I feel so stressed....I need some suggestions plz?!
Question: I feel so stressed!.!.!.!.I need some suggestions plz!?
I'm about a year away from my degree and I want my son in soccer this year but practice and games will interfer w my class schedul, but he will be taking piano lessons!.!.!. is that enough!.!. My education will help us in the long run!.!.
My $$ is gettin shorter by the day!.!. I have to debate with my mom to watch him for a couple of days before school starts because I don't have the extra money to pay out for childcare when I have to pay his tuition for school the same month!. wheeew I just feel I'm going to loose my mindWww@Answer-Health@Com
My $$ is gettin shorter by the day!.!. I have to debate with my mom to watch him for a couple of days before school starts because I don't have the extra money to pay out for childcare when I have to pay his tuition for school the same month!. wheeew I just feel I'm going to loose my mindWww@Answer-Health@Com
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It's so hard to be a working parent or a parent that doesn't get to stay with their child all day at home, isn't it!? You always have that guilt of not being there for them!. But I think a lot of times parents who work try to "overcompensate" for their lack of time they get to spend with their child!. One thing my daughter's pediatrician told me when I first had her was "Make sure you always take care of yourself first!. If you aren't happy - then your child won't be happy either"!.
I think you are doing the right thing!. Keep him in the piano lessons and maybe look into some weekend soccer leagues or put him in aother sport like karate or something that you can set up according to your schedule!. School is extremely important and by you taking a stand on that for yourself - you are showing him that the priority should be with school!.
I admire you for your efforts!. Being a single parent is super tough!. Juggling your life with your child's is extremely difficult!. But to me, your frustration just shows how much you care about yourself and how much you love your son!. You want the best for both of you - and you will get it!.
Keep in mind, you don't want to give him lessons and then have to take them away because of your schedule, that could hurt more!. My parents did that to me and I was upset about that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you are doing the right thing!. Keep him in the piano lessons and maybe look into some weekend soccer leagues or put him in aother sport like karate or something that you can set up according to your schedule!. School is extremely important and by you taking a stand on that for yourself - you are showing him that the priority should be with school!.
I admire you for your efforts!. Being a single parent is super tough!. Juggling your life with your child's is extremely difficult!. But to me, your frustration just shows how much you care about yourself and how much you love your son!. You want the best for both of you - and you will get it!.
Keep in mind, you don't want to give him lessons and then have to take them away because of your schedule, that could hurt more!. My parents did that to me and I was upset about that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If there's absolutley no way for him to join soccer, then tell him next year, and be sure to enroll him in and keep your word!. Not every child can get everything and anything they want!. It's hard on the parent, but as long as sometime he gets to expierence it and try lot's of things through out his life he should be okay!. Try and let him know one thing at a time, you want him to focus on his piano lessons and school, and next season he can do soccer!. Good thing that your mom gets to watch him over a child day care!. There not as good as family! He should feel blessed he doesn't have to go to one!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi LovingMe,
You have to prioritize!. If you're only a year away from your degree, you go for it! Your son can resume soccer in another year!. And he'll be less stressed when you're less stressed!.
Can your mom take your son to piano lessons!? What about a friend, or a mother of one of your son's friends!?
Remember that your goal and your priority is to make both your lives better so one year without soccer or piano won't scar him for life!.
You can buy him a small baby grand piano when you get your new job after graduation!
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You have to prioritize!. If you're only a year away from your degree, you go for it! Your son can resume soccer in another year!. And he'll be less stressed when you're less stressed!.
Can your mom take your son to piano lessons!? What about a friend, or a mother of one of your son's friends!?
Remember that your goal and your priority is to make both your lives better so one year without soccer or piano won't scar him for life!.
You can buy him a small baby grand piano when you get your new job after graduation!
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
shame on your mom for putting up such a fight with you, if she did care she could be the one to take him to soccer!. You need someone to take him to those games because that will be perfect for you!. Where is his father!? Anyways, do you have any siblings who can help!? Or cousins!? or aunts or uncles!? Really, is your mom the only person you can go to!? Don't you have friends!? People always forget to see all the people in their lives who would be willing to help out!. Why not give whoever helps some money once a week for helping out!? Families do that for eachother all the time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Obviously your education takes precedent over soccer, however your son would benefit from team sports in a way that is not possible with piano lessons!. Physical activity, friendships, and feelings of team spirit!.!.!.
Explore every option for your son going to soccer!.!.!.is he old enough to go to and from using public transportation!? Maybe there is some way that he can catch a ride with a teammate!.!.!.maybe a friend of yours can help out!.
