Help for bad body image?!


Question: Help for bad body image!?
So my bf is the most awesome guy in the world!. Hes loving and caring and tells me about a thousand times a day how beautiful and smokin hot I am!. He shows me micro bikinis and sexy lingerie he wants me to wear, telling me that he cant think of anything better than to see me on a lounge chair with this tiny lil thing on barely covering my assets!. Sounds great right!? The problem is, I'm a thick girl who's had some kids!. I have a saggy stomach and stretch marks not to mention the scar that goes most of the way up my stomach!. He loves me for who I am and loves my stretch marks and my squishy tummy!. He never shies away from it and kisses it and rubs it, but I'm a freak about it!. I don't want to wear anything that might show my stomach or that's too tight!. I've considered s tummy tuck in the past but I really don't want to do that!. He says no way he loves me how I am!. My question is, how do I work to get past this lil hurdle I have!? He says he doesn't want me to contact him until I've worked these things out within myself!. He tells me he loves me more than any man could love any woman and I know he does!. He's so perfect and I want to be totally uninhibited like he is and wants me to be!. How do I learn to love myself and all my flaws!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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aww thants so nice!. and to be quite honest i have about the same probs you do!. im "chubby" and have stretch marks, but my boyfriend loves me more than anything!. i guess all you really can do right now is push yourself to only think of what he says, and stop looking in the mirrior like you used to!. everytime you catch a glimpse of yourself, repeat in your head or out loud the things he says about you, trust me it will help!. and if you really want to get rid of weight encourage him to do more activities, like taking walks, or going to clubs and dancing!. if he really loves you they way he says he does, just try out some slightly revealing things and move forward, you will eventually get more comfortable because he will react positivly!. he loves you no matter what and dont forget that, so the next time your think gosh, i really dont like the way i look remember the look in his eyes when he sees how beautiful you look!Www@Answer-Health@Com

I also have a somewhat poor body image, only instead of stretch marks, I have somewhat of a small chest!. Well you can either change you, or change the way you see you!. Both ways will take the same amount of time, so don't put the whole rule of time into your head of which way is faster!. Now depending on how you look at it, they both have the same difficulty level, so you can't say this one is easier than the other!. And both of them will take an equal number of determination/bravery!. Their are quick ways to increase your body image, and the only rule in consistency!.
I had an uncle that was going through depression!. He was happier when he was a teen, but not as a young adult!. He didn't do anything different, and most people just said that he was just changing like everyone else did!. But when he was at his happiest was when he brushed his hair in a certain way, and after 2 weeks of my method rather than the 2 previous years of therapy, he got out of depression and got a better body image!. So you could do something to make you feel pretty!. That could be buying a good pair of jeans, or getting your hair done!. Any kind of pampered treatment you give yourself will increase your body image step by step!.
Ask yourself what did you do back then that made you feel pretty!. Don't let you appearance or self image get in your way, you look and feel your best when you have confidence within yourself!. When you have confidence you outshine everyone who doesn't have confidence!. You can have confidence when you are skinny, and you can have it when your chubby/pudgy!.
Another thing that came from a friend that slept with her boyfriend for the first time (and she had a terrible self image of herself) was that after you jump that hoop and give up on what you look like, you don't care anymore about it!. It could be that her boyfriend loved her regardless of what she looked like, which helped her to show her true colors!. She also said that it helped to hear how much he loved her, and she kept thinking to herself everytime he said so was that "!.!.!.if this man thinks that of me, I can think the same of myself!. He isn't crazy because he's still with me, so I can't say he's retarded for thinking that I am the most beautiful person out there!. But since he has a brain, and he seems to be knowing what he is saying, he must be right!." Any words that you can say to yourself will help you!. That means every morning when you look in the mirror say to yourself how wonderful you look, after a while it will become a habit and you'll believe it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

well!.!. admit it!.!. women wanna look good so that men will like them!. we know its true!.

but your man adores how you look!
and you should too

and you gotta look yourself straight in the mirror and realize that you're hot (not just cause your man says so) but also because if your self esteem is affecting your relationship, then you really need to analyze yourself and realize that true beauty doesn't come from the shape of your stomach but from the heart!.

the most beautiful woman in the world can be the ugliest person in a split second if she doesn't have a heart!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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