Need help so depressed with weight and life?!


Question: Need help so depressed with weight and life!?
hi there i really dont know what else to do i am 32 and have had a tough time these last two years,i had ivf 2 and half years ago and had twins boy and girl then i had post natel thyroditis then i was in agony with stomache for the next 16 months exhausted with looking after my babies crawling to them on the floor in so much pain turned out i had h pylori of the stomache then i founf out my other half was cheating through ivf and giving birth now i am just so unhappy i hate my body my weight my looks i feel old useless unattractive and want to get better but i dont know how too i have spoke to 2 different docs and all they want to do is shove me on anti depressants which i dont want please help i am so lonelyWww@Answer-Health@Com


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If all you look at and obsess over is the negative things in your life, how do you expect to feel better!? No one can do this for you!. You have to focus on the positives in your life, your beautiful children, your opportunity to watch them grow and thrive because of your love and attention are just two things that immediately come to my mind!.
If you cannot discipline yourself enough to look at the positives, then maybe you really need antidepressants, they allow you to think clearly instead of always and forever staying in the downward spiral of negative thinking!. Yes, you've had a rough time of things, but honey, nobody promises us easy in this life!. The promise in life is that you have the opportunity to do with it what YOU want to do!. Stop relying on others for your self image, and for your happiness!. Those things come from inside you, and they are there if you will just learn to stop obsessing about all the negatives and give the positives at least equal time in your mind!. I learned to do this by disciplining myself, every time I had a negative thought, I forced myself to come up with ten positives!. Every single time!. Took me about six months of really working at it to get into the habit of refusing to focus on negative thoughts!. And you know what!? When that happens, the weight drops off, you are energized and things really do get better!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

if you dont want to take antidepressants for depression, than i advise you not to see a doctor about this!. see a counselor i guess!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Emma,
Its not hard to get your life back to where you want to be!.
Firstly start to look to the future not back to the past!. You have no control of the past you can control your future!.
Your children will grow up and become less of a pull on your time!.
In the meantime join a Mothers circle or a ladies circle such as the WI!. They will be glad to see you and can help!.
If you can afford it go and pamper yourself at the local hairdressers!.
Get a baby sitter and go out even if it is only a short walk!.
Dont let other people dictate to you!.
You are as important as anybody else!. Your time will come just be strong for yourself and your children!.
You are not aloneWww@Answer-Health@Com

I can understand what you're going through with the weight issue because I have one as well!. I hadn't bothered to look at a scale since 2000, but was forced to during a recent hospital visit!. Just know that it will be rough but nobody can do anything about your weight issue but you!. If you don't like the way you look try your best to do something about it the right way!. Please don't go to any extremes to try and lose weight, doing it the right way may take time but you'll thank yourself in the long run!.
My only advice as far as the depression is get help!. I'm sure there is some kind of programs in your area (hopefully free) that you can check out!. I don't believe depression just goes away on it's own but better your situation can probably help!. Being a mother hopefully you can actually find the time to take advantage of some kind of couseling or something!. I know it seems like there are a million different things being thrown at you at once, which is bad enough on top of not liking your outter appearance, but it can get better!. A little patience , support , and detailed information on what you need to do to get better can go a long way!.
I wish you the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Why dont you want to go on anti-depressants!? They are often just what is needed to lift you up to a reasonable level so you can address your issues and cope better!.
The reason I say this is because I have two toddlers and a teenager and I work and go to college and a few weeks ago I hit rock bottom!. I am also heavily overweight and had lost 3 stone until I hit rock bottom and then I started over eating to make myself feel better and so far I have piled half a stone back on!.
Sometimes it takes someone else to point things out to you and in this case my father in law made me realise I was depressed, they had all noticed it!. Once I got out of denial I went to the Doctors and he gave me anti-deps!. This is not the first time I have had them and althougjh it usually takes 4 weeks for them to take full effect I could feel my mood lifting within 2 weeks!. I need a dosage adjustment as I am still quite low and have deppressive thoughts but I know I am on the mend!.
If I hadnt gone on them I hate to think how things would have gone because I have had a few mornings wishing I had not woken up!
I would advise you to re-think your refusal to accept medication, modern anti-deps have few side effects and do the job tremendously well!. Much effort needs to come from within but these tablets help you find a sense of yourself!.
Good luck to you!!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I am totally against anti depressants!. I don't care who you are, but they are evil and do more damage than good!.I don't understand why most doctors, instead of analyzing your situation, they automatically label you depressed and want to load you up with pills!. I can say this because I have been there!. First of all, look at the hell you have gone through! I would be depressed too! Most depression episodes are caused by circumstances in life not at all a mental state like a lot of doctors would assume!. I was diagnosed as being depressed on several occasions!. I did take zoloft and lexopren to 'treat' it!. HA! Joke!. My life was going down on a spiral and going fast! I did contact a counselor who in fact helped me out better than any bottle of pills could ever do!. Do you have a friend that you can lean on!? Someone you can talk to!? Just talking works miracles!. Start focusing not on your circumstances, but on you! I know it is easier said than done but trust me on this!. Stop being lonely, get out and spend a day with yourself!. Meet people!. Pamper yourself!. Quit worrying about your weight! Life has so much in store for you!. Www@Answer-Health@Com





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