This is a bit embrassing!....mastu!
Question: This is a bit embrassing!!.!.!.!.masturbation!.!.!.
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It IS a mental thing, after all, orgasm happens in your brain!. So yes, if you focus really really hard on getting it, it will make it that much harder to achieve it!. Don't make it into a HUGE thing that will give you all this pressure that you absolutely have to get it, or it will psyche you out!. Instead, enjoy the journey TO it as much as you can, if you get it at the end, great, if not, you'll get it next time or the time after!. The journey itself should be pleasant too, so nothing is lost!. The more relaxed you are the more you "let go" the easier it will happen!. That is why many use a little bit of alcohol to help their mind relax and you might want to try that too!. Not getting drunk, just a little tipsy!. Also, practice makes perfect, try different things and you might find something that feels really great to you, in general the more you do it and the more open minded you are about it, the easier the whole process will go!.
Caveat!. I am a male and obviously this is "academic" advice, so watch out for more real life advice from other women, it should be very valuable too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Caveat!. I am a male and obviously this is "academic" advice, so watch out for more real life advice from other women, it should be very valuable too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There's nothing wrong with you!. It took me until I was 30 to be able to orgasm, and now I have an orgasm every time I play with myself!. The trick is to relax, and when you feel the build up, try to go with it and see where it will take you!. Don't try to force a resolution to it!. You're completely normal, and it's not a mental issue!. It's just a matter of practicing and trying different things until you work out what works for you!. Have you experimented with silk as well as your hand!? Good luck, and don't stress!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You should just relax!. Before I had had sex, I got a hand held mirror and went into my bedroom, locked the door, and touched myself to see what felt good!. You can then tell your boyfriend were it feels good and he can do it for you!. You should ask your bf to have sex in a private place, preferably in your room with the door locked, and see if you get an orgasm then!. Just keep trying, you'll get it one day!. Remember, just RELAXWww@Answer-Health@Com
Relax!. Sexuality is as much to do with orgasm as the Kentucky Derby is to do with being a horse!
What I mean is!.!.!.!.Not everything in life is what it is made out to be!.
Two pieces of infallible wisdom for you!.
1!. Sex is the most individual thing you will ever experience, and it is up to you to decide what it is worth because no one else can!.
2!. Your life extends over the period from when you are born until you die!. No criticism can shorten it, and no witchcraft can extend it unreasonably!.
To quote Woody Allen!.!.!.Don't knock masturbation!. It is sex with the person I love!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
What I mean is!.!.!.!.Not everything in life is what it is made out to be!.
Two pieces of infallible wisdom for you!.
1!. Sex is the most individual thing you will ever experience, and it is up to you to decide what it is worth because no one else can!.
2!. Your life extends over the period from when you are born until you die!. No criticism can shorten it, and no witchcraft can extend it unreasonably!.
To quote Woody Allen!.!.!.Don't knock masturbation!. It is sex with the person I love!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This is a difficult question!. I had a problem having an orgasm during sex, but I could have one on my own!. It was definitely a mental problem for me, the fact that he wanted me to orgasm soooo bad I felt alot of pressure on my shoulders!. BUT FINALLY one night I just put everything out of my head, relaxed, went with the flowl, had deep sexual thoughts and BOOM! hehe!.!.!. try that :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
For some people!.!.!.once you have one!.!.!.you're good to go!. So, 1st step is to make sure you can get on on your own!. I would HIGHLY suggest that you invest in getting a viberator!.!.!.and use it for external contact!. Once you have done that!.!.!.and reached your point!. Suggest that when you're w!. your bf that when he's pleasuring you!.!.!.you also use the viberator too!. There is definately a mental block there!.!.!.and don't worry hun, you're not alone!. This meathod I created for myself!.!.!.and it worked!
