Helping mom through menopause?!
Question: Helping mom through menopause!?
About a month ago my mom started going through "the big change" and its been hell ever since!. She started taking Effexor XR, but stopped because it made her feel ill!. She took that for about a week and it worked really well to control her mood swings, but ever since she's stopped its been awful!.
I can't even talk to her, because everytime I do we get into an argument!. She flips over everything I say and do!. Like the other night for example, I fell asleep on the couch because I didn't sleep well while she was at the driving range with my brother!. She comes home right around the time I wake up and flips out because I didn't clean up after dinner!. I don't usually do this, because I'm very sensitive to smells and gag really easily!. When I explain to her that I wasn't even in the kitchen, just laying on the couch, therefore not seeing dinner wasn't cleaned up she claimed that "I didn't see it because I didn't want to see it (which is so cliche of her)!." She's been bringing this up for the past 3 days and today when we got in an argument about it she actually smacked me and kept claiming that I started the argument with her!.
She can't even see how sensitive and testy she is!. She doesn't realize that she's picking fights with everyone in the house, but mostly me and that we're not starting these fights with her!.
Is there anyway to help her get through this more easily!? Control her mood swings!?
How do you think I should suggest her going back to the gyno to get different medication!? I already told my aunt, her twin, do mention it next time she calls hoping she'll listen to her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I can't even talk to her, because everytime I do we get into an argument!. She flips over everything I say and do!. Like the other night for example, I fell asleep on the couch because I didn't sleep well while she was at the driving range with my brother!. She comes home right around the time I wake up and flips out because I didn't clean up after dinner!. I don't usually do this, because I'm very sensitive to smells and gag really easily!. When I explain to her that I wasn't even in the kitchen, just laying on the couch, therefore not seeing dinner wasn't cleaned up she claimed that "I didn't see it because I didn't want to see it (which is so cliche of her)!." She's been bringing this up for the past 3 days and today when we got in an argument about it she actually smacked me and kept claiming that I started the argument with her!.
She can't even see how sensitive and testy she is!. She doesn't realize that she's picking fights with everyone in the house, but mostly me and that we're not starting these fights with her!.
Is there anyway to help her get through this more easily!? Control her mood swings!?
How do you think I should suggest her going back to the gyno to get different medication!? I already told my aunt, her twin, do mention it next time she calls hoping she'll listen to her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Don't worry, it will pass!. My mom had a hysterectomy 2 years ago and immediately became a menopausal b*tch!. Its tricky to balance out hormones and it just takes time!. Try to be patient and understanding with your mom!. She can't help it, because her hormones are going bananas!. My moms personality got much better once she got a higher dosing of estrogen, I recommend your mom go back to the gynecologist for more medication!. My mom uses two different types of estrogen patches that are changed twice a week!. Hope this helps :) Www@Answer-Health@Com
i have the same problem!. just hideWww@Answer-Health@Com
It takes 2-3 weeks for the side effects of antidepressants to calm down!. It can be quite annoying in the beginning, but it's well worth it!. Here's an articla about coping with side effects: http://www!.webmd!.com/content/article/135!.!.!. Maybe you can print this for her to read so she can be reassured that help is possible!. I think you're on the right track getting her sister to help out!. Try reasoning with her when she's in a relatively good mood, not in the middle of rage!. Good luck to you both :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
My mother is doing the same thing!. Really you can only pray and wait it out!. If you can get her on a really good day and a really good time, ask her to talk to you seriously!. Ultimately though, this is something she has to go through!. Just try to stay out of her way (or play on her sympathy!.!.!. it's worked for me)Www@Answer-Health@Com