Do You Think I Should Have Sex?!
Question: Do You Think I Should Have Sex!?
I am 15 and my Girlfriend is 14!. We have been together for over 6 months and recently I asked did she "want to do it"!. She said yes, although not entirely confidently and I noticed that she became very quiet!. At this stage I didn't know what do, but my penis made the decision;I couldn't get an erection!. I don't know what to do, I love her but I don't want to ruin our relationship if she only wants to do it because I do!. For me this is for more than pleasure, any girls who have been in my girlfriends position, help would be greatly appreciated!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
First!.!.!. really be *sure*!. (ParamedicGirl is absolutely right about this in the last paragraph she wrote!.)
You're both virgins, and your first full-on sex *should* be with someone you're really gonna want to *be* that intimate with for a while, and I don't just mean the physical intimacy because there's a lot of mental and emotional stuff that comes with the hormones and hangups that fill the sexual territory between partners!. You'll be MUCH better and happier for choosing such a person!.!.!. trust me on this point, OK!?
First-timing can be pretty disappointing for girls, not just because it's often painful (at least at first), but also because nervousness and awkwardness for both of you can make it very difficult for *her* to concentrate on her own pleasure!. You don't have to worry too much about *your* pleasure: except for some possible emotional stuff, you're going to enjoy it a *lot* - even your first time!. Young men are lucky that way, sure, but it's also a very rare man indeed (but not at all a rare woman) who can have several orgasms in less than half an hour!. :-)
Advice!? Tips!? Good things to plan for and think about!?
Make sure you have lots of privacy for quite a long time (two hours or more is a good idea) because not only might there be some uncomfortable, embarrassing or painful moments along the way, but there's more to the first time than just "doing it", and you'll have a lot of stuff to talk about afterwards - you do *not* want any of this to be interrupted!.
When it comes to intercourse, tell her that *she* will be the one to say "stop" if anything's wrong (like pain, or even if she just chickens out) and that it's up to you to remember that when she tells you "stop", she means it!.
Don't even *try* unless she's very turned on and very slippery!.!.!. a couple of orgasms first will also help her vagina to be stretchier and more insistent on having something inside - and if she doesn't get very wet no matter how horny she is, have some water-based lube (KY, Astroglide, Wet or similar) handy and no matter what, go SLOW until she's comfortable!.
That lube will also help prevent breakage of the condom!. Yes, the condom!. There's a name for people who rely on "pulling out" as a method of avoiding pregnancy: "parents"!.!.!. or sometimes "parents with STDs"!.
Any pain she may feel will go away in a few minutes to a couple of days (sometimes there's a little bruising), and after it's over with, each time will be *much* better if you both stick to everything above!.
Oral sex is also fine any time at all for either person, at least if both of them are comfortable with it and enjoy it!. Doing it until the person receiving has an orgasm is nicest, but it isn't necessary!. (Oh!.!.!. and there's nothing wrong with a mouthful of hair when it tastes like a horny woman who loves you!.!.!. so there's no need for her to be shaved unless she likes it that way herself)!.
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I'm a guy, and I'm almost 50 years old, but I would have benefited hugely from most of this advice myself the first time *I* had sex - at age 13!.
Since then, I've raised 4 kids who've grown up to be fairly responsible and (more important) sexually healthy people!. I'd *like* to think that their mothers and I were the ones who helped them to become that way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You're both virgins, and your first full-on sex *should* be with someone you're really gonna want to *be* that intimate with for a while, and I don't just mean the physical intimacy because there's a lot of mental and emotional stuff that comes with the hormones and hangups that fill the sexual territory between partners!. You'll be MUCH better and happier for choosing such a person!.!.!. trust me on this point, OK!?
First-timing can be pretty disappointing for girls, not just because it's often painful (at least at first), but also because nervousness and awkwardness for both of you can make it very difficult for *her* to concentrate on her own pleasure!. You don't have to worry too much about *your* pleasure: except for some possible emotional stuff, you're going to enjoy it a *lot* - even your first time!. Young men are lucky that way, sure, but it's also a very rare man indeed (but not at all a rare woman) who can have several orgasms in less than half an hour!. :-)
Advice!? Tips!? Good things to plan for and think about!?
Make sure you have lots of privacy for quite a long time (two hours or more is a good idea) because not only might there be some uncomfortable, embarrassing or painful moments along the way, but there's more to the first time than just "doing it", and you'll have a lot of stuff to talk about afterwards - you do *not* want any of this to be interrupted!.
When it comes to intercourse, tell her that *she* will be the one to say "stop" if anything's wrong (like pain, or even if she just chickens out) and that it's up to you to remember that when she tells you "stop", she means it!.
Don't even *try* unless she's very turned on and very slippery!.!.!. a couple of orgasms first will also help her vagina to be stretchier and more insistent on having something inside - and if she doesn't get very wet no matter how horny she is, have some water-based lube (KY, Astroglide, Wet or similar) handy and no matter what, go SLOW until she's comfortable!.
