Sex or wait?!


Question: Sex or wait!?
I'm me and my boyfriend are 15!. We are really thinking of taking it to the next level and having sex!. We both feel ready its just my best friend used a condom and got pregnant!. So now were just unsure, and our school keeps saying that condoms don't work half the time!. So what should we do!? Do condoms work better then our school is saying!? (btw: no birth control pills )Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Well at 15 you may feel your ready for a lot of things!. I'm not here to preach abstinence before marriage (half the people who say wait, loose it way before marriage) sex is a big decision, for both parties and there are a lot of physical consequence as you know and a lot of emotional ones as well!. You should think this decision through a little more, or wait a year or two!. Sex is way better with the right person and at 15 no one knows who that right person is, so just think about your decision before jumping right into sex!. The risk of pregnancy is very likely!.

Condoms are 97% effective if used PROPERLY!. But however if used ineffectively like they are a lot of the time, that effectiveness from proper use goes down by alot!. So you school is somewhat correct in it's information!. Health professionals reccomend at least two forms of birth control (i!.e the pill and condoms is a popular choice)!. If you still decide to go through with sex research a second method of birth control and have your boyfriend practice putting on the comdom the way the directions say!. Condoms are also the only protection against STI's (98%)!.

Btw: I know you mentioned no birth control, but you never mentioned a reason!. If the reason happens to be parental consent and your will not consent, you can go to places like your neighborhood sexual health clinic or Planned Parenthood and they give free subscriptions!.

Good Luck, I hope you make the right decision!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

your friend is proof that condoms often fail, they are not good for preventing pregnancy or disease, they help, but they certainly aren't 100% effective!. What you need to ask yourself is this, "Am I ready for all the possible consequences of sex!?" Are you prepared to deal with being pregnant!? Are prepared for disease!? are you prepared to deal with a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis!? And are you prepared to deal with it emotionally when your boyfriend decides to move on after he's gotten into your pants!? I am not saying these things WILL happen, but I am saying you need to be very sure you are prepared to deal with them, because they most certainly can and do happen!.
15 is pretty young to deal with such things!.!.!.!.!.I would urge you to wait!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I'm not going to lecture you and tell you to wait, because I myself did not wait!. So, what you can do to ensure to that you will not get pregnant is use two forms of birth control!. But since you don't want to use the pill you can use a diaphram, a female condom so to speak!. And make sure he puts the condom on the right way, and pulls out as soon as he climaxes!. Leaving it in only increases the chances on getting pregnant, also, make sure you are wet enough down there to have sex!. Too much friction will rip the condom and you'll end up with a bundle of joy in 9 months!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

It is best to wait!. You may feel very tempted but try to wait!. You are both still at school and you are right when you feel that no contraception is 100% safe!.
Once a girl falls pregnant she only has three options and they are all very difficult - (1) Abortion (which to most people is not even an option it is so distasteful and results in unforeseen problems such as post-abortion stress syndrome etc)!. (2) Adoption (which as you can imagine must be extremely difficult to part with your child even if everyone feels it is in the child's best interests) or (3) Keeping your child as a teen with no job, no work experience, no high school diploma and no tertiary education - no money to buy that baby the things you would like to or give them the life you had envisaged for a child of your own one day!.
Wait!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I would recommend waiting only because you guys are so young but you know when you are ready, if a condom is used correctly I say it has a 90% chance of working, There are studies that say 99% but I am making up 90% only because its a nice round number!. 50% is way to low because it does not make since, if used right it will stop the semen in the tip, there is very little to support a 50/50 chance I would say a 10/90 chance!. If you believe you two are ready make sure he knows how to use one, if you need to look for a video of how to put one on in the internet, Just be safe and good luck with your relationshipWww@Answer-Health@Com

Condoms don't always work!. I don't know if "half the time" is a correct statistic!. If I were you I would wait!. But that's because I know how unsure I was about a lot of things at 15!. The fact that you're questioning this big decision is a sign of great intelligence and I commend that!.
My advice would be wait until you are sure that you're ready, this uncertainty you're feeling is probably a sign that you aren't yet!. But only you can know that for sure!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Definitely wait!.I know it doesn't seem like it, but teenagers aren't as smart as they think they are, and aren't as emotionally mature as they think they are!. If it's love, then why rush it!? It's a bridge you can't uncross, you never get your virginity back!. I'm not a "wait until you're married" advocate, but at least wait until you are 17 or 18, and you have a little more perspective on life!. btw: 99!.9% of condom failure is user error!. If you do have sex, make sure it's a brand new condom (not out of his wallet :) and take the time to put it on correctly!. If you don't know how, then you are NOT READY!Www@Answer-Health@Com

The only reason to do it is that you really do feel ready and think the one you're wanting to do it with is the right one for you!.!.!. that dosen't mean marriage, but sex is very intimate and getting to know somebody that well shouldn't be obly physical - and that takes time!.

The only reasons *not* to do it are that you don't feel ready and/or you're just not with the person you think is right!.

