What are the chances of me or someone I love being raped?!


Question: What are the chances of me or someone I love being raped!?
My friends were talking about what they would do if someone attacked them!. What age are you really safe from rape!? can you get raped at any age!? What can you do to proctect yourself from it!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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I know a lot of women who have been raped!. Some of them are women in my family!. The truth is there is not a safe age!. Some people rape grandmothers and babies!. It's great that you girls have been talking about it!. Rape is not about sex it's about power!. If you want to protect yourself take a self defense class and keep your eyes open!. Don't trust everyone you meetWww@Answer-Health@Com

Actually, that's not true!. A girl/woman should do whatever she can to try to fight off the rapist to let him know she's not defenseless or at the least she'll make a scene and others might help!. If he wanted to rape, he'll rape whether or not she fights back!. If she doesn't, he'll just treat her like a ragdoll!. Women who tried to fight back may actually have a greater chance of warding off the rapist instead of women who cry, plead, whimper, freeze up!.

There is no age to be safe from rape!. Someone can be raped no matter what age they are, what race they are, etc!. Men can be raped by other men too and it is suggested that these incidences are even more underreported than women rape because of men's fear of being seen as weak or gay!. And men who rape other men usually see themselves as heterosexual!.

There's a lot of ways you can protect yourself from it:

Walk with a strong posture and in strides!. A weak posture (slouching, eyes down, walking slow or aimlessly or passively) can indicate vulnerability!.

Use assertive body language and speech!.

Walk or park in well lit areas!.

If you can, walk with someone else or another guy!.

If you fear for your safety, have someone you know or work with walk with you or take you home!.

You can take a self-defense class!.

You may carry a weapon, but it may not always work and can even be used against you!. A rapist has the element of surprise at his advantage, usually!.

Trust your instincts!.

Don't go into unfamiliar areas, at least not alone!. Especially not at night!.

Be careful of strangers (with interest in you for whatever reason)!.

The more you know about an acquaintance the better!. Don't agree to meet total strangers!.

Look for signs a date may be controlling and tends to make all the decisions!.

Offer to pay for some of the expenses on a date or outing so a date can't rationalize getting sex for what he paid for!.

Make clear what you want and don't want to your date/acquaintance!.

If you feel someone's stalking behind you, stop, turn and look him dead in the eye!. And get into somewhere safe as quick as you can!.

Earphones and ear buds can make you vulnerable by hindering your natural sensory of hearing!. Easy for someone to sneak attack you!.

Never leave your drink unattended at a party, pour it yourself, and don't accept drinks from someone else!.

Leave right away when there's unwelcome advances or situations that can leave you vulnerable!.

If someone makes unwelcome advances on you, don't shy away (it makes you vulnerable) but be assertive in saying no!. Shove him away and tell it straight to him no and that it's rape/sexual assault!.

If you're with someone, don't let him lure you into unknown or secluded areas if you feel uncomfortable with it!.

Keep doors, locks, and windows secure!.

At night, go about your business quickly and efficiently!. A rapist can be a seemingly benign stranger asking for your assistance!. I heard of a woman who was forced into an apartment and raped by a man who asked for help after 'dropping' his cans of cat food!. Don't be quick to offer assistance even if you have good intentions!.

Fear can be your best friend or worst enemy!. Be aware of your surroundings for anything that seems out of place, suspicious, or wrong!.

A potential sex offender can ask you questions under the guise of a statement!. And if he's trying to coerce and lure someone into his web, he may use "we" as if 'we're in the same boat and I'm on your side'!.

If you're a single female, you can keep yourself anonymous by not being listed in the phone book, or listed only by your first initial, or sign for packages only with your initials!.

Be aware that a potential rapist can be anyone!. He might even be posing as a delivery person, a repair person, or even a police officer!. If your gut instincts tell you something's wrong, ask to see an ID and/or call his agency/department to verify (an ID/badge can be fake too)!.

Don't give out personal/private information, and don't let any suspicious stranger or person into your house or apartment!.

If you're attacked, do whatever you can to fight back!. No holds barred, fight dirty even (biting, scratching, poking eyes!.!.!.)!. Make a scene, draw attention, scream, go crazy, whatever it takes!.

Be aware of your surroundings, again!. This time be aware of anything or any scenario you can use to your advantage or as a distraction to escape a hostile situation!.

Think of a white lie for yourself to escape an uncomfortable situation!. If you don't want to be the elevator alone with a guy, you can always mutter to yourself that you need to get something or there's not enough time!.

If you're in the city, avoid dangerous areas!. Alleyways are especially dangerous for not just rapes, but also robberies and murders!. Carparks are also dangerous!. And many other places, I forgot!.

If your car breaks down, keep yourself locked in with windows closed!. A white cloth hanging from the antenna indicates help needed!. And don't readily accept stranger assistance even if they have good intentions!. Call for a friend, a tow truck, or tell a stranger offering to help to do so or the police department!.

Keep a cell phone on you when you're alone!.

Lock your car doors, parked or not!.

Don't hitchhike and don't pick up hitchhikers!.

Check the backseat of your car before getting in, and get in your car quickly!.

Know that he rapist isn't the stereotypical mentally insane guy, the sexually depraved guy, the guy who jumps out of the bushes, but it's usually someone the victim knows!. A friend, an acquaintance, boyfriend, significant other!.!.!.

Lie and tell the rapist you have some horrible STD as a last resort (I don't think this one was in the book, but I heard it somewhere)!.

If you're chased, naturally-run like the wind and attract as much attention you can!. Don't get cornered or run into a dead end!.

Scream "fire" if you're screaming for help!. I don't really know how that works, but I suppose people are more likely to respond to a fire!.

If you're in that situation, make alot of noise!.

Try to talk your way out of it if you're in a rape situation!. It gives you time to plan an escape strategy, buy time for yourself, or calm the attacker down (you never know, he might just be pissed off at everything wrong in his life and wants revenge back at life) or at least reduce your hurt!.


Of course, all this doesn't mean that you have to be an antisocial, unfriendly, overly nervous, reclusive person!. And not to mention it's a lot of hassle to be this cautious!. Just be aware and smart, that's all!. I don't mean to scare you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

There is no safe age for not being raped!. There are alot of sick people in this world!. My suggestion would be not only to take a self-defense course, but also to be very aware of places to avoid that you could be in danger!. I don't know your age, but you know what I mean like going to the park alone, clubs maybe that don't have good security,etc!. Just be aware oy your surroundings and people around you!. If at any time you feel uncomfortanle, don't be afraid to call attention to yourself or ask for help!. Better to be safe than sorry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

as mentioned above , rape is not about sex it is about power , the science of psychology tells you that the more you resist the more the you are pushing the rapist to go forward, and if you didnt resist or didnt scream , he will not enjoy the feeling of ( power and dominance ) and he will leave you alone ,,
Another advice is take some self defense classes ,,Www@Answer-Health@Com

the chances of getting raped are 50/50, for people of all age, even babied!.!.!. did you hear about that guy who raped his sister's daughter or some other baby who he was babysitting!? its the most sick thing i've ever heard on the news!.
anyway!.!.!. if you keep safe late at night, make sure your with lots of people when you go out late, and make sure you dont drink too much at parties where you dont really know the people there!.!.!. then you should be quite safe!.
:)Www@Answer-Health@Com

You are never safe from rape there is always some sick dude who would rape you no matter how old or young you are!. Depending on how old you are you could always buy a Gun or a Taser if you are really that worried about it!. Or you could just be careful no to be alone anywhereWww@Answer-Health@Com





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