Am I still a virgin? I have no way of knowing, please read on...?!
Question: Am I still a virgin!? I have no way of knowing, please read on!.!.!.!?
Ok, so, when I was about 5 years old, we had an old man for a neighbor!. He used to give me candies!. Then, he asked me to lie down and he got on top of me!. He started penetrating but I remember that he was being gentle with me!. He did not have complete penetration though!. When I get back home, I started to notice that there was blood on my undies and I was so scared!. I did not told my parents about it!. Now, my boyfriend wants us to do 'it' and he's really expecting that I'm a virgin!. I'm scared to tell him about that incident!. What do I do!? Do you think I'm a virgin still!? My boyfriend is old-fashioned, I think he'd leave me if I am no longer 'pure' as he put it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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If this old man is still alive, he is still doing it to other little kids!. He should be grabbed by the cops immediately, regardless of the time factor!. If you let it slide you think somehow you were responsible for it!. You are NOT!. This man should be stopped NOW!.
If he is dead, so be it!.
You were a victim of rape!. This is no joke especially for a little kid!. You must not "suck it up" and move on!.!.!.!.you need a little help to put it in the right file inside your heart!.
How is it you were allowed to wander around alone so that this could happen to begin with!?!?!? This is SO not your fault!.
Blood means the hymen was broken!.
To all intents and purposes you are a virgin!. But technically you likely aren't!.
I would discuss this with your boyfriend before you take the plunge!. Don't have sex first and then talk about it!. You won't relax during sex for one thing, thinking about it, and if you discover he judges you for the rape, you will feel terrible if you already had sex with him!.
Pay attention to how he reacts when you tell him!. If he is very sensitive to you and shows he cares a lot, then you are very lucky and everything will work out right!. If he judges you even a little bit, dump him!.
Tell your mother!. She needs to know!.
The time is over for you to be too embarrassed to tell her!.
Also, get the hell on the pill because all you need at such a young age is an unwanted pregnancy which can happen in a second at any time of the month!. Take charge of your body dear!.!.!.!.it's yours, nobody else's!.
If that old man is still alive, call the friggin cops!.
Don't let another child experience what you did!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If he is dead, so be it!.
You were a victim of rape!. This is no joke especially for a little kid!. You must not "suck it up" and move on!.!.!.!.you need a little help to put it in the right file inside your heart!.
How is it you were allowed to wander around alone so that this could happen to begin with!?!?!? This is SO not your fault!.
Blood means the hymen was broken!.
To all intents and purposes you are a virgin!. But technically you likely aren't!.
I would discuss this with your boyfriend before you take the plunge!. Don't have sex first and then talk about it!. You won't relax during sex for one thing, thinking about it, and if you discover he judges you for the rape, you will feel terrible if you already had sex with him!.
Pay attention to how he reacts when you tell him!. If he is very sensitive to you and shows he cares a lot, then you are very lucky and everything will work out right!. If he judges you even a little bit, dump him!.
Tell your mother!. She needs to know!.
The time is over for you to be too embarrassed to tell her!.
Also, get the hell on the pill because all you need at such a young age is an unwanted pregnancy which can happen in a second at any time of the month!. Take charge of your body dear!.!.!.!.it's yours, nobody else's!.
If that old man is still alive, call the friggin cops!.
Don't let another child experience what you did!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If your boyfriend was really old-fashioned he probably would wait until marriage to have sex with you!. Considering your tragic situation you are whatever you want to consider yourself!. Your boyfriend won't be able to tell in all reality!. Be safe and use protection!. Also don't do it if you don't want to!. Give it a good long thought and another week of waiting so you don't make an impulsive decision!. You can't even say sex or intercourse, you said "it"!. I really think you need to reflect on your decision!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If he is 'pure' then he wouldn't want to have sex before mariage!.
At 5, I dont even think it's possible for a man to penetrate!.
A person (not even a doctor) can't tell if you're a virgin!. The hymen might have been broken from something other than a penis!. A tampon, exercise or riding a horse might have already broken it!.
Virginity is a state of mind!. If you think you're still a virgin, then no one can take that away from you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
At 5, I dont even think it's possible for a man to penetrate!.
A person (not even a doctor) can't tell if you're a virgin!. The hymen might have been broken from something other than a penis!. A tampon, exercise or riding a horse might have already broken it!.
Virginity is a state of mind!. If you think you're still a virgin, then no one can take that away from you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you are still a virgin because what he did to you is considered rape!. you were only five years old and you werent intentionally having sex, you didnt know what was going on!. you did absolutely nothing wrong in this case, so if your boyfriend is trustworthy, you should tell him about it!. but remember, you are still a virgin in your mind because you didnt want to have sex with that man!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
the way I see it is you are still pure in heart!. You can not change the fact what this Pedophile done to you!. As for as I see it you are a virgin and I would not consider you anything but!. So just stick with that and never tell him any different!. The Pedophile has already taken from you do not let him have anymore control over your life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If your boyfriend truly cares for you he will understand why you are not a virgin!. Tell him what happened, its not like you were accepting of it nor aware of what was really happening to you at that age!.
