Help! My mom might have an eating disorder? What's a teenage girl supposed t!
Question: Help! My mom might have an eating disorder!? What's a teenage girl supposed to do!?
I'm sorry if this is long, but I'm desperate for help and have no one to turn to!.
My mom is around 5'2 or 5'3 and shes a little less than 110 pounds!. Last year, she was around 120, and has been getting skinnier by the year!. I'm not sure what to think!. Every time she goes to the drug store she buys some kind of diet pills!. Our medicine cabinets are half filled with different vitamins, weight loss pills, and laxatives for her alone!. I always ask her why she has so many and she says they keep her healthy!. She eats at least 2 meals a day, but I notice they're very small meals!. I rarely see her eat breakfast!. Normally she just has some coffee (which is known to decrease a person's appetite)!. I don't know if that's just a coincidence, but it makes me suspicious!. At dinner I see her get a normal plate of food with a decent amount on it, but normally she wont eat everything on it and push it away and complain about how full she is!. She's constantly cleaning and always out of the house (which means she's almost always away from food or the thought of food)!. She keeps tons of food in the fridge, but leaves it all for the other 4 people in the house to eat!. I rarely ever see her snack unless its an oreo or 2 every once in a while!. She never goes to the gym at all, although she used to about 2 years ago!. My mom says that she stays so "fit" because her job as a painter is strenuous and causes her to stay skinny, but I do more work then her at the gym every night and my weight barely changes at all! It's sickening the way her stomach is!. Not an ounce of fat on it!. Her arms are as thin as mine!. She doesn't LOOK anorexic, but I'm worried she's on the path to becoming that way!. She just looks skinny!. All the food she buys is "organic" or "low-fat!."
I tried to talk to her about it but she just laughed it off and said I was being ridiculous!. She said that it was just eating healthy that made her that way, but something tells me there's more to it than that!. I talked to her boyfriend about it too!. He said my mom is just skinny because she has a different "build" than me!.
I don't know what to do anymore!. I'm 5'0 and around 105-107 pounds!. Every time I look at my mom, it makes me feel horrible!. Sometimes I feel the need to compete with her!. I go through random periods of 2-3 days where I will barely eat anything and crash diet or starve myself, but I can't seem to last more then 3 days before I break down!. Every time I look in the mirror I see fat!. I see extremely thin people and I want to be like them!. Whenever I eat too much I hurt myself and punish myself by taking all of the covers off of my bed and sleeping in the cold on a bare mattress!. I'm not anorexic yet, but I know I'm on the path to becoming one if I don't do something!. The only thing keeping me from being anorexic is that I don't want my boobs to get small!.
One of my best friends is anorexic and has told me that she's been worried about me because I started out just like her (she's in the hospital now and almost had to be tube fed)!. She said I was just like her, and she ended up getting worse as the years went by!. When I turned vegetarian, I lost about 10 pounds and she said that worried her that I might be doing it for the wrong reasons because she's vegetarian because she wants to be skinny!. She suggested me a special place to go to for anorexia, but I haven't looked it up!. I don't want to go!. I just want to be skinny and I don't want anyone to stop me!.
I tried to talk to my mom about how I was insecure about my weight!. She just LAUGHED about it and said I was being ridiculous!.
I don't want to tell them about my insecurities or about how I feel!. I've tried before and all they do is laugh at me!. I don't want to go to a clinic because I don't think I need it yet!. I'm not anorexic!. I know I need help, but I don't know how to get it!. My only friend who understands is in the hospital and out of reach!.
I just want to be skinny!.
I don't think anything that people tell me will stop me, but please offer me some advice!?
I don't want to be this way!.
I'm only 15!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My mom is around 5'2 or 5'3 and shes a little less than 110 pounds!. Last year, she was around 120, and has been getting skinnier by the year!. I'm not sure what to think!. Every time she goes to the drug store she buys some kind of diet pills!. Our medicine cabinets are half filled with different vitamins, weight loss pills, and laxatives for her alone!. I always ask her why she has so many and she says they keep her healthy!. She eats at least 2 meals a day, but I notice they're very small meals!. I rarely see her eat breakfast!. Normally she just has some coffee (which is known to decrease a person's appetite)!. I don't know if that's just a coincidence, but it makes me suspicious!. At dinner I see her get a normal plate of food with a decent amount on it, but normally she wont eat everything on it and push it away and complain about how full she is!. She's constantly cleaning and always out of the house (which means she's almost always away from food or the thought of food)!. She keeps tons of food in the fridge, but leaves it all for the other 4 people in the house to eat!. I rarely ever see her snack unless its an oreo or 2 every once in a while!. She never goes to the gym at all, although she used to about 2 years ago!. My mom says that she stays so "fit" because her job as a painter is strenuous and causes her to stay skinny, but I do more work then her at the gym every night and my weight barely changes at all! It's sickening the way her stomach is!. Not an ounce of fat on it!. Her arms are as thin as mine!. She doesn't LOOK anorexic, but I'm worried she's on the path to becoming that way!. She just looks skinny!. All the food she buys is "organic" or "low-fat!."
