My daughter was masturbating?!


Question: My daughter was masturbating!?
I caught my eleven year old daughter with her finger inside herself!. I didn't think she thought I would be home yet after she got out of school!. She didn't see me or anything, and I didn't confront her!. Well I don't ever remember masturbating, but I don't know, horomones these days!? Is that normal for an 11 yr old to be masturbating!. She has had puberty and her period!. If it is normal, how should I confront her!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Personally i dont do it & im 14
dont confront her that would be embarresing
she is just exploring her body
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It's a normal means of exploring the body, and it's a normal part of growing up!. It's not hurting her!! Don't confront her, it only makes things awkward between the two of you--and you shouldn't jeopardize the mother-daughter relationship which allows her to know she can depend on you!. If you did confront her, she would no longer trust you, and who knows!? She might not ask vital questions about sex (something that may come up in three or four years)!. If she can't ask you what it is about, she may A) ask her friends (who don't necessarily know much about the subject, or B) wing it (AKA, do it herself)

Let your daughter know she can talk to you (without mentioning the masturbation incident), and I'm sure you'll grow closer as you develop this relationship!.



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Yes, masturbating at any age is normal unless it is in excess!. Actually, very young children even masturbate at times!. Aside from that, your daughter may simply have been exploring, or learning about her body, not gaining pleasure from manual stimulation!.

As a high school teacher with experience of young adults, I would HIGHLY recommend that you do not confront her about this!. She will surely feel incredibly embarrassed and as if her most intimate privacy was invaded!. Truthfully, she may shut down toward you!.

That being said, I would also HIGHLY recommend that you talk to your daughter about sex if you haven't already!. Don't bring up that you saw her masturbating or exploring herself, but rather bring up the topic in general!. I'd be willing to bet she already knows way more than you'd wish her to, but at least a conversation will show her that you are aware of her maturing and would like to know where she stands on the topic!.

Like you, I did not masturbate as a teen or even now as an adult; however I did feel around to understand my body better!. Regardless of what we did, however, your daughter is by no means a sexual pervert or anything similar!. Put your mind at ease, and communicate with her about growing up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Do not confront her, it's definitely up to herself to explore her own body!. Perhaps one day you could help her to get rid of the sense of guilt that boys and girls experience at one time or another for doing something that's rarely talked about!.
But you pretty much have to wait for her to come to you if she needs your advice!.
I started masturbating around 14, but my mind has been sexually active for quite some time before that moment!. And I now, some 10yrs later, think it's great that my uptight mother didn't talk to me about sex at all!. So not all mothers are the same!. And not all mothers know how to use comforting words, so be sure that you're one of them!.
Good luck, and don't panic!
Exploring yourself is as healthy as doing sports, only ten times more fun!. Regardless of age!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Don't confront her!. It is normal for children to do this!. they are curious about their bodies and rightfully so!.

Your daughter even at 11 deserves private time to herself!. I am a step mom to a 6 year old and she has already started doing this!. So, I can tell you its not always hormones but it is completely normal!. I would suggest if you haven't talked to your daughter about sex then now might be a good time for the famous "birds and the bees" talk!. Just don't bring up the fact your saw her masturbating!. I think she will resent your for spying on her and will feel as though she can't trust you!.

Take care!.

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We asked a pediatrician the same thing!. She indicated that it is normal, and should not be an issue!.

It's natural to grow in this manner!. At some point, you may need to explain that what she is doing is okay, but private and be prepared to answer questions!. It's best to be open, and not confrontational!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

don't confront her!.
!.!.!.she would feel humiliated, and probably feel so awkward towards you, she'd shut down!. haha!. if that happened to me, i'd die!.

puberty and especially her period will make her feel curious and!.!.!.sorry, but horny!.
it's perfectly normal!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Just ask yourself- would you want someone to confront you if they happened to see you do it!? I'ts normal, and don't worry about her age I was doing that before then- at about eight or so!. If it happens to come up, let her know that it's not shameful- but private!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You shouldn't confront her!. That would be humiliating for her and you both!.

It is normal, yes!. If she's gone through puberty, then her hormones are going to make her want to figure things out!. At least she's not experimenting with someone else!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

Don't confront her!. At all!. Not until she is atleast old enough to live on her own!. Haha, trust me!. A lot of girls did that at my age!. They didn't go around talking about it, but I mean it's normal!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i personally dont masturbate and im 14, but ya, its normal!. dont confront her, it isnt ur business really, sorry!. i never got the point of doing it to urself, but w/e!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

oh, so what!.
i started when i was eight!.
the bathtub faucet thing!.
i masturbated that way everyday until i was 14, when i found better ways!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Yes its ok for your daughter to masturbate!. You did the right thing by not confronting her!.
If she asks for your help you may be able to show or or explain things!. Here is a website you both may find useful The-Clitoris!.comWww@Answer-Health@Com

Hey , i wouldn't Confront her it would be embarasing to her!.
She's just exploring and getting to know her body!.
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Totally normal
I started around 12 ish

:P
Don't freak
She's growing up and exploring her body, the last thing you want to do is embarass her
My advice was just don't confront her about it at all
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Don't confront her!. It is a normal!. Don't embarrass her by talking to her, just let it be!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Just let her masturbate!.!.!.she is just exploring her own body!. I don't think you need to say anything!. THis is normal!.!.!.don't worry about itWww@Answer-Health@Com

that is totally normal for her age!. dont confront her about it though!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Don't confront her!. Why should u!? It could cause her some future hangs up about sex!. It is completely normal!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

She is normal and you shouldn't confront her!. Make sure she understands birth control Www@Answer-Health@Com

don't confront her!. that would make things really awkward!. it's a private thing so just pretend you didn't see anythingWww@Answer-Health@Com

deff!.dont say anything to her!
not at all!.
just let her be!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

yea! (: Www@Answer-Health@Com

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