Hey, Have A Problem....?!
Question: Hey, Have A Problem!.!.!.!.!?
hey
had my baby girl 8 weeks ago and i have problem
me and my baby's dad ( my boyfriend ) are not as close as we used to, their are this stern on our relationship!. i sit at one side on the sofa and he sits at the other same in bed, we dont cuddle anymore or kiss and have not make love yet!. my boyfriends asks for a cuddle or kiss but i'm not in the mood for it and find it an effort, also when hes walks in from work i sometimes get angry or go in a mood and just canny be assed with him (sorry for the language) all day when hes at work its great and i really enjoy time with my little girl i'm so happy with her but go in a mood when hes walks in and then i feel so bad for thinking and acting like that and cry!. the thing is hes great with lilly our little girl and trys his hardest with house work,dinner and work, hes the best!.
also he keeps gettin on at my to give lilly to my mum or his mum for the night so we can get some sleep but i'm not ready to let her go yet but he dont understand!. and arguing alot more help
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Answers:
I'm a single mum so haven't been through this exact situation but I can empathise with what you're going through!.
After giving birth, your hormones are everywhere!. It's natural for you to want to spend time with your gorgeous baby girl and not to want anyone else to have her!. If your boyfriend truly loves you then he will try and understand this!.
I think you should try and have a conversation with him!. Once your little one is asleep at night, try having a quiet word with him, maybe try a takeaway and dvd night!? You might even want to have a glass of wine (small amounts of alcohol aren't drastically bad if you're breastfeeding)!. Something like this might help you both to feel like grown ups, not just new parents!.
I really think you should at least try and have a little chat with your partner!. Let him know that you're not being accusing but you need him to understand who you feel!. Ask him how he feels and why he feels so strongly about someone babysitting!.
I think its a case of understanding on both sides!. If your mood is really troubling you, go and see your GP!. S/he might be able to suggest some ways to help boost it! The sex side of things will come when its ready - you've just had a baby!!!! Try taking the bbay for a walk together!?!
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After giving birth, your hormones are everywhere!. It's natural for you to want to spend time with your gorgeous baby girl and not to want anyone else to have her!. If your boyfriend truly loves you then he will try and understand this!.
I think you should try and have a conversation with him!. Once your little one is asleep at night, try having a quiet word with him, maybe try a takeaway and dvd night!? You might even want to have a glass of wine (small amounts of alcohol aren't drastically bad if you're breastfeeding)!. Something like this might help you both to feel like grown ups, not just new parents!.
I really think you should at least try and have a little chat with your partner!. Let him know that you're not being accusing but you need him to understand who you feel!. Ask him how he feels and why he feels so strongly about someone babysitting!.
I think its a case of understanding on both sides!. If your mood is really troubling you, go and see your GP!. S/he might be able to suggest some ways to help boost it! The sex side of things will come when its ready - you've just had a baby!!!! Try taking the bbay for a walk together!?!
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i think your boyfriend is feeling rejected!. by the wonderful new addition your baby!.and also think your a bit run down with looking after the baby!. and trying to readjust to the baby's needs!. you should both sit down and have heart to heart talk about the problems!.also you should give lilly to your mum for the night!. i think it well give you both a much needed break!. and have some nice cuddles!. good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ok first of all when your in a normal mood and see him just explain to him how much you love him and you don't mean to do the things you do!. Second see a doctor ASAP your hormones are going crazy because you just had a kid and there trying to readjust!. They can prescribe you some medicine to fix your hormones!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I noe u love ur baby but i think ur boyfriend deserves some attention too if u think he tries his hardest!.
if u let ur mum lk after baby it will be good bonding 4 baby as well with her grannyWww@Answer-Health@Com
if u let ur mum lk after baby it will be good bonding 4 baby as well with her grannyWww@Answer-Health@Com
Tell him or write him a note!. Say what you said here - how you are happy to have him and he is great, but at the moment you are finding this different and a bit difficult to give him intimacy!. Explain you don't want to lose him but that your hormones are making you feel different!. Basically just be honest!. If you think you need to see a doctor, then tell him that as well!. If you think it will just take time, tell him!.
I know you don't want to have a night away from you daughter yet, or even time away, but you and him might need time alone to do something intimate together, so think about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I know you don't want to have a night away from you daughter yet, or even time away, but you and him might need time alone to do something intimate together, so think about it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you need to seek help ASAP B4 it gets out of hand!. U may have post natal depression!. I was diagnosed when my son was 5, after a lot of tears, screaming,sadness & suffering he's now 18 & i still take anti depressants!. Please get help or you will all endup very unhappy!. Nobody can tell you what is right or wrong only you know that so do it as soon as you can Best Wishes 2U & ur family!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to see your OBGYN and have him/her prescribe you an anti depressant you have having classic post pardum symptoms and need to get your body balanced again, they are nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about!. Just relax tell your BF that you are sorry and you still love him and know this has been hard for him too and if he can just bare with you until you get on your medication and get back to normal, pregnant women have enough estrogen in their body's to supply 40 women for the rest of their lives and all that being in 1 body and trying to regulate back down to normal is HARD so do your best to communicate and get to your DR!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Be careful hun cus theres a danger you will!. The partner/hubby often naturally feels left out in this situation when there isnt a problem!. There obviously is so I would got get some help!. Could it be a bit of post-natal depression do you think!? Perhaps you could talk with your Health Visitor/Doctor about it!. Its absolutely normal for lots of new mums but it needs to be addressed before it spirals out of control Good luck and enjoy your new baby!Www@Answer-Health@Com