Question for step parents? and step children?!
Question: Question for step parents!? and step children!?
I know I asked this question yesterday,and I am in the wrong question section, but I just really want to get lots of answers!.!.!.
I have two step children that I love very much, like my own!. But I was wondering what your thoughts are about having a child of our own!. Do you think it would be hard for the children!? Would it be hard for us, considering that the way we might raise our children might be kinda different than how my step children were raised!? Any imput would be nice!. Please tell me of your own experiences!.
Thankyou:)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have two step children that I love very much, like my own!. But I was wondering what your thoughts are about having a child of our own!. Do you think it would be hard for the children!? Would it be hard for us, considering that the way we might raise our children might be kinda different than how my step children were raised!? Any imput would be nice!. Please tell me of your own experiences!.
Thankyou:)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
How old are your step children and how is your relationship with them!?
I am now 23, my parents divorced when I was 3 and both are remarried!.
My dad had been in multiple relationships with women I never really cared for until he met the woman who is now my step mom!. I was 12 when they got together, and I really truly love my step mom, I am very lucky to have her in my life!. She never had any kids of her own and I know that she and my dad tried for a couple years, my dad refused to go to a fertility dr!. because he already had kids and thought that if it was meant to be, it would happen!.
In all honesty, I wish that my dad and step mom would have had another child together, I think my step mom would be a wonderful mother!. However when I was 12 and just met I would have felt a little differently!.
Depending on how old your step kids are, I say bring it up around them to see how they feel about it!. I know that if my dad and step mom had had kid, it would have been raised totally different, as my dad was always in and out of my life whenever he pleased, and I'm sure for a while I would have been bitter and jealous, but I'm also sure that now as an adult, I wouldn't change my life for anything and would hope that if my dad had another kid, he would raise it differently and give it everything he never gave me!.!.!.
hope I helped!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am now 23, my parents divorced when I was 3 and both are remarried!.
My dad had been in multiple relationships with women I never really cared for until he met the woman who is now my step mom!. I was 12 when they got together, and I really truly love my step mom, I am very lucky to have her in my life!. She never had any kids of her own and I know that she and my dad tried for a couple years, my dad refused to go to a fertility dr!. because he already had kids and thought that if it was meant to be, it would happen!.
In all honesty, I wish that my dad and step mom would have had another child together, I think my step mom would be a wonderful mother!. However when I was 12 and just met I would have felt a little differently!.
Depending on how old your step kids are, I say bring it up around them to see how they feel about it!. I know that if my dad and step mom had had kid, it would have been raised totally different, as my dad was always in and out of my life whenever he pleased, and I'm sure for a while I would have been bitter and jealous, but I'm also sure that now as an adult, I wouldn't change my life for anything and would hope that if my dad had another kid, he would raise it differently and give it everything he never gave me!.!.!.
hope I helped!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
more than likely you would be fine but if your that concerned talk to the kids about it start asking what they would think of a bro/sis around the house that might help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am a step mom, I have 2 bio children from a previous marriage, and 2 step daughters and my husband and I now have a child of our own(she is 21 mos old)!.
My one step daughter is just like my child, the other one we do not see(her choice), when we had our baby girl, the other kids were over the moon, I have never seen a bunch of happier kids btw they were 15, 15 and 19 when we had her! The girl we do not see is/was not happy, she is very jealous of her, and lashes out at her Dad(she was 18 when the baby was born, so well beyond having temper tantrums and hissy fits or so we thought)
His kids were raised differently(they have different moms) then the way my boys were raised, our baby is raised completely different then all of them, and that is what works for us!.
We talked about it for years about having a child of our own and it has been the best decision we could have made, she is our life, and she is the centre of the universe in the other kids lives! They adore her, she brought all of us closer together, and like my step daughter said, she made us more of a family, she cemented the bond we already had! IF that makes sense!.
If you and your husband want to have a child together do it, you do not want to live with the regret of not doing it in the future, the other kids will love the baby just as much, as long as they do not feel like they are being replaced, and if you have a good strong relationship now they will not feel that way at all!.
My friend has kids the same age as your step kids, her and her husband just had their first child together and her kids love their little brother, the youngest wanted to take him for show and tell! They did not exhibit any jealousy or upset over the baby at all!. They are still as excited today about him as they were when he was born 5 months ago!.
It will be different for the kids, but they will adapt, if they are included in the planning of the nursery, buying baby stuff etc and then helping out with the baby(fun stuff amusing the baby for a few mins while you go to the washroom, go get a diaper, etc) they will not have any hard feelings!. Most of the time they get hurt feelings when they feel like they are being left out, and that the baby gets all the attention etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My one step daughter is just like my child, the other one we do not see(her choice), when we had our baby girl, the other kids were over the moon, I have never seen a bunch of happier kids btw they were 15, 15 and 19 when we had her! The girl we do not see is/was not happy, she is very jealous of her, and lashes out at her Dad(she was 18 when the baby was born, so well beyond having temper tantrums and hissy fits or so we thought)
His kids were raised differently(they have different moms) then the way my boys were raised, our baby is raised completely different then all of them, and that is what works for us!.
We talked about it for years about having a child of our own and it has been the best decision we could have made, she is our life, and she is the centre of the universe in the other kids lives! They adore her, she brought all of us closer together, and like my step daughter said, she made us more of a family, she cemented the bond we already had! IF that makes sense!.
If you and your husband want to have a child together do it, you do not want to live with the regret of not doing it in the future, the other kids will love the baby just as much, as long as they do not feel like they are being replaced, and if you have a good strong relationship now they will not feel that way at all!.
My friend has kids the same age as your step kids, her and her husband just had their first child together and her kids love their little brother, the youngest wanted to take him for show and tell! They did not exhibit any jealousy or upset over the baby at all!. They are still as excited today about him as they were when he was born 5 months ago!.
It will be different for the kids, but they will adapt, if they are included in the planning of the nursery, buying baby stuff etc and then helping out with the baby(fun stuff amusing the baby for a few mins while you go to the washroom, go get a diaper, etc) they will not have any hard feelings!. Most of the time they get hurt feelings when they feel like they are being left out, and that the baby gets all the attention etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com