Ex-boyfriend troubles! help!?!
Question: Ex-boyfriend troubles! help!!?
i just don't know what to do, i know it must get pretty crap reading **** about everyones break ups, but when your really lost a strangers advise sometimes makes the world of difference!. so thankyou if you take the time to read it :)
my boyfriend just dumped me two days ago after 8 months and spending all our time messing around and being totally smitten!.
the evening before he dumped me he was even like "oh i love you so much please never leave me"!. so anyway the next evening he said he didn't love me how in the way i wanted and still wanted to be really good friends but he loved me as a friend!.
i did everything for this boy, i am totally in love with him and after two previous very very shitty relationships i thought id found someone who took care of me and we would be happy for a long time!. obviously not!.
i now find myself completely empty and lost, my world has just crashed, we planned everything together to travel to get a flat together just everything, i'm left with no dreams!. Even though its only been 8months i love him more than the guy i went out with for three years previously!.
so after two days, of crying and just general numbness i gathered all his stuff together in my room the shoes he gave me for my birthday the roses that i dried and kept that he got me once when he was 2hrs late to come over and his clothes and bagged them!. i phoned him to see if he wanted to meet briefly tomorrow so i could hand them over since he said he wanted to see me personally, i phoned him just a second ago and hes at a party!.
a party, he said he wouldnt be happy for a little while, and hes at a bloody party!. loads of girls screaming in the background and just general crap!. he couldnt hear me for the noise so i hung up!.
i dont know what to do, i love this guy from my toes to the tips of my ears, but he said he doesn't want to get back so i have got three choices,
1!. try and move on, when all i really want is him!.
2!. be his friend, its better than not having him in my life at all although i worry i wont be able to move on with him around
3!. block all contact with someone who means the world to me!.
thankyou :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
my boyfriend just dumped me two days ago after 8 months and spending all our time messing around and being totally smitten!.
the evening before he dumped me he was even like "oh i love you so much please never leave me"!. so anyway the next evening he said he didn't love me how in the way i wanted and still wanted to be really good friends but he loved me as a friend!.
i did everything for this boy, i am totally in love with him and after two previous very very shitty relationships i thought id found someone who took care of me and we would be happy for a long time!. obviously not!.
i now find myself completely empty and lost, my world has just crashed, we planned everything together to travel to get a flat together just everything, i'm left with no dreams!. Even though its only been 8months i love him more than the guy i went out with for three years previously!.
so after two days, of crying and just general numbness i gathered all his stuff together in my room the shoes he gave me for my birthday the roses that i dried and kept that he got me once when he was 2hrs late to come over and his clothes and bagged them!. i phoned him to see if he wanted to meet briefly tomorrow so i could hand them over since he said he wanted to see me personally, i phoned him just a second ago and hes at a party!.
a party, he said he wouldnt be happy for a little while, and hes at a bloody party!. loads of girls screaming in the background and just general crap!. he couldnt hear me for the noise so i hung up!.
i dont know what to do, i love this guy from my toes to the tips of my ears, but he said he doesn't want to get back so i have got three choices,
1!. try and move on, when all i really want is him!.
2!. be his friend, its better than not having him in my life at all although i worry i wont be able to move on with him around
3!. block all contact with someone who means the world to me!.
thankyou :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I completely understand what you are going through!.
The best thing to do is to not contact him!. I know that will be hard, but you're emotions are too strong right now to be around him and get past this!. I know what you really want is to go with option #4 and hook back up with him, but in reality this option doesn't exist unless HE makes the first move!.
If he calls you, fine - but don't call him!. And don't give him that box of things!. Just tell him you'll be his friend and then stay away from him for a while!.
In a way you are lucky, because by setting him free of any obligation to feel something toward you - guilt, or love, or loyalty - you will know if he really does feel for you enough to come back!. But you will never truly be able to know if you don't completely leave him alone to his own devices!.
I don't know about you, but quotes always make me feel better!. Here's some that I think fit your situation, but if that's not your thing you can just skip over them, no big deal ;)
The best thing to do is to not contact him!. I know that will be hard, but you're emotions are too strong right now to be around him and get past this!. I know what you really want is to go with option #4 and hook back up with him, but in reality this option doesn't exist unless HE makes the first move!.
If he calls you, fine - but don't call him!. And don't give him that box of things!. Just tell him you'll be his friend and then stay away from him for a while!.
In a way you are lucky, because by setting him free of any obligation to feel something toward you - guilt, or love, or loyalty - you will know if he really does feel for you enough to come back!. But you will never truly be able to know if you don't completely leave him alone to his own devices!.
I don't know about you, but quotes always make me feel better!. Here's some that I think fit your situation, but if that's not your thing you can just skip over them, no big deal ;)
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