That lube will also help prevent breakage of the condom!. Yes, the condom!. There's a name for people who rely on "pulling out" as a method of avoiding pregnancy: "parents"!.!.!. or sometimes "parents with STDs"!.
Any pain she may feel will go away in a few minutes to a couple of days (sometimes there's a little bruising), and after it's over with, each time will be *much* better if you both stick to everything above!.
Oral sex is also fine any time at all for either person, at least if both of them are comfortable with it and enjoy it!. Doing it until the person receiving has an orgasm is nicest, but it isn't necessary!. (Oh!.!.!. and there's nothing wrong with a mouthful of hair when it tastes like a horny woman who loves you!.!.!. so there's no need for her to be shaved unless she likes it that way herself)!.
Source(s):
I'm a guy, and I'm almost 50 years old, but I would have benefited hugely from most of this advice myself the first time *I* had sex - at age 13!.
Since then, I've raised 4 kids who've grown up to be fairly responsible and (more important) sexually healthy people!. I'd *like* to think that their mothers and I were the ones who helped them to become that way!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your penis is perfectly normal!. All men experience luck of an erection or premature ejaculation if conditions are not right!.
Sometimes it reflects how you feel unconsciously!.
Right now it is telling you that neither of you is ready for sex!.
You are very young!. Just wait few more years, everything will be right!.
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Sometimes it reflects how you feel unconsciously!.
Right now it is telling you that neither of you is ready for sex!.
You are very young!. Just wait few more years, everything will be right!.
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Even before I saw your age, my first reaction was that if you have to ask a bunch of strangers, then you are not ready!.
If either of you is unsure then you are not ready!.
If you can't talk open and honestly to each other about sex, you are not ready!.
If you haven't talked protection, you are not ready!.
The pressures of being a 14 year old girl is tough enough without throwing sex into the mix!. I'm sure it's the same for you!. Your body and friends might be screaming "Go for it" but you should consider the situation more seriously!.
Talk to a trusted adult!.!.!.
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If either of you is unsure then you are not ready!.
If you can't talk open and honestly to each other about sex, you are not ready!.
If you haven't talked protection, you are not ready!.
The pressures of being a 14 year old girl is tough enough without throwing sex into the mix!. I'm sure it's the same for you!. Your body and friends might be screaming "Go for it" but you should consider the situation more seriously!.
Talk to a trusted adult!.!.!.
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well your not ready yourself so it really doesent matter if she is or not although at 14 shes way too young to be having sex just wait a couple more years you have all life to have sex!. and it wont be good till you are both ready anyway so its best to waitWww@Answer-Health@Com
i agree with most of the other posts!.
really, you know you shouldn't do it!.!.!. why else would you come here!.
AND you noticed that she became quiet after you talked about it!.
don't do it, you guys are not ready at all!.!.!. you will regret it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
really, you know you shouldn't do it!.!.!. why else would you come here!.
AND you noticed that she became quiet after you talked about it!.
don't do it, you guys are not ready at all!.!.!. you will regret it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think you should respect her decision no matter what it is, but you should ask her "truthfully, do you want to have sex at all!?" sometimes along those lines!.
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14 and 15 yrs old shouldn't have sex Www@Answer-Health@Com
She's not entirely comfortable with it!?
Please don't do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Please don't do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Its obvious she doesn't want to do it!. Respect her and your body after all your only 15!Www@Answer-Health@Com
No, you're too young!.
This will make your relationship awkward!.
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This will make your relationship awkward!.
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No, not yet!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would highly advise against it, you guys are too young, your minds and personalities haven't fully matured yet!. And if you really do love each other, you'll still be there when you're older!. You're just too young to make this decision with any certainty that you won't regret it, especially your girlfriend, since the repercussions can often be worse for women!. You may think you're mature enough, but trust me, you probably aren't, I mean, just think how much you've grown and changed in the past few years, you still have a few more years of that growth, it really is probably best to wait for that growth to level out before making such a big decision!.
Ultimately I think it comes down to this: it can't really hurt to wait, if you're really ready now, you will be in a few years, but if you aren't, you could be making a big mistake!. And even if you're ready, she may not be and if you really care about her, I don't think you should take the risk!.
Good luck, hope you make the right decision!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ultimately I think it comes down to this: it can't really hurt to wait, if you're really ready now, you will be in a few years, but if you aren't, you could be making a big mistake!. And even if you're ready, she may not be and if you really care about her, I don't think you should take the risk!.
Good luck, hope you make the right decision!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You really need to sit down with her and talk with her about this!. Tell her to be honest with you about how she feels about it!. That you don't want to pressure her into it if she doesn't want to, and that you love her and want to do it, but that if she is not ready then you will happily wait until you both are!. The main reason you couldn't get an erection that day was because you noticed she wasn't all that confident about it!. It made you unsure, so your body reacted!. If she didn't act confident about it, then most likely she is not ready!. Talking with her would be your best bet, and she will love you all the more for it!.