I tried to talk to her about it but she just laughed it off and said I was being ridiculous!. She said that it was just eating healthy that made her that way, but something tells me there's more to it than that!. I talked to her boyfriend about it too!. He said my mom is just skinny because she has a different "build" than me!.
I don't know what to do anymore!. I'm 5'0 and around 105-107 pounds!. Every time I look at my mom, it makes me feel horrible!. Sometimes I feel the need to compete with her!. I go through random periods of 2-3 days where I will barely eat anything and crash diet or starve myself, but I can't seem to last more then 3 days before I break down!. Every time I look in the mirror I see fat!. I see extremely thin people and I want to be like them!. Whenever I eat too much I hurt myself and punish myself by taking all of the covers off of my bed and sleeping in the cold on a bare mattress!. I'm not anorexic yet, but I know I'm on the path to becoming one if I don't do something!. The only thing keeping me from being anorexic is that I don't want my boobs to get small!.
One of my best friends is anorexic and has told me that she's been worried about me because I started out just like her (she's in the hospital now and almost had to be tube fed)!. She said I was just like her, and she ended up getting worse as the years went by!. When I turned vegetarian, I lost about 10 pounds and she said that worried her that I might be doing it for the wrong reasons because she's vegetarian because she wants to be skinny!. She suggested me a special place to go to for anorexia, but I haven't looked it up!. I don't want to go!. I just want to be skinny and I don't want anyone to stop me!.
I tried to talk to my mom about how I was insecure about my weight!. She just LAUGHED about it and said I was being ridiculous!.
I don't want to tell them about my insecurities or about how I feel!. I've tried before and all they do is laugh at me!. I don't want to go to a clinic because I don't think I need it yet!. I'm not anorexic!. I know I need help, but I don't know how to get it!. My only friend who understands is in the hospital and out of reach!.
I just want to be skinny!.
I don't think anything that people tell me will stop me, but please offer me some advice!?
I don't want to be this way!.
I'm only 15!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Eating is and should be enjoyable!. You are setting yourself up with severe mental problems that will end in dispair, potentially harming yourself (like cutting) when punishing yourself by sleeping on the floor is not severe enough if you do not let it go!. I love eating and I do it often!. I am 5'7 and 128 lbs, and I wear anywhere 'from a size 4 to a 0 depending on the cut!. I weigh more than you but I am not fat, I have it but it is nothing to make me hate my body!.
Life is too short to be caught up with insecurites!.
Hon you are near your ideal weight, but you are also still growing!.
two things I need to say to you!.
1!.) you say "I just want to be skinny"!. But if you have the anorexic mentality then you will never be skinny!. Not even if you weigh 75lbs!. You will always look in the mirror and see a cow!.
2!.) You also say that "I don't want to go to a clinic because I don't think I need it yet!. Yet!? You need to talk to a professional about your insecurites!.
You are being ridiculous about your weight!. Most girls your age would be so incredibly envious at weighing less than 110!. Look around you at the size 14-24 size girls your age!.
Next time that voice says you are fat or ugly answer it back and say "Fu k You" I like me how I am so fu k off"Www@Answer-Health@Com
Life is too short to be caught up with insecurites!.
Hon you are near your ideal weight, but you are also still growing!.
two things I need to say to you!.
1!.) you say "I just want to be skinny"!. But if you have the anorexic mentality then you will never be skinny!. Not even if you weigh 75lbs!. You will always look in the mirror and see a cow!.
2!.) You also say that "I don't want to go to a clinic because I don't think I need it yet!. Yet!? You need to talk to a professional about your insecurites!.
You are being ridiculous about your weight!. Most girls your age would be so incredibly envious at weighing less than 110!. Look around you at the size 14-24 size girls your age!.
Next time that voice says you are fat or ugly answer it back and say "Fu k You" I like me how I am so fu k off"Www@Answer-Health@Com
I agree, your mother is on her way to developing a very serius eating disorder, and has paved the way for you mentally already!. Do you have other family members that you can turn to that will help support both you and her!?
Also, therapy is not such a bad thing!. That is all it is therapy, that teaches us to help correctly think and not brainwash ourselves into believing that only one way is right!. My family and I eat organic, low-fat to no fat, and we are all in excellent health!. It is possible to be addicted to diet pills physchologically and mentally!. As for that voice in your head!.!.!.!.you can defeat it!.
My mother was, and still, is a compulsive comfort eater!. I was grossly obese as a teen because of the eating habits I mimicked uncounciously from her!. I overcame that though and also overcame my own insecurities, by finding what was right for me after I nearly ended up hospitalized for acute anemia!. I tried to do the "Fat Boy" diet, and!.!.!.well the end results wasn't pretty or hardley even healthy!.
Talk to your Dad, grandmother ,somebody!. Even a family docter and openly and honestly discuss your concerns!. Continue to speak with your Mom!. Don't feel hurt!. If anything feel angry!. She may refuse to change her ways, but learn from her self destructive habits, and don't repeat them!.