If it can't be done, let him know that you've explored every avenue!.!.!.it will be hard for him to accept, but easier knowing that mom really tried!.
Keep your head up!.!.!.sounds like you're doing all the right things!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Explore every option for your son going to soccer!.!.!.is he old enough to go to and from using public transportation!? Maybe there is some way that he can catch a ride with a teammate!.!.!.maybe a friend of yours can help out!.
If it can't be done, let him know that you've explored every avenue!.!.!.it will be hard for him to accept, but easier knowing that mom really tried!.
Keep your head up!.!.!.sounds like you're doing all the right things!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
oh lord i know how you feel!
things that help me are breathing!. in for 8, out for 8!.
knowing that everything will work out in the end!. there's no other way for it to be!. it will be ok
exercise relieves stress!. you may feel like there's no time, but i bet you'll be more productive with your time if you take a little out for yourself!. just go for a walk & daydream, don't worry!.
don't think about the problem, concentrate on the solution!. take steps, no matter how small, to get where you want to be!. at least you can feel better that you're moving in the right direction!.
i also like yoga, tea, or sitting in the park to relieve stress!. & hugs!
you'll be ok :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
things that help me are breathing!. in for 8, out for 8!.
knowing that everything will work out in the end!. there's no other way for it to be!. it will be ok
exercise relieves stress!. you may feel like there's no time, but i bet you'll be more productive with your time if you take a little out for yourself!. just go for a walk & daydream, don't worry!.
don't think about the problem, concentrate on the solution!. take steps, no matter how small, to get where you want to be!. at least you can feel better that you're moving in the right direction!.
i also like yoga, tea, or sitting in the park to relieve stress!. & hugs!
you'll be ok :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Is it possible to find another mother who is willing to take your son to soccer when you have to miss!? You could take her child when you are able to go!.
Piano lessons are very nice!. But it is also nice for them to play sports if they can to keep in shape!.
One other option is a big brother from college!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Piano lessons are very nice!. But it is also nice for them to play sports if they can to keep in shape!.
One other option is a big brother from college!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
just sit back a min!. you said u are a mom now i know as a mother there are things that are hard to do but just think !.in five years from know he will not remember that u pick on activity over the other he is going to remember the felling he got then!and there is never enough money some how it all always works it self out!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well if it's just for 1 year, it's ok to do what you need to for the financial future of your family!. I had to take my daughter out of cheer ( she did it for 4 years), last year because we could'nt afford it!. She is 12 now, but did understand that we had to do it!. You do what you have to, and trust God will take over for you and it will be ok!. Good Luck!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'd recommend that, although it may make you feel as if you're disappointing your kid, you continue taking classes because that will put you both in a better place in the future!.
He may feel sad at first, but maybe you could get him involved in some free things to do such as getting books and movies from your local library!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He may feel sad at first, but maybe you could get him involved in some free things to do such as getting books and movies from your local library!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Check with your local Social Services!. If you're a single mom, a lot of times the state will pay for your education and if your in your final year that would definately give you a leg up!. I don't believe in "hand outs"; but I DO believe in "hand ups"!!! Best of luck to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why don't you put on your favourite music and go lie down!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
goo have some fun for once
go get some massage
go to the spa
with a friend or something
have one day for yourselfWww@Answer-Health@Com
go get some massage
go to the spa
with a friend or something
have one day for yourselfWww@Answer-Health@Com
exerciseWww@Answer-Health@Com
well first get the money then pay wat u need to $$$$$$=)Www@Answer-Health@Com
We all (parents) want to do absolutely everything we can for our children, to make their lives better than ours or our parents' were -- that's only natural -- but there's only so much of you that you can give away!. You are in school to improve the quality of his life (as well as your own)!. Give yourself credit for that!. It sounds like your plate is pretty full without adding anything else!. The quality (of the time you spend with him and the things you do for him) is far more important in the long run than the quantity!.
I'd let him focus on piano for the next year!. Adding another activity may actually put additional stress on him as well!. After you graduate, if he wants to play soccer as well, you'll have more time to devote to attending his games, etc!.
We all have to draw the line somewhere, and I'd say you're there!. In a movie, Clint Eastwood said "a man has got to know his limitations"!. That applies to women too!.!.!.
Good luck, take a deep breath, and know that this too shall pass!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'd let him focus on piano for the next year!. Adding another activity may actually put additional stress on him as well!. After you graduate, if he wants to play soccer as well, you'll have more time to devote to attending his games, etc!.
We all have to draw the line somewhere, and I'd say you're there!. In a movie, Clint Eastwood said "a man has got to know his limitations"!. That applies to women too!.!.!.
Good luck, take a deep breath, and know that this too shall pass!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com