I had an abortion at nearly 5 months over a year ago die to pressure from un abu!


Question: I had an abortion at nearly 5 months over a year ago die to pressure from un abusive relationship!.!?
Its still hurts!.!.!. How has anyone else justifed having a termination and moved on!?
Its seriously 1!.5 years ago and i am sitting her with tears rolling down my face!!! (silly right!?!!)
I dont want the baby!.!.!. I just want it not to hurt!.!.!.!.
I ditn have a fighting chance to make a proper decsion withe the crap i was copping!.!.!. and it just hurts!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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I'm not sure if its religious guilt or what, but this is what I would consider if I were you!. When you know better, you do better!. That means, you made the best decision for yourself at the time!. If you had more this, or less that, the decision might have been different, but you didn't and it wasn't!. You have to stop going back and judging yourself!. You didn't have much time to make a huge decision and now its over and its time to move on!. You are not a bad person and what I would consider now is what its taught you!. You now know to choose better men and that is a valuable life lesson!. You and a child could have been in a horrible situation, in which you would have been trapped in!. You have to focus on what you learned!. If this is religious guilt, I would think that God is forgiving right!? And we are taught that we are all sinners, right!? Then, any sin is a forgivable sin because we are not expected to be perfect!. I'm not overly religious, but I dont believe that one hard decision condemns you to hell, or a lifelong struggle with guilt and depression!. Focus on how lucky you are to have gotten away from the situation with your ex!. Focus on moving on!. Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Hi sweet!. I had an abortion 6 years ago!. It still makes me cry sometimes because of the guilt!. I thought what I was doing would make my life better!. But I have not been so sure because ever since, my head has been more twisted than ever!. I also have times of regret, thinking I would have a 5 year old now!.

But things have happened and you did what you did at the time because you had that option, that choice was available to you and you obviously were very vulnerable!.

After mine, I didn't tell anyone for a year Adan sat in my room crying every day until I broke down in front of the GP who referred me for counselling!. i only had one session but it helped me so, so much!. I was more able to talk about it and everything!. I think I probably need some more, even now!.

Don't beat yourself up please!. It's not your fault!. It will get easier in time!. It does not devour me now much at all!. But obviously it is something you have to live with Adan elan to cope with!. You will be okay but try to get some support from non-judgmental friends and others who have been through it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

this is very hard, i myself have never had one, but i do know of several people that have, and they have lasting effects
i would suggest you see perhaps a coucillor, talk therapist, or grief councillor!.
this is a big deal, and can be very hard!. and since you were so far along, you were probably becoming very attached to your child, and even showing, and able to feel it!.
i dont agree wiht what you did, but that is not what your question is, im sure obviously you feel bad about it!.
the pain will never go away completely, but you need to learn how to live your life with it, and learn to cope,Www@Answer-Health@Com

i live in australia, abortion is NOT legal up to 5 months!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

just a question back, because Kate has raised a good point, what country are you from to allow a termination at 5 months!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

maybe you could go to a counciler or a theripist!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

sorry but some ppl out there r just pathetic, no one has the right to judge what someone else does with their life!. How can any of u make some of the comments that u have when u have never lived thru abuse i havnt ever had to go thru an abortion an i dont agree with them but what is right for one person isnt right for someone else!. You dont have nor do u need to live up to anyone elses expectations!.
Sorry if im not helping very much i cant help much with the feelings u r experiencing after ur abortion i do however know what it is like to lose a child and until u r able to realise that no matter what ur child will always be with you an be a part of you things wont change i still miss my child and i do cling to what memories i do have and i focus on my other children the pain does get less but it does take time!. And remember u got out of the abusive relationship ( i assume this is the case) and u have another child now focus on the good happy things in ur life and things will get better!.
Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com

When i was 15 i was raped by a 'family friend' who was 45 years old!! I had an abortion !.!.!.!. i am 18 now !.!.!.!. and to this day it breaks my heart!. Especially with people saying how wrong it is to do so!. If they were in the same position i wonder what they would do!. People dont understand how scary the whole thing can be!. My baby would not of had a life @ all !.!.!. and i think i did the right thing!.

Dont let anyone put you down because you and YOU ONLY know the full story as to why you did it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

firstly, being in Australia you cant have an abortion after 3 months, so get down from what ever cloud you are on and stop making up such horrible questions!.
if you were in an abusive relationship causing abortion you should have left that relationship!. from the day that child was conceived you were responsible, yet you killed it!. people like you disgust me!.
grow up, so many people want children so much and cant have them and if this is true you have murdered an innocent child!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Can you imagine what it's life would have been like and yours for that, matter if you did have the baby!?
Being a parent is all about thinking what is best for the baby!.
If you were hurt at the time imagine the hurt it would have had to go through to grow up!.
If the time is not right, and you were in an abusive relationship you saved it from being abused once it was born!.
If you couldn't leave the guy in the first place while pregnant it would have been harder to leave him with a baby because you don't realise how dependant you get, and abusive partners are very manipulative and you don't realise that until it's too late!.
Look forward to finding a better partner who would be a good husband and father to your child!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You need closure!.!.!.therapy can help you!.!.!.there are more issues than just the baby, guilt, anger at the circumstances you were in at the time!. And it takes a lot of time to heal from an experience like this!.!.!.it's not like being fired from a job and just going out and getting another one!. Good luck and seek a professional to help you through this for the sake of your other child!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Ummm where on earth are you living, I am in Australia as well and I had a termination when I was 15 (15yrs ago) (due to rape not because I couldn't keep legs closed)
And Abortion being legal up to 5 months is crock of sh*t!
That's bloody murder, no wonder you say you are upset still, that was a real lil baby and decently formed too!.
Abortion at 5 months is NOT legal at all, 12 weeks is the cut off point - but occassionally they will do 13 weeks considering the situation, if late finding out pg, but NO LATER then 13 weeks UNLESS their is some severe extreme deformity of the baby!. (but they prefer doing it at 10 weeks or earlier if it's going to happen at all)
Using an abusive relationship as an excuse for the termination is BS, I was raped and yet I had to make the decision what to do next, and accept the consequences, as was the decision that YOU got yourself into!. Yet I was in the position from something that was not of my own actions!.
What exactly is it that you are after!? no one on here is going to say it was alright for you to terminate at that late stage - forget it!. even though I had one done in very early stages and it was from rape, I don't expect anyone to say it was ok!. Just get on with your life and be more careful in future!. You are responsible for your actions!. Nothing is 100% safe so knowing that don't have sex if you don't want to get pg!. Common sense!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I feel for you but I am sorry to say, you had a good 3 months to work out that you didnt want this child and you waited till you were 5 months pregnant to termiante and now you say you dont want the baby you just want to stop hurting, that is the most disguisting and selfish thing I have ever heard! Did you if you went into labour and had the baby at that 5 months you would have had to name it and have a funeral for it becase at 5 months of a pregnancy it is classified as a human life!. So to be quite honest you should be in jail for murder and then you come on here looking for sympothy! I can understand if you had the termination within the 1st three months but you decided to wait you disgiust me!

I hope a day doesnt go by when you dont think about what you have done

Empathise what!? You brought this upon yourself you were 5 months pregnant when you had the termination dont you understand what you are saying!? They make abortions illegal after 3 months for a reason you know!.!. Why are you on here looking for sympothy when you had 3 months to work out you didnt what a baby your just plain selfish to me!?

And why are you bringing up birth control for!? I didnt even mention it, so obvioulsey you do feel like you need to explain yourself if your bringing it up!Www@Answer-Health@Com





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