I know this is hard on you in every way imaginable, and I hope that even if she may fail, you will succeed!. You have a good heart!. Don't take that from yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also, therapy is not such a bad thing!. That is all it is therapy, that teaches us to help correctly think and not brainwash ourselves into believing that only one way is right!. My family and I eat organic, low-fat to no fat, and we are all in excellent health!. It is possible to be addicted to diet pills physchologically and mentally!. As for that voice in your head!.!.!.!.you can defeat it!.
My mother was, and still, is a compulsive comfort eater!. I was grossly obese as a teen because of the eating habits I mimicked uncounciously from her!. I overcame that though and also overcame my own insecurities, by finding what was right for me after I nearly ended up hospitalized for acute anemia!. I tried to do the "Fat Boy" diet, and!.!.!.well the end results wasn't pretty or hardley even healthy!.
Talk to your Dad, grandmother ,somebody!. Even a family docter and openly and honestly discuss your concerns!. Continue to speak with your Mom!. Don't feel hurt!. If anything feel angry!. She may refuse to change her ways, but learn from her self destructive habits, and don't repeat them!.
I know this is hard on you in every way imaginable, and I hope that even if she may fail, you will succeed!. You have a good heart!. Don't take that from yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
ur mom seems ok to me its u i worry about more try looking in the mirror everyday and pointing out something u like about urself!! ur weight sounds like ur skinny just cause others are skinnier doesn't mean ur not skinny!. anorexics have the problem that when they look in the mirror they see fat when there is none or barely any!. just try to stay healthy and by all means don't starve urself!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Watch the HBO documentary THIN!. Mother's often start their child's eating disorders because they have them and are an example to their children!. I think you need to take your mom to a doctor and I think you should both see a therapist together!. If she is really bad I would suggest checking her into an eating disorder clinic!. Eat three meals a day, lots of veggies, fruit and lean protein!. There is no need to starve yourself just because your mom is!. With proper diet and exercise you should be able to maintain a healthy weight!. But really, you need to get you and your mom some professional help ASAP!. Best of luck : )Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well I use to be that way and I gave up food for a long part of my young life!. And it made me very sick!. But I want to tell you this!. It will damage you thyroid glands and they help your body stay at a normal weight and once you do that it will cause a big problem !. So if you eat right and have the excercise your body needs and do it right !. No matter what the voices say or what others say you are better off!.
They have places to go for help and you should go now before you get to the stage your friend is!. And you see if you go and your mom is having problems she will see what you are doing and she will follow because she will see how much courage you have and she will know it is okay to get help!. Do not let this make your adult life harder then it has to be!. You are in the best part of your life right now This is the time in your life when you should be having a ton of fun!. Going out with friend and seeing movies going to the mall !. Giggling at boys and flirting and not worrying about how big or little you are!. You should be having the time of your life!. Because one of these days you will be my age 50 and you will look back and say maybe I can help some little 15 year old girl who is just now coming up in the world!. So get out there and giggle flirt with boys make eyes at them and have a great time and do not worry about how big you are anywhere on your body!. Worry about how many boys you can date at one time!. LOL And them not find out!. Or How many friend you have and how many more you can get this year!. Or how much time you can spend with your mom !. And make sure you get along with her!. Cause there will come a day when she will not be that smart!. At least not to you!. Then it will take you another 5 or so years and she will be the smartest woman you know!.
So skinny or fat is not something to worry about!. You have so many other things to think about!. LOL Please see someone about now thou!.
Before it becomes something bad and Mom will follow and if she does not when you start to get the help you need they will teach you how to help her too!. Good Luck and I hope you start to live and not worry so much!. Momma J!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
They have places to go for help and you should go now before you get to the stage your friend is!. And you see if you go and your mom is having problems she will see what you are doing and she will follow because she will see how much courage you have and she will know it is okay to get help!. Do not let this make your adult life harder then it has to be!. You are in the best part of your life right now This is the time in your life when you should be having a ton of fun!. Going out with friend and seeing movies going to the mall !. Giggling at boys and flirting and not worrying about how big or little you are!. You should be having the time of your life!. Because one of these days you will be my age 50 and you will look back and say maybe I can help some little 15 year old girl who is just now coming up in the world!. So get out there and giggle flirt with boys make eyes at them and have a great time and do not worry about how big you are anywhere on your body!. Worry about how many boys you can date at one time!. LOL And them not find out!. Or How many friend you have and how many more you can get this year!. Or how much time you can spend with your mom !. And make sure you get along with her!. Cause there will come a day when she will not be that smart!. At least not to you!. Then it will take you another 5 or so years and she will be the smartest woman you know!.
So skinny or fat is not something to worry about!. You have so many other things to think about!. LOL Please see someone about now thou!.
Before it becomes something bad and Mom will follow and if she does not when you start to get the help you need they will teach you how to help her too!. Good Luck and I hope you start to live and not worry so much!. Momma J!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
girl!.
whose problem is it, yours or your mothers!? eat when you're hungry, stop when you're not!.
organic has nothing to do with low fat!.
edit: then youre setting yourself up for failure!. obviously it's psychological!. so start there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
whose problem is it, yours or your mothers!? eat when you're hungry, stop when you're not!.
organic has nothing to do with low fat!.
edit: then youre setting yourself up for failure!. obviously it's psychological!. so start there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com