Had a big baby boy in March and am having sexual problems now,what can i do?!


Question: Had a big baby boy in March and am having sexual problems now,what can i do!?
alright,so i gave birth to my almost 9 lb baby boy on March 29th!.!.we have had sex maybe only 3-4 times since then, and every time that we have had sex it has been very painful for me,it feels very sore especially when he goes deep,,and the harder and deeper he goes not only does it hurt worse (feels like a knife) but also i am leaking alot of watery like fluid!.!.it's very embarrassing and irritating to the point that every time i usually end up making him just stop before we even finish!.!.what is causing this!? what is the watery fluid,urine!? and what can i do to stop it all so that i can enjoy being physical with my husband again!.!.!.please only serious answers i'm desperate here!.!.!.thanks alot!.!.!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
I think you'd know by now if your vaginal wall had torn into your urethra or bladder, so rule out urine!. I'm guessing the watery stuff is just more lubrication than you're used to-- your hormones are still different than they were before you had the baby!. For that, put down a towel or two!. If it doesn't smell funny, it's got to be natural lubricant!.

Has your doctor seen you since you healed!? The soreness sounds like scar tissue stretching for the first time!. May need to make sure it's not a hernia or an abdominal wall weakness!.

If your doctor says you're all clear, then I have a few ideas!.

1!. Attend yoga or pilates classes or try yoga/pilates tapes!. This will stretch your muscles, scar tissue and make you stronger

2!. Get physical, but verbally declare a temporary moratorium on vaginal sex!. Have oral sex, manual sex, anal sex, whatever you want, but get a few happy endings behind both of you before you try for PIV sex again!. Maybe try a month of that!? Vaginal pain can be psychological and your vagina endured some trauma, so if that's any part of this problem, successful marital relations will help unravel that knot!.

3!. Try different positions-- Your cervix may be lower than before and he may be hitting it, causing you pain!. Doggie style with your chest lower than your bottom will pull all your organs down with gravity and may get the cervix out of the way!.!.!. you'll have to try a few to see if this works!.

4!. You're going to think I'm a little nuts!.!.!. buy a vibrating silicone toy abut your husband's size or a tad bigger!. I think funfactory would be a good brand because they make beautiful toys with medical-grade supplies!. Normally, I hate vibrators because I think they're desensitizing but I think in your case vibration could help stretch, soothe and restore bloodflow to the stressed areas!. Honestly, I'd play around with it while it's turned on for a bit (with or without husband-- you know if he's up for this, I don't) and then, I'd put it in all the way, lay on my side and take a nap!. If your problem is scar tissue, then only very slow stretching will work!. Scars are not as elastic as vaginal tissue!. An implement you control will also help you identify where the pain is coming from-- abdominal cramps, cervical pain, scar tissue, etc!.

Don't worry-- it really hasn't been that long!. You're still healing!. Good luck!

ETA: Holy unhelpful answers Batman! OBGYNs have a long history of not being able to help women enjoy sex!. Rule out medical issues with a doctor, of course, but taking back your sexual pleasure is something you'll have to do, even if the doctor finds a problem and can treat it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

nobody on here can give you a proper diagnose you have to go and see your doctor he/she is the only one that can help you with this!.
could be the way you were stitched after the birth,(if you did have stitches that is)!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It could be a couple of things, of which only a gynecologist can determine!.

I know you'd like an answer now, but no one can give you one but a doctor!.

Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I second the other person that answered above me!. This isn't normal and we could guess all we want, but you should really go to your OBGYN and get checked out!. Www@Answer-Health@Com





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