Why doesn't he tell me I'm beautiful anymore?!

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Some guys don't realize that a girl needs frequent reminders, some guys say it differently (my current bf uses the word 'cute' instead of 'beautiful', it's just not his thing), some guys figure that dating you is enough of an indicator that they are wholly interested in you. Telling him he's handsome wouldn't hurt but don't get discouraged if he doesn't pick up on it, just try something else.

Talk to him. Communication is KEY to relationships. Let him know that you like hearing it and that it makes you feel good and just be upfront about it. But don't wait until you're really hurt or frustrated to say it, just wait until you're both happy and comfortable and tell him that it means a lot to you, I'm sure he'll make an effort to say it more.

Finally, if you're doing all of that for him already you should ~KNOW~ that you're beautiful and I'm worried that seeking his approval means that you feel bad about yourself and have low self esteem. We can't live for other people's approval, we have to be able to love ourselves before we can love others, so be honest with yourself and then be honest with him. If you still feel bad he might just not be 'the one'.

Best of luck.

personal experience

You arent acting beautiful. Even though you may look beautiful and dress pretty, if your mental state isnt that you are beautiul you wont be. People can sense insecurity. Hold yourself higher and stand straighter, and say in your mind I am beautiful. Also do things that make you feel more important. If it helps, this is coming from my boyfriend himself, so its a guys perspective. Hope this helps.

If it's bothering you then talk to him. You have to be honest and I'm sure he would want to know if you feel that way. You have to be open with him. Sometimes they think you already know they think your beautiful or you know you are so they don't say it more like you want them to.

He has gotten complacent and takes it for granted that he already told you your beautiful dozens of times already so you dont need to hear it again. the thing is women still want to hear it. maybe you should start telling him how handsome he looks and maybe he will take the hint.

The problem is not him. It's you. You're pulling out all the stops to gain love and approval and appreciation from someone other than yourself. When you are confident in yourself you will relax and feel more confident within your relationship.

My husband doesn't compliment me all the time. He does sometimes, and when he does, it's sincere and completely appreciated. But the bottom line is that I don't NEED him to approve of me. And although this may seem weird to you, he's with me in part BECAUSE I don't need him to boost my self-esteem. Or, I at least realize that my self-esteem has little or nothing to do with how he perceives me. And a HEALTHY relationship starts with two healthy people who both understand that self-esteem is a personal thing. If you're not a healthy and self-sustaining individual, than you aren't capable of contributing to a healthy relationship. That's just how it works. Until your own self-esteem is fixed, you're not really ready to deal with a second person in your private life.

FYI: No guy is going to compliment you all the time for the things that you do all the time. If you dress up only rarely, he will compliment you for sure. But if you're always going all-out for him, he won't see any point to commenting on. Most guys will assume that you're not actually hanging on every word he says to you.

Really, seriously, the problem is you, not him. Fix your own self-esteem before you yell at him.