Do you think sexx will hurt me...for the 1st time?!

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We can't tell you if it will be painful or not, we can however tell you that it doesn't have to be, sex should NEVER be painful - whether it's the first time or the millionth time. The idea that it hurts is myth, although it's possible it doesn't have to be painful and knowing why it can be painful and how to avoid that pain will mean less risk of it being a problem on your big night.

If a couple don't understand why pain may happen it means they can't avoid it, and often if a girl experiences pain she'll tollerate it thinking it's normal, then tell others the myth is true based on experience rather than facts, thus the myth goes on, and thus why knoweldge is so important.

A virgins body is no different to a non-virgin, the vagina doesn't need to 'loosen' as when aroused it naturally opens, lubricates, relaxes and almost doubles in size, a vagina can handle a baby so can easily take a penis as it's elastic so it will stretch then go back to original size. If a couple are inexperienced they may not understand this or they will rush foreplay to get to the main event, but foreplay makes sure penetration is possible and makes sure it's pleasurable.

Lubrication helps too if not wet enough, it's not a replacement for foreplay but part of safe sex as if penetration is difficult it's not only painful but can damage the vagina so increase risk of STI's. If a virgin still has her hymen in tact this can cause pain during sex, but the hymen breaking may not be painful, it is just as likely to feel pleasurable or have no feeling at all, everyone is different, but pain can be avoided if the hymen is stretched slowly and if on the big night things are taken slowly.

Emotions are a huge part of it too, many girls may not be ready to take that step or may not fully appreciate what it means, it's something you can't quite grasp until you're had the experience, so they may find it hard to relax. It's also true that if a girl expects pain she will tense up so making penetration difficult.

First time with any new partner can be awkward, and sex can change a relationship, so trust and respect are vitally important to make sure even if sex isn't as expected it is still not a terrible experience. Demand safe, pain-free pelasurable sex by talking to your partner and educating yourself, don't just tollerate painful or unenjoyable sex, a good first-time will help put you on the right road for a good sex life. Also don't assume just because you love the guy or are comfortable with him that sex will go according to plan, that you will actually want to have sex on that night.

I'd recommend both you and your partner look at these articles;

Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/boyfri…

From Ow! To Wow! Demystifying Painful Intercourse - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pink/f…

First Intercourse 101 - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual…

A guide to loosing your virginity - http://the-clitoris.com/f_html/female_vi…

Maybe. It varies from person to person

no
but kind of uncomfortably