Low sex drive? Need help?!
Question: Low sex drive!? Need help!?
I don't know what to do!? I just got married on May 16!.!. i'm a newly wed!.!. this isn't normal, right!?
When I was younger I blamed the stress of school and work and then getting my career off the ground, and then planning the wedding!.!.!. but !.!. what's my excuse now!?
I went off my Yasmin and got an IUD (paraguard - no hormones) last week because I thought that the hormones may have been affecting it!.!.!. still, really, nothing!. I could probably go for months without giving it a second thought but I know that he wants to even if he doesn't initiate anything!.!. I was in a physically abusive relationship in the past and before we got married we did counseling and I really thought I worked through it!.!. I'm starting to get frusterated because I want that physical connection but nothing gets me in the mood!.!. what do I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I was younger I blamed the stress of school and work and then getting my career off the ground, and then planning the wedding!.!.!. but !.!. what's my excuse now!?
I went off my Yasmin and got an IUD (paraguard - no hormones) last week because I thought that the hormones may have been affecting it!.!.!. still, really, nothing!. I could probably go for months without giving it a second thought but I know that he wants to even if he doesn't initiate anything!.!. I was in a physically abusive relationship in the past and before we got married we did counseling and I really thought I worked through it!.!. I'm starting to get frusterated because I want that physical connection but nothing gets me in the mood!.!. what do I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I'm not sure about the pills and IUD!. I can tell you, as a married woman of 10 years, my sex drive has had it's up and downs!. I have noticed if I think about sex more, I want it more!. For me, this has been achieved my reading romance novels (I like Nora Roberts) or watching things I find sexy!.!.!.Dirty Dancing with Patrick Swayzee is a sure bet for men to get into the mood!. Also, reading "The Five Love Languages" has been great for our marriage, as well!. Best wishes, honey!Www@Answer-Health@Com
idk may 17 was my b-dayWww@Answer-Health@Com
the pills hormones has different effects upon individuals, in your case may be it is the cause, but how about your previous experiences thinking of sex!? was it normal !? did you have crave for sex or this is the way you are all your life since maturity!? you should ask yourself these questions!. if you had a normal appetite for sex, and after taking the pills it was vanished then the pills are the cause otherwise it is your nature and you should try to improve by experiencing different techniques with your husband!. IUDs are better contraceptive solutions but should not be used until having the first baby, I wonder why your Doc did not till you that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you have a low sex drive there is pretty much nothing you can do about it!. Don't push yourself to try and want it more, you will only feel disappointed!. The big question is how often does your husband want it!? If the both of you are happy with rare sex, than there is nothing wrong and you will be happy!. If he wants is nightly, than I suggest more counseling!.
If you think that your lack of drive might stem from an abusive relationship than you should find a therapist and see if you suffer from PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder)!.
If you want that "physical connection" you and your husband can do other physical things besides sex, cuddle naked and watch a movie, shower/bathe together and have him wash your hair, etc!. Try to find find something that makes you happy, but if you let it stress you out, the more pressure the less likely you will succeed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you think that your lack of drive might stem from an abusive relationship than you should find a therapist and see if you suffer from PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder)!.
If you want that "physical connection" you and your husband can do other physical things besides sex, cuddle naked and watch a movie, shower/bathe together and have him wash your hair, etc!. Try to find find something that makes you happy, but if you let it stress you out, the more pressure the less likely you will succeed!.Www@Answer-Health@Com