regardeless what she did)!. No matter how you do it you are going to hurt her!. There isnt a " best" way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
my husbands father left when my hunny was 3!. his mom told him to leave cuz she could tell he was miserable!. i kinda understand, teens arent ready for kids!. im not judging you, but i want to tell you that my husband and his sis are pretty messed up from not having a dad!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You cannot leave her with complete responsibility of a child!.
That's cold-hearted, and very assholish!.
You're a damned fool, and if you do leave that poor woman, you BETTER pay child support!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That's cold-hearted, and very assholish!.
You're a damned fool, and if you do leave that poor woman, you BETTER pay child support!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
No matter what you say, you are going to hurt her!. Do you really think that it's okay for you to walk away from your child, and she can't!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
i can see in your avatar that you have a future after leaving her!. a bad bad one!.
stand up with what your dick gives you after it stands up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
stand up with what your dick gives you after it stands up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
dude ur a fckn liar and ur mentally sick, she didnt finger herself wit sperm on her finger(how did the sperm get on her finger, u must have squirt it)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Leaving her won't get rid of the responsibility!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You won't have to leave her if you force her to get an abortion!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't do it you pussy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
grow some balls and stay you pussy!. thats what a real man would do!. and if you leave her you will regret itWww@Answer-Health@Com
that is realy rude if my dad would have done that to me that would break my heart!.Www@Answer-Health@Com