And, if he leaves you because of what your neighbor did, then he is truly not worth it anyway and not deserving of having sex with you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
And, if he leaves you because of what your neighbor did, then he is truly not worth it anyway and not deserving of having sex with you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
sorry but if you were bleeding you are not a virgin any more and if you boyfriend wants you to still be a virgin and as you said he might leave you if you are not pure why is he trying to make you not pure!. if your boyfriend cares that you are pure or not he would not want to do "it" before marriageWww@Answer-Health@Com
well thats too bad about your neighbor i'm sorry!. !. !. but i think your boyfriend will totally understand!. !. !. and quit frankly he'll probally be happy that he's your first and he won't get blood on him!. !. !. and if you aren't ready to tell him don't he won't ask you why your cherry didnt popWww@Answer-Health@Com
You don't have to tell him anything!. If that is a part of your past that you do not feel like re-living, then there is no one telling you that you have to!.
You make the rules with your life!. You did nothing wrong, and you can do whatever you want with what happened!.
However, if you feel that you must tell him, then you should and hopefully he will understand!.
good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You make the rules with your life!. You did nothing wrong, and you can do whatever you want with what happened!.
However, if you feel that you must tell him, then you should and hopefully he will understand!.
good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
that was my question too!.!. am still a virgin!?!?!.!. in your part!.!. i think your not a virgin anymore!.!. just told your bf about what happen!.!. because i told to my bf what happen to me!.!. and that was my cousin!.!. but he still love me!.!. and we're still in relationship now!.!. when we got sex 4 the 1st time!.!. there no blood that came out!.!.and he was expecting on it!.!. but then i told him what happen and he understand me!.!. i think he will understand you!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if hes leaves you because someone invaded ur space when you were five he doesnt deserve you!. you should tell him that you had no controll and that to yourself you are pure but remember sex isnt the way to love so make sure hes the ONE you really think is worth itWww@Answer-Health@Com
First of all!.!. sorry that happened to you and sorry but no!.!. you're not a virgin, I believe you should tell your boyfriend and if he loves you he'll understand, if he leaves you- he's not right for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think if you trust him completely you should tell him, then he should understand!. If he doesn't accept you after that, then he obviously isn't the right guy for you!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
it seems like u were raped y didnt u tell ur parents!?!?
and well u should tell him wat happend, if he still gets mad and leaves you then hes not worth itWww@Answer-Health@Com
and well u should tell him wat happend, if he still gets mad and leaves you then hes not worth itWww@Answer-Health@Com
First off if he leaves you for being raped at 5 then your better off without himWww@Answer-Health@Com
yea, i think u still are a virgin!. that wasz a long time ago so it doesn't really matterWww@Answer-Health@Com
ok first of all, tf this happened to you no matter how gentle the old man was you were only 5 your little body was not ready for a grown and hard mans penis!. If there was blood in your panties how did your mom never notice this!? Did she not wash your clothes!? Moving along with other things if your boyfriend leaves you because someone raped you when you were an innocent child and considers you not pure then by all means do not give yourself to such a jerk!. That would be a red warning as to why not to be sexually intimate with him!. The other thing is I dont think you are anymore but the only way of really knowing is to have a doctor tell you this!. I truly hope that more than wanting to have sex with this person you consider yourself as a valuable human being and think of yourself way more than this!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I do not think he would leave you over what happen and if he did he is not even worth being around!. Also he can not hold such high standards and be 'old fashion' about things if he is going to fly in the face of hypocrasy and have sex before marrage!.
You were abused and assulted that is NEVER your fault and even though this may be years later you NEED to tell your parents, if he has done this to you ho many other girls has he done it to and will do it to!? You done nothing wrong he was a sick and perverted predator!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You were abused and assulted that is NEVER your fault and even though this may be years later you NEED to tell your parents, if he has done this to you ho many other girls has he done it to and will do it to!? You done nothing wrong he was a sick and perverted predator!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
sounds like you were raped honey! Just because he didn't go all the way doesn't mean that you weren't penetrated/raped! Tell your boyfriend up front!. Don't not tell him because then you are more or less lying to him because you are letting him believe a lie!. It's important for you to know that he might not believe you but if he really does love you and trust you he will believe you!. you should really talk to your mom/dad or a counselor about all of it but if you don't want to do that then at least tell your boyfriend!.!.!.it's important for you and your boyfriend to know that it isn't your fault and you didn't choose this!.!.!.I'm really sorry hun; let me know how it all goesWww@Answer-Health@Com