Condoms *do* work pretty well, but they can break, and you should have a backup - some contraceptive foam or jelly is good (and it's a pretty good lube in case you're not wet enough for comfortable sex)!. The combination is almost as effective as hormonal contraceptives and doesn't carry their risks!.

If you *do* have sex with this guy, take your time about it and make sure you've got privacy for the *whole* time!. I get the impression from your question that you're a virgin!.!.!. things will have to go slower for you, you might have pain or bleeding, and you're gonna have a lot to talk about both before and afterwards!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

if you have to ask this question on here then thats a definate sign that you are NOT ready
you need to decide that for yourself
but condoms work 98% of the time if used properly!. but honestly!. can you really say that your ready for every responsibility of sex!? i hope you realize that 10 mins of pleasure can lead to a lifetime of regret
like honestly
is 10 mins worth
9 months of pregnancy
god knows how many painful hours of labor
then a lifetime of caring for another person
are you ready at 15 to pay and take care of a baby!?!?!?
are you really ready for that
if you are then go ahead and have sex
you need to realize that there are other consquences to sex
that no matter how many methods of protection you use you can still get pregnant!.
so hey if your ready to have sex then that means your saying your ready to take care of a babyWww@Answer-Health@Com

Well it depends if you are ready for a kid or not!. Obviously the biggest consequence for sex is STD or having a kid!. If you can handle those two then do it!. I know this sounds stupid cause you are so young, but when you get older, you will wish you would have waited for the truely special someone!. But, you are 15 and of course you are rolling your eyes right now but you will see!. Wait, cause sex is not all fun and games when you are 15 and get knocked up or you have some kind of SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASE that you can't get rid of!. And if you think it can't happen to you, then find someone that got knocked up early or has warts on their vagina and ask them if they thought it could happen to them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

A new latex condom is 99!.9% effective!. The problem many teenagers have is that they either do not know how to properly use a condom or the condom that they do use is old or improperly stored in a warm place so the latex breaks down which causes tears!. This leads to "typical use" studies that report that condoms are only 86% effective!. Where your school is pulling a figure of 50%, I don't know!.

Here is a video of the proper way to use a condom, as demonstrated with the classic prop of a banana: http://www!.metacafe!.com/watch/604363/how!.!.!.

And here is some tips about proper condom use:
http://www!.metrokc!.gov/Health/apu/health!.!.!.

Now, with all that said I do encourage you to wait!. The simple fact that there is doubt enough for you to pose the question means you should step back and give yourself more time to consider the potential problems that early sexual relations can have on your relationship, your body and the potential risk factors involved!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If you are not ready to have a baby then don't have sex!. If you are not ready to handle the responsibilities and consequences of having sex, then you are not ready to have sex!. A condom is not reliable!. I would wait, especially at your age!. You definitely need to be on birth control yourself as well as his using a condom at all times!. You also need to consider STD's etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

condoms have about a 10-18 percent pregnancy rate when used typically - if used correctly they are about 97 percent effective but ppl often dont use them correctly which is why the stats are also listed for typical use!. anyway - that means if you have sex 100 times then you are likely to get pregnant 10 - 18 of those times!. thats a lot!. also they dont protect against all kinds of stds!. I do not even let my boyfriend go near me without a condom AND birthcontroll pills!. I would advise that you just wait untill you are both 18 and adults!. Sex is for mature adults who can handle the emotional consequences of sex and who are able to make smart decisions about it!. You however are still a kid!. Wait a few more years!. Its not going to be good sex anyway since u two have no idea what you are doing in terms of technique and therfore not worth getting pregnant over!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

condoms alone are not an affective birth control method!. at your age, you are very young and shouldnt be having sex at this age! i think you need to wait, you should be on birth control before you start engaging in sex!.
tell your mom, it will be easier to tell your mom you want to go on birth control than it is telling you are pregnant!.

condoms have a 14% failure rate!.!.!.most of this is due to improper use, but at your age and inexperience of both of you an imporoper use is very high!Www@Answer-Health@Com

A condom is 98 or 99% effective against pregnancy when used correctly!. (I just looked for this online but couldn't find it, I remember from a BC chart in my OBGYN's office)!. But still remember that the purpose of sex is to make a baby, so it's always a possibility no matter what precautions are taken!. When your ready to have sex you will know and you wont question it!. Until you just "know" that your ready you shouldn't do it or you will most likely end up regretting it in the future!. Don't ever let a guy pressure you into it if your not ready!. Having sex IS a big deal, and is an amazing thing when done with someone you love and trust and who feels the same way about you!. Hopefully this helped you and like I said, it's your body and only you know if your ready to have sex!. Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com

codoms are the best aid against pregnancy AND stds!. (notice i said and!. prgnancy pills dont protect stds but are most effective against pregnancy)!. okay so what happened was he didt put it on right!. you need to leave that top bubble as room for the semen to get out!. if you dont!.!.!.the condom bursts and you have yourself a pregnant 15 yr old!.

there is a morning after pill that you can buy and use within 72 hours if he did *** in you!.

also dont use ANY kind of lotion with a condom unless its KY water based jelly!. anytype of fat based oil will kill the rubber in tiny holes you cant see!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

yes!.!.!.!.condoms have a 99!.9% effectiveness rating when used correctly!. that means if you have sex 1000 times there is only a slight chance that you will get pregnant once!. Make sure you use them properly though, leave room at the tip for the stuff so that it doesn't break!. Also, make sure you're careful after using it so that none squishes out when you're finishing up!.!.!.!.!.but you are only 15 so please make sure you're ready and that it's specialWww@Answer-Health@Com

Condoms work about 95% (I think!. It's 90-something) of the times that they're used PROPERLY!. The trick is knowing how to use them properly, which most people don't!.

