To people between 18 and 22; can you relate to my situation?!
Question: To people between 18 and 22; can you relate to my situation!?
I'm a 19 year old lady!. I lost virginity like 4 years back with a guy whom I really didn't like/love!. after that, I always kept myself reserved!.!. I never really liked guys; I thought all guys were similar; or at least that's what I tried to convince myself into!. but there's a saying that, "everybody needs a *someone* "; you can't deny that no matter how much you lie to yourself!. I've been alone for all these years; I always tried to find someone to love me crazy!.!.!. but I never found!. I don't like short-term relationships, coz they remind me of my ex!. They say that once you have lost *it*, it's very hard to keep yourself from doing it anymore!. well I can relate to it now!. I kept myself from it for 4/5 years!.!. I don't know if I can take another year or two!. There's this physical desire that plays a role!. Now, there's this guy that I really fell in love with lately!. He knows; but he has a girlfriend!. I'm not the type to take a man who already has a woman!.!. but for some reason I really like him a lot!. I wonder if it has anything to do with my physical desire!. I been thinking about him pretty deep lately!.!.!. I went too far thinking about him!.!. I keep seeing a future w/ him when he's already taken!. so anyways!.!. I wanted to know whether some of you guys have felt the same or can relate to my situation!.!. I don't know if I should still keep myself from it until I'm engaged!.!. or should I just let it happen!. I know I'm over 18, but I have a strong conscience!. I don't want it haunt me down later on!. basically I wanna know, should I still control my physical desire!? is that the best solution to it!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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can't relate but i can give you some advise/ insight!.!.!.
i was the complete opposite!.!.!. im 21, i lost my virginity when i was 16 on a hot summer night to a drop dead gorgeous guy who i had been in love with for years, he lived by me during the summer so it was a summer fling, this went on for about 3 years, we hooked up every summer!.!.!. when i was about 18 i became really promiscuous and had sex with everyone!.!.!. not literally but any guy that was 'talking' to me, and would take me out to dinner, i'd sleep with!.!.!. this went on for about 3 years until i found my true love, i've been with my boyfriend for 11 months and it's been the best 11 months of my life!. i regret a lot of my promiscuity, but he had slept with more people than me by the time we got together, so we put our pasts behind!.
the point i wanted to make though was that even though i was fulfilling my physical desire (which it seems like you are NOT doing) i was still living a completely empty life!. none of those guys cared about me, they cared about fulfilling their physical desires also!.
i think that if you think this guy is going to fulfill you emotionally and physically then maybe you can start with emotional, be friends with him, maybe he will chose you in the end!.!.!.
i don't understand why you said you're not the type of girl to take a man who already has a woman when clearly you stated earlier on that you have slept with one person and have been lonely, obviously you won't take anyone!
guys like girls with confidence, when you're ready to be with someone, they will know!.
good luck, i hope i helped!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i was the complete opposite!.!.!. im 21, i lost my virginity when i was 16 on a hot summer night to a drop dead gorgeous guy who i had been in love with for years, he lived by me during the summer so it was a summer fling, this went on for about 3 years, we hooked up every summer!.!.!. when i was about 18 i became really promiscuous and had sex with everyone!.!.!. not literally but any guy that was 'talking' to me, and would take me out to dinner, i'd sleep with!.!.!. this went on for about 3 years until i found my true love, i've been with my boyfriend for 11 months and it's been the best 11 months of my life!. i regret a lot of my promiscuity, but he had slept with more people than me by the time we got together, so we put our pasts behind!.
the point i wanted to make though was that even though i was fulfilling my physical desire (which it seems like you are NOT doing) i was still living a completely empty life!. none of those guys cared about me, they cared about fulfilling their physical desires also!.
i think that if you think this guy is going to fulfill you emotionally and physically then maybe you can start with emotional, be friends with him, maybe he will chose you in the end!.!.!.
i don't understand why you said you're not the type of girl to take a man who already has a woman when clearly you stated earlier on that you have slept with one person and have been lonely, obviously you won't take anyone!
