Am I a complete screw up? Failure? Loser?!
Question: Am I a complete screw up!? Failure!? Loser!?
Okay, so Ive lost all my self confidence!. It seems everyone I meet love me at first then eventaully start to act like I get on their nerves!. I dont know what I do wrong, and I dont mean to do it!. I'm 14 years old!. You would be guessing that Ide be going to the mall and hanging out with friends everyday!. Wrong!.!.!. Im usually home because Im too scared to do stuff with people!. Whenever I try planning things they turn out wrong!. I see other girls having fun and doing stuff!. I just get thrown down again it seems!. A few days ago I tried planning something with two friends but I got sick and one of the friends got mad at me for some random reason but at least we made up now!. Ive been called ugly!. I feel extremely ugly, and I know Im not pretty!. I try to be but Im not!. Im friends with people at school who other people would consider losers!. Boys in my class treat me like dirt!. I dont know what Im doing wrong!. I get put downs!.!.!. I cry almost every night!. I get so annoyed with my family because they are very wierd and annoying!.!.!. I dont even know what Im asking but I need help!. Ive had these kind of put downs and everything my whole life so little things like "Ignore them!." isnt going to help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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It's most likely that you're not doing ANYTHING wrong!. I do know exactly how you feel SOOO well!.!.!. This is the way I grew up, too!.
I never was able to hang out with friends because of where I lived in proximity to school and the other friends!.!. One time, when I was 15, there was this girl I really liked a lot!. I just glanced at her one time in the library!. It was a small library and there weren't any corridors or cubicles!.!. just a lot of open space and bad acoustics!.!. and when I glanced at her, she growled at me and said I was "putrid!."
Just sharing a little!.!.
It's not easy when people treat you like dirt!. But I can assure you that you ARE prettier than you give yourself credit for!.!.!. because you're not really giving yourself much credit at all right now!.
No, saying "just ignore them" won't help, as it NEVER helped me when I needed help!. What is most important is that you work on not treating yourself so harshly!. It's important to not dwell on all these negatives you're feeling about yourself!.
I know this is going to seem weird, but you might benefit a lot by talking to your parents about it!. It might seem to you like they wouldn't understand at all, but I think they just might!. One thing I wish I would have done is talk more to my mom about these things when I was in school!.
One thing I learned about myself is that sometimes I try too hard to get along with people, or come on a little too strong!. This is something that is really hard to change!. One thing that is easy to change is who you try to get along with!. It takes a lot of thought but you have to think about the people you try to impress and whether they're worth it!. Peer pressure can really bite you in the rump when it comes to having a social life!.
If you ever want to talk more about it, I'm always here!. :)
I hope I helped somewhat!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I never was able to hang out with friends because of where I lived in proximity to school and the other friends!.!. One time, when I was 15, there was this girl I really liked a lot!. I just glanced at her one time in the library!. It was a small library and there weren't any corridors or cubicles!.!. just a lot of open space and bad acoustics!.!. and when I glanced at her, she growled at me and said I was "putrid!."
Just sharing a little!.!.
It's not easy when people treat you like dirt!. But I can assure you that you ARE prettier than you give yourself credit for!.!.!. because you're not really giving yourself much credit at all right now!.
No, saying "just ignore them" won't help, as it NEVER helped me when I needed help!. What is most important is that you work on not treating yourself so harshly!. It's important to not dwell on all these negatives you're feeling about yourself!.
I know this is going to seem weird, but you might benefit a lot by talking to your parents about it!. It might seem to you like they wouldn't understand at all, but I think they just might!. One thing I wish I would have done is talk more to my mom about these things when I was in school!.
One thing I learned about myself is that sometimes I try too hard to get along with people, or come on a little too strong!. This is something that is really hard to change!. One thing that is easy to change is who you try to get along with!. It takes a lot of thought but you have to think about the people you try to impress and whether they're worth it!. Peer pressure can really bite you in the rump when it comes to having a social life!.
If you ever want to talk more about it, I'm always here!. :)
I hope I helped somewhat!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i know its hard!.!.!.!.but yuo have to get used to itWww@Answer-Health@Com
Whow you need to stop beating yourself up thats the first thing I notice about you!. You sound to be to have social anxiety which is not a rare thing to have a lot of people suffer from social anxiety and anxiety in general!. There is medication to help with anxiety so you may want to talk to your parents about that and if not parents try a councler at school!. You can not judge yourself by the standards of others what I mean by that is you can not say well something must be wrong with me because I don't have as many friends as she does or boys do not love me like they love her!. You are someone special and if no one else belives in you you have to belive in yourself!. School is only a short time in your life and when you look at the life you have yet to live ahead of you and the people you will meet that will love you for who you are the opinions of a few idiots in High School don't matter!. If people consider your friends "loosers" maybe they attack your friends because of something that your friends have that they don't!. You get put down but not everyone in life is going to love you its just a fact and for those who have nothing more to do then put you down then really how sad is their life!. Crying is okay its the way that we deal with things as humans but crying yourself to sleep every night is to much!. You need to find something to be happy about and if thats hard then find something good that happoned in your day no matter how small it was and dwell on that when you feel like crying and those times where you can't find anything good to think about instead of crying then go ahead and cry cause crying is okay sometimes I'm sorry this is so long but I really want you to brighten up what people say about you don't matter you need to belive in yourself belive that you are someone special and loveable and beautiful because you areWww@Answer-Health@Com
About the ugly thing: guys will call ANYBODY ugly and so will some girls!. People call others ugly for other reason than meaning that you're really ugly!.!.!.!.!. they might be jealous or just trying to look cool!. If people can't accept you the way you are then they are not really your friends!. There are all types of people and you're going to start meeting people that you connect with and that you get along with!. Who's to say what a "loser" is or isn't!? I'm sure that you are good at things that they aren't and you have qualities that they wish they had!. It's difficult to make it through high school sometimes!. In about four years you will be out of this awkward stage and the four years will fly (believe me!) even though it seems like it will be forever! And you may even see your family in a better way after this time! Until then just try to surround yourself with people that you get along with and enjoy, find someone you can turn to for support (a teacher or someone else you trust!.) and find something that makes YOU happy!.!.!.!. a hobby, new make-up something like that!. And just keep moving forward!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your not a failure!. All of this is why people say this is the hardest time in your life!. Peer pressure and all of that!. It should get better, don't worry so much about what others are thinking about u!!! Fitting in at this age is hard, your friends are probably having similar problems-not just you!.
If you continue to have problems and you keep crying at night (or find yourself crying for no reason) you should really get help from a Dr!. You may have clinical depression and that could explain alot of these feelings!.
It helps to talk about your problems too!.!.!.if not with a person, try a diary!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you continue to have problems and you keep crying at night (or find yourself crying for no reason) you should really get help from a Dr!. You may have clinical depression and that could explain alot of these feelings!.
It helps to talk about your problems too!.!.!.if not with a person, try a diary!.Www@Answer-Health@Com