But I'm not going to try to teach you how to use them properly!. I'm not qualified to teach it!.

Personally, I would just wait!. It's not worth the risk!. Abstinence is the ONLY 100% sure fire way to avoid pregnancy and STDs!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Your school is soooooo right, PLEASE wait! I got pregnant with a condom, it broke and I found out I was expecting!. I am 23 yrs old and married though, and your only 15 (even more why you should wait!) Be wise the school is telling you this information for a reason!. Oh yeah and I had an IUD (A birth control method)!. My friend got pregnant on the pill!. And I know some people think it is hard to wait until marriage, but at least wait until your 18 and able to care for a baby and yourself!. So many teens have sex, get prego, and then abortion is next!. Its not worth it! WAIT WAIT WAIT!!! If he loves you, he'll agree!Www@Answer-Health@Com

dont sweat what those guys are saying!.
no condoms arent 100% effective!.
BUT theyre like 86% and he can "pull out" too just to be safe!.
im assuming you know what that means!.
my bf and i have been together for 9 months and we have been doing it for 8 and we never use condomd (which YES is a bad thing) but he pulls out every time and im still not pregnant so chances are really slim!.
but wait if you want!.
it probably will pay off in the end when you guys break up and you wish you wouldnt of but if you guys are serious i dont see any problem with it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Condoms are 97% effective if used CORRECTLY!.

Your friend may not have used the condom the right way or she could be one of the few who get pregnant using them!.

There's always a chance you could get pregnant when you have sex! Talk to your doctor about getting birth control pills to lessen your chance of pregnancy even more!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i thikn the comment about dieing is more symbolic!.!. if u got pregnant at 15 u would die as far as being able to live your life as a normal teen!. condoms are like 80% affective only if u use them right wjen i say use them right i mean getting them the right size!.!.!.!. but they can break!. as far a waiting, if u are ready and u two love each other then go for it, your going to do it sooner or later atleast let it be with someone special!. or u could try to wait untill ur married but the will be very hard to doWww@Answer-Health@Com

You obviously don't have a clue about sex and what it's really all about!.

Take such things verrrrry slowly!.

You could screw up your life reaaalllllll bad if you make a mistake!.

The school doesn't know what it's talking about either!.

Use your computer to research the subject before you do something stupid!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you should wait!! but if your going to do it any ways just be careful, condoms r not that safe but if used with other forms of contraceptives you have a lower risk of getting pregnant!! look up a product called VCF Vaginal Contraceptive Films!. you can get them at any cvs of wallgreens and thay r only like $9!.99 a box! it is safe to use them together!! i hope i helped!! but remember there wont be any risk if you just wait!! if you need any more help feel free to drop me a line at mo_burson123@yahoo!.comWww@Answer-Health@Com

wait until you're ready to have a kid because there is always a chance of getting pregnant
so if you're not mature enough to be a mother then you're not mature enough to have sex
and you're especially not ready if you're questioning whether or not you want toWww@Answer-Health@Com

wait, wait, wait! wait until you are absolutely, completely, 110% SURE! and even then, I think you should be on birth control pills AND use a condom!. teenage pregnancy is just not something you want to mess around with!.

15 is too young to be having sex!. please wait, you'll be glad you did later!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Wait!. I lost my virginity at 14 and I wish I had waited!. Once you start having sex, you won't stop, and everytime you have it, you'll be risking getting pregnant!. Don't risk it so young!. I didn't become pregnant, but all my friends did, one by one! - We all started pretty much around the same time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Actually, condoms work about 99 % of the time when they r used correctly!. What your school says is not exactly true!. Condoms work most of time but the chance of gettgin pregant is still real!. I wud recommend getting tested first!. Birth control pills r useful as well!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

As much as feel about sex before marriage is bad, i guess it happens!.!.!.You may marry this guy anyway so it doesnt matter lol!.!.!.You really should nto because you are ntoe evn old enough to get pregnant because you might!. Also, if you feel sex is a risk,why take it!? You are young !.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Condoms work more than half of the time, however they're not 100% safe!. In the long run, it doesn't matter what kind of advice you have, you have to go on what you feel!. if you really want to or really don't want to, nothing anybody says will change that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If you are going to have sex, talk to your mother about birth control pills!. If you won't talk to your family, go to planned parenthood!.

Becoming pregnant at 15 will ruin your life!. It's not worth a little pleasure for this risk!. Don't take a chance!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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