Are there any ways to make my first time hurt less?!
Question: Are there any ways to make my first time hurt less!?
I have the opportunity to loose my virginity with a boy who loves me, but we tried to have sex, and it hurt me too much!. It was really embarrassing and I want to try again, is there any way I can make it hurt less!? Www@Answer-Health@Com
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everybody's first time hurts even if your a guy if the girl is to tight then it kind of hurts for them, but use LOTS of lubrication and on top of that a lubricated condom, but if you really like them then even thought it hurts the first time if will feel good, it does not matter how old you are, if you have never done it than it will always feel the same way, but if you want to make sure that you are looser up there than start with your finger or let him and than when he is move your hips a little the all over motion of his fingers should loosen up your muscles and things of that nature but still use Lube and let him take over and if you have the oppertunity Scream it may make it better and he will get turned on even more, but when he is hard it is easyer to get it in, because then it is strong enought to penetrate and trust me deep pentration feels good, your first time will be the best but make sure he is the one you want to give it toWww@Answer-Health@Com
Make sure you have lots of privacy for quite a long time (two hours or more is a good idea) because not only might there be some uncomfortable, embarrassing or painful moments along the way, but there's more to the first time than just "doing it", and you'll have a lot of stuff to talk about afterwards - you do *not* want any of this to be interrupted!.
When it comes to intercourse, tell your guy that *you* will be the one to say "stop" if anything's wrong (like pain, or even if you just chicken out) and that it's up to him to remember that when you tell him "stop"!.
Don't even *try* unless you're very turned on and very slippery!.!.!. a couple of orgasms first will also help your vagina to be stretchier and more insistent on having something inside - and if you don't get very wet no matter how horny you are, have some water-based lube (KY, Astroglide, Wet or similar) handy and no matter what, go SLOW until you're comfortable!.
That lube will also help prevent breakage of the condom!. Yes, the condom!. There's a name for people who rely on "pulling out" as a method of avoiding pregnancy: "parents"!.
Oral sex is also fine any time at all for either person, at least if both of them are comfortable with it and enjoy it!. Doing it until the person receiving has an orgasm is nicest, but it isn't necessary!. (Oh!.!.!. and there's nothing wrong with a mouthful of hair when it tastes like a horny woman!.!.!. there's no need to be shaved unless you like it that way yourself)!.
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When it comes to intercourse, tell your guy that *you* will be the one to say "stop" if anything's wrong (like pain, or even if you just chicken out) and that it's up to him to remember that when you tell him "stop"!.
Don't even *try* unless you're very turned on and very slippery!.!.!. a couple of orgasms first will also help your vagina to be stretchier and more insistent on having something inside - and if you don't get very wet no matter how horny you are, have some water-based lube (KY, Astroglide, Wet or similar) handy and no matter what, go SLOW until you're comfortable!.
That lube will also help prevent breakage of the condom!. Yes, the condom!. There's a name for people who rely on "pulling out" as a method of avoiding pregnancy: "parents"!.
Oral sex is also fine any time at all for either person, at least if both of them are comfortable with it and enjoy it!. Doing it until the person receiving has an orgasm is nicest, but it isn't necessary!. (Oh!.!.!. and there's nothing wrong with a mouthful of hair when it tastes like a horny woman!.!.!. there's no need to be shaved unless you like it that way yourself)!.
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if it was embarrassing just because it hurt!. then your not ready and your not comfortable with this "boy"!. there is nothing you can do to make it hurt less except for lots of foreplay lots of lube and be as relaxed as possible!. for me!. i was ready and i was turned on!. i was the wettest i had ever been in my life and it still hurt baddd!. it felt like a knife going through me and i cried!. and it felt like that the first 3 or 4 times!. me and him are still together today!. but honey!. if its embarrassing because you were in pain then your not comfortable enough with him whether you think you are or not!. your mind and body are telling you differentWww@Answer-Health@Com
It's hard to make it hurt less!. You are doing a lot of breaking and tearing!. Try a few different positions!. Be creative, but try to do stuff that's going to make you more open and therefore more able!.
also, advise your bf to try a little foreplay!. us guys are notoriously bad about that!.
oh, and relax!. When you tense up, you only make things worse for yourself!. don't focus on the pain, but rather on the experience!.
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also, advise your bf to try a little foreplay!. us guys are notoriously bad about that!.
oh, and relax!. When you tense up, you only make things worse for yourself!. don't focus on the pain, but rather on the experience!.
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Honestly,
You cant really just go at it!. There has to be a certain amount of stimulation for the both of you!. First and foremost relax and take everything in!. Additionally let him stimulate you with his fingers touching different parts of you allowing you to get "wet" which is your body's way of natural lubricant!. If all else fails once your too that point use some lube you can get it at any store! Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com
You cant really just go at it!. There has to be a certain amount of stimulation for the both of you!. First and foremost relax and take everything in!. Additionally let him stimulate you with his fingers touching different parts of you allowing you to get "wet" which is your body's way of natural lubricant!. If all else fails once your too that point use some lube you can get it at any store! Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com
wear condomsWww@Answer-Health@Com