Honestly, 14 & 15 is WAY to young to be thinking about sex anyway, there are SO many risks involved, and believe me IT WILL change your relationship, not matter how much you care about each other!. I gave it up at 13, and I have regretted that decision many times!. Especially when I got married, because I was wishing I could have shared that experience with him!.
Ultimately, the decision is up to the two of you though, but be sure that BOTH of you are ready!. Even if you two don't wait until marriage, just waiting until you are both ready will make all of the difference in the world!. It will be a LOT more pleasurable, believe me!. Mainly, because there will not be that underlying fear!. It will also be a lot more special!. Whenever you both do decide that you are ready to make that step, be careful and use protection!. You are both WAY too young for children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Honestly, 14 & 15 is WAY to young to be thinking about sex anyway, there are SO many risks involved, and believe me IT WILL change your relationship, not matter how much you care about each other!. I gave it up at 13, and I have regretted that decision many times!. Especially when I got married, because I was wishing I could have shared that experience with him!.
Ultimately, the decision is up to the two of you though, but be sure that BOTH of you are ready!. Even if you two don't wait until marriage, just waiting until you are both ready will make all of the difference in the world!. It will be a LOT more pleasurable, believe me!. Mainly, because there will not be that underlying fear!. It will also be a lot more special!. Whenever you both do decide that you are ready to make that step, be careful and use protection!. You are both WAY too young for children!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I remember when I was that age, there was a guy I had been with for along time!.!.!. we were both virgins!. He was in the same position you are now!.!.!. and I felt like I needed to!.!.!.!. everyone else was having sex, I thought it was the only way to keep him around or love me!.!.!. it was a mistake in the end!. I didn't hate it, but I regretted it!.
At 14 she is not ready!.!.!. and at 15 neither are you!. Your body might be ahead of you and both of you are going to get urges!. But that doesn't make it the right thing to do!.
Let more time pass!.!.!. let the relationship become more trusting, more comforting, more mature!. If you really believe you are still going to be with her in a few months, then wait this out longer!.
Don't allow yourselves to get into situations where your body is going to over take your mind!.
Knowing what I know now, I can honestly say that you should both wait this out!. You both need to be 100% wanting this!.!.!. and for the right reasons!. Hard ons, being wet, getting hot and heavy are not the right reasons!.!.!. not when there are 2 people with feelings involved!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
At 14 she is not ready!.!.!. and at 15 neither are you!. Your body might be ahead of you and both of you are going to get urges!. But that doesn't make it the right thing to do!.
Let more time pass!.!.!. let the relationship become more trusting, more comforting, more mature!. If you really believe you are still going to be with her in a few months, then wait this out longer!.
Don't allow yourselves to get into situations where your body is going to over take your mind!.
Knowing what I know now, I can honestly say that you should both wait this out!. You both need to be 100% wanting this!.!.!. and for the right reasons!. Hard ons, being wet, getting hot and heavy are not the right reasons!.!.!. not when there are 2 people with feelings involved!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
No dumbass!.!.!. 15 year olds don't need to have sex!.
1!. It's illegal at your age!.
2!. You'll regret it, even if your not caught, take it from someone who has experience in this department!.
3!. It's gonna ruin your relationship, trust me, I broke up with that girl a week later because everything just got so weird afterwords!.!.!. You may call me a jack@ss for screwing and running but it wasn't like that, it was more like she all of a sudden was ignoring me!.
4!. She could get pregnant, how would you like to be a father at 15!?!? Not a fun prospect in my mind at all!.!.!.
5!. She is not entirely sure, sex has to be something the girl and the guy are 100% sure on doing, or otherwhise you could find yourself with a big fat rape charge against you by the girl and her parents!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
1!. It's illegal at your age!.
2!. You'll regret it, even if your not caught, take it from someone who has experience in this department!.
3!. It's gonna ruin your relationship, trust me, I broke up with that girl a week later because everything just got so weird afterwords!.!.!. You may call me a jack@ss for screwing and running but it wasn't like that, it was more like she all of a sudden was ignoring me!.
4!. She could get pregnant, how would you like to be a father at 15!?!? Not a fun prospect in my mind at all!.!.!.
5!. She is not entirely sure, sex has to be something the girl and the guy are 100% sure on doing, or otherwhise you could find yourself with a big fat rape charge against you by the girl and her parents!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hmm!.!.!.Do You have expierience!?!?!?
Or are you a virgin!?!?!?
If you are then you might not be ready!.
If your not, then maybe you dont want to get knocked up
just right now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Or are you a virgin!?!?!?
If you are then you might not be ready!.
If your not, then maybe you dont want to get knocked up
just right now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com