guys like girls with confidence, when you're ready to be with someone, they will know!.
good luck, i hope i helped!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Listen to your conscience, not your heart!. The heart is treacherous and desperate and can lead you into many hurtful circumstances!. It may not hurt at first, but you'll suffer consequences that could've been avoided by using self-control and listening to your conscience!. You sound like you're very level-headed, stay strong!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i don't have much experience on the subject, but that's only something you can choose for yourself!. personally, i'm waiting until i get married, but that's my choice!. i get that you don't want to regret doing something, but will you regret not doing something!?
but, if you do, make sure he's not still with his girlfriend!. that you will regret!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
but, if you do, make sure he's not still with his girlfriend!. that you will regret!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes!!!!! Control your urges!. Don't do it with anyone else!. Im soon to be engaged and my boyfriend asked me about every person I've done it with, now he says if he ever sees them in person he will kick their behind!. He says he doesn't like the fact that another guy has had a part of him!. Also I hate the fact that he wasn't a virgin when I met him!. We both slept with the same amount of people but there is still that thought that what if any of his past sexual experiences were better than me!. I wouldn't have that problem if I would have saved myself till marriage!. But enough about me!. Like I was saying; deny your urges, its okay to masturbate when you get that feeling!. I vibrator is better than a penis in some ways!.
Good luck!.!.hope I helpedWww@Answer-Health@Com
Good luck!.!.hope I helpedWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think you should wait if you feel you will regret it!.!.!. its up to you but I think maybe you should start dating if you haven't been dating for a while!.!.!. because what could happen is you can mistake lust for love because you haven't seen what is out there yet!.!. if you start dating with different guys and leaving ones that don't suit you !.!. you will be more happy when you finally fall in love and then you will be ready for sex again!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yay to Anne!
I agree, I have the most wonderful fiance a woman could ask for!. He's gentle and sweet and respectful!. We are waiting till marriage for sex because we believe in No regrets!.
Its not too late, make a commitment to save yourself for your knight in shining armor!.
theres a man for every woman!. yours is out there!.
be yourself and he will find you!.
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I agree, I have the most wonderful fiance a woman could ask for!. He's gentle and sweet and respectful!. We are waiting till marriage for sex because we believe in No regrets!.
Its not too late, make a commitment to save yourself for your knight in shining armor!.
theres a man for every woman!. yours is out there!.
be yourself and he will find you!.
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yes control it now, thats the best option!. by the sound of it, if you do succumb to your desire you won't feel anymore satisfied and you'll feel guilty!. and those 2 feelings together, im sure, dont feel great!. dont steal the guy either, it'll get you into unneccesary trouble!. hold on, i'm sure you can wait, everyone can, just keep your mind off of it!. or if it actually helps indulge in it, except about some fantasy person!. that works for me, it gets rid of the physical desire!. and you dont have to wait that long before you find someone and get married so dont worry hang on!. and please forget about the taken guy, only go after him if he and his gf breakup!. and then also dont go rushing to him immedietly!. give everything time, thats all i can say!. hope i helped, good luck =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, please hold on and wait!
I just got married at 31 and my husband was my first and only sexual partner!. Its so worth it to wait and not take a bunch of sexual baggage with you and feel guilt that you shared that most intimate part of yourself with random strangers just for some physical pleasure!. You've made one mistake and that's fine, but it is something to strive for!.
In the meantime, you need to get out there and stop being so worried about being hurt!. You're going to have to try a short term relationship to get that to turn into a long term relationship!.
It took me a long time to find love, but all my dreams came true! Www@Answer-Health@Com
I just got married at 31 and my husband was my first and only sexual partner!. Its so worth it to wait and not take a bunch of sexual baggage with you and feel guilt that you shared that most intimate part of yourself with random strangers just for some physical pleasure!. You've made one mistake and that's fine, but it is something to strive for!.
In the meantime, you need to get out there and stop being so worried about being hurt!. You're going to have to try a short term relationship to get that to turn into a long term relationship!.
It took me a long time to find love, but all my dreams came true! Www@Answer-Health@Com