Good luck!.!.!.to you both!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Good luck!.!.!.to you both!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
just relax i think your just putting too much stress on yourself!. try it with yourself before with him and just do it normal but relax all your muscles and get comfterable!. once youve done that do it with him and still relax sometimes when your stressed or your too tight its much much harder!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am assuming you are a young women and what you are experiencing is quite normal in sexual maturation!. It will take some time and exploring thru the years and I know from my history that it will get easier and so intense as you age !. This I know uh uhWww@Answer-Health@Com
it's all in the mind!. try something new with your boyfriend!. start with a romantic dinner, wine, crazy talks (could be something tha twill make you horny)!.!.change the foreplay!.!.it all starts with a simple "hello"in the morning!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
don't worry about it, this is completely normal!. I know I'm a guy, so I'm no expert but I do know that this happens to a lot of people so don't worry yourself, the time will come!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just relax close you eyes and don't think about it!.if you feel like you got to pee relax your muscles!.
i didn't have my first orgasm until i was around 23 so there is nothing wrong with you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i didn't have my first orgasm until i was around 23 so there is nothing wrong with you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Geez Louise, you will eventually find the right button to push eventually!. Would you believe my first orgasim was when my daughter was born!? Seriously! Www@Answer-Health@Com
In my opinion you are putting too much pressure on yourself!. Just relax and have fun!. If it happens it happens if it doesn't its no big deal!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try to concentrate on the matter!. You probably start to wonder if you need another top!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
yes it could be!.!.!.masturbation or sex is meant ot be pleasurable!.!.!.relax a bit!. Give it up for a while if you are not enjoying it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Maybe you should relax and let nature take it's course without adding pressure on yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
use a vibrator - rampant rabbit's are the best guanateed orgasams every timeWww@Answer-Health@Com
You need to experiment more!. try a vibrator!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
depends how old you are if your still young your body might not be ready for itWww@Answer-Health@Com
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i have the same problem, i thought it was cause my boyfriend wasnt doing something because i can come on my own!
i first tried it in my room with the door locked and lay in the dark!
just mess about down there and sort of caress outside and get wet then move onto the inside!
hopefully you will find your spots and this will enable you to get your guy to do the same - he wont know where he is touching and if its good for you so you will need to move his hands about in order for him to get the correct spot!
again i would try using a vibrator on the outside to get you going and then move onto sex
Good luck hopefully this helps
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i first tried it in my room with the door locked and lay in the dark!
just mess about down there and sort of caress outside and get wet then move onto the inside!
hopefully you will find your spots and this will enable you to get your guy to do the same - he wont know where he is touching and if its good for you so you will need to move his hands about in order for him to get the correct spot!
again i would try using a vibrator on the outside to get you going and then move onto sex
Good luck hopefully this helps
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You need to learn to "let go" and relax, take the pressure off, stop trying to chase the dream and it will happen!.
Buy yourself a decent sized vibrator, no fancy attachments just something you can insert inside you but it must vibrate to stimulate your clit too!. That's half the battle, fingers are great but I find it takes ages!. To learn how to c*m a vibrator is a must!. I had my first when I was 17!.
Get some time alone, watch some online porn vids or read a sexy story, whatever turns you on!. When you feel horny play with the vibrator, hide under the duvet it helps, just touch it on your clit varying the pressure!. I find it helps to have something inside my vagina as well when I masterbate, that's why I have 2 vibrators, one on my clit, one inside :) Cucumbers are a good substitute, serious, just wash it well first or use a condom on it!.
When you feel like you are about to c*m you will know trust me, ease off slightly and just let it happen!. I never c*m as easy with my b/f as by myself!. Practise makes perfect!.
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Buy yourself a decent sized vibrator, no fancy attachments just something you can insert inside you but it must vibrate to stimulate your clit too!. That's half the battle, fingers are great but I find it takes ages!. To learn how to c*m a vibrator is a must!. I had my first when I was 17!.
Get some time alone, watch some online porn vids or read a sexy story, whatever turns you on!. When you feel horny play with the vibrator, hide under the duvet it helps, just touch it on your clit varying the pressure!. I find it helps to have something inside my vagina as well when I masterbate, that's why I have 2 vibrators, one on my clit, one inside :) Cucumbers are a good substitute, serious, just wash it well first or use a condom on it!.
When you feel like you are about to c*m you will know trust me, ease off slightly and just let it happen!. I never c*m as easy with my b/f as by myself!. Practise makes perfect!.
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be a \good christian girl and go buy some thick gloves!. theres too many children in this world already!. if your b/f loves you he will wait!. reading is good for the mind !. cold showers help too!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just imagine that your are having sex with a black guy!. That should do the trick!.Www@Answer-Health@Com