How do I get my girl to lose weight and get sexy without pissing her off?!
Question: How do I get my girl to lose weight and get sexy without pissing her off!?
Been togethor for 8 yrs love her to death, and want to marry her!.
Problem is she has gained a bit of weight and isnt as slim and sexy as when we met!. I have gained a small beer belly but nothing in comparison!. I have been eating healthy and excercising trying to be a good role model!.
Everything else is the greatest, sex, communication, hanging togethor!. I just see all these fit hotties who give me attention and dont want to stray, but Im only a man!. Help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Problem is she has gained a bit of weight and isnt as slim and sexy as when we met!. I have gained a small beer belly but nothing in comparison!. I have been eating healthy and excercising trying to be a good role model!.
Everything else is the greatest, sex, communication, hanging togethor!. I just see all these fit hotties who give me attention and dont want to stray, but Im only a man!. Help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
-Be sly in your methods, but repeatative in your attempts!.
-Stress being healthy over getting thinner!. Matter of fact, leave her own body out of it altogether!.
-Keep it fun!.
-Make them joint efforts, we vs!. her/I!.
She probably is very aware of her physical changes-- unless you have reason to think she's in denial(i!.e!. "my clothes must have shrunk in the wash")!.
Have a conversation about your future, and wanting to make sure your kids(if you plan on them) will have both parents able to keep up with them well into the future and not be too tired at the end of the day, and also for each other-- won't be any fun if one can't keep up with the other or one ends up with health problems, not to mention better flexibility for sex!.!.!. Look up the effects of better health on the body to give her examples!.
Encourage and insist(in a persistent way rather than negative, ie!. "Do you want to go for a walk around the block!?" "Nah, I don't feel like it" "Come on, we'll keep it short, 1 time around!." But then ask if she wants to go around again, she may enjoy it, then when you are almost done, at a corner or a few houmes away, say "race you to the house!" and start running like the wind!.) that she does exercises and eats better WITH you, as opposed to just you playing the role model!.
Make the exercises fun, ie dance to music, when going out, park far away and on the way back to the car, say "race you to the car!", go to the gym together-- maybe take regular classes with her that SHE finds appeaing, ask her what sports she likes!.
If it truely is a beer belly on you, stop drinking as much and switch to light drinks!.
As always, drink more water- try saying your going to order water with a lemon/lime because you heard about the extra useless calories in it when you are waiting to be seated when eating out and see if she picks up on it!.
Use that saved money from not buying drinks and buy 2, 5, 10, 15, and 20 lbs weights, an exersize ball, and a book or two explaining how to use them!. Feign needing help understanding a motion to get her to perform it for you or ask if she will do an exercise so you can feel on her what muscles are being used so you know you are getting the right muscles(and vice versa, have her feel on you)!. Find exercises that would be helpful to have a partner and have her help you!. Then ask if she wants you to do the same for her!. Try doing the exersizes during a tv show you watch together, ie leg lifts on the floor, bicept repeatitions!.
Make a goal, ie I want to jog 1 mile without stopping!. Be persistent that she "keeps you company"!. Start off walking most of the time and jogging when you are ready!. Each day you'll do better and be able to job a few steps longer!. Encourage her to keep up, whether she simply walks faster or jogs with you!.
Compliment her afterwards!. Reward her!. Reassure her you love her!.
There may be a reason why she gained weight to begin with(maybe she's not happy about something-her life, work, family)!. Ask her if she is happy, then just let her talk(don't interupt or offer ways to fix the things she says aren't right unless she asks directly!.) Letting her realize and contemplate those things could be a first step to motivating herself to improve, and that is the key--she has to want to improve herself!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
-Stress being healthy over getting thinner!. Matter of fact, leave her own body out of it altogether!.
-Keep it fun!.
-Make them joint efforts, we vs!. her/I!.
She probably is very aware of her physical changes-- unless you have reason to think she's in denial(i!.e!. "my clothes must have shrunk in the wash")!.
Have a conversation about your future, and wanting to make sure your kids(if you plan on them) will have both parents able to keep up with them well into the future and not be too tired at the end of the day, and also for each other-- won't be any fun if one can't keep up with the other or one ends up with health problems, not to mention better flexibility for sex!.!.!. Look up the effects of better health on the body to give her examples!.
Encourage and insist(in a persistent way rather than negative, ie!. "Do you want to go for a walk around the block!?" "Nah, I don't feel like it" "Come on, we'll keep it short, 1 time around!." But then ask if she wants to go around again, she may enjoy it, then when you are almost done, at a corner or a few houmes away, say "race you to the house!" and start running like the wind!.) that she does exercises and eats better WITH you, as opposed to just you playing the role model!.
Make the exercises fun, ie dance to music, when going out, park far away and on the way back to the car, say "race you to the car!", go to the gym together-- maybe take regular classes with her that SHE finds appeaing, ask her what sports she likes!.
If it truely is a beer belly on you, stop drinking as much and switch to light drinks!.
As always, drink more water- try saying your going to order water with a lemon/lime because you heard about the extra useless calories in it when you are waiting to be seated when eating out and see if she picks up on it!.
Use that saved money from not buying drinks and buy 2, 5, 10, 15, and 20 lbs weights, an exersize ball, and a book or two explaining how to use them!. Feign needing help understanding a motion to get her to perform it for you or ask if she will do an exercise so you can feel on her what muscles are being used so you know you are getting the right muscles(and vice versa, have her feel on you)!. Find exercises that would be helpful to have a partner and have her help you!. Then ask if she wants you to do the same for her!. Try doing the exersizes during a tv show you watch together, ie leg lifts on the floor, bicept repeatitions!.
Make a goal, ie I want to jog 1 mile without stopping!. Be persistent that she "keeps you company"!. Start off walking most of the time and jogging when you are ready!. Each day you'll do better and be able to job a few steps longer!. Encourage her to keep up, whether she simply walks faster or jogs with you!.
Compliment her afterwards!. Reward her!. Reassure her you love her!.
There may be a reason why she gained weight to begin with(maybe she's not happy about something-her life, work, family)!. Ask her if she is happy, then just let her talk(don't interupt or offer ways to fix the things she says aren't right unless she asks directly!.) Letting her realize and contemplate those things could be a first step to motivating herself to improve, and that is the key--she has to want to improve herself!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you don't! that's just messed up! plus you shouldn't be looking at other girls if you say that you love her to death and want to marry her!. therefore you shouldn't be afraid of straying b/c if you love her as much as you say you do then you wouldn't be looking or noticing how another girl looks!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
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