Is it considered rape??!?!


Question: Is it considered rape??!?
I'm skipping the details, but.. Two nights ago i ended up at a house, somewhere, i dont know. And well basically, i was pushed onto a bed. and the kid kept asking if we could have sex. When i told him no he would get upset and just keep asking, getting more and more frustrated& pushy. I got a little scared and finally took my jeans off for him.. he started having sex with me and i kept telling him it hurt and that i wanted him to stop.. but he wouldn't. Finally when he was done i told him he needed to take me home now.. and he said not until he got another round.. Same thing happened.. I haven't stopped thinking about this since and i really dont know what to do.. We were both drunk, him more than i, but i remember it very clearly. Was this considered rape? Or not because he didn't force my clothes off? I'm a bit confused.. and i dont know wether to tell my parents.. Advice please??

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Yes this was rape.
Rape means sex without consent, when a person does not fully and freely consent to take part in that act - it doesn't have to be forced, most rapes happen like this.

You told him no but he kept pushing, he had sex with you knowing that you did not want to, he had sex with you even when you told him that it hurt you and to stop, he then forced you to have sex again - it doesn't matter that you took your jeans off, you could have been standing there naked and that still doesn't mean it's okay for him to have forced you into sex. You took your jeans off because you were scared and he was forcing you into sex - drunk or not it was rape.

You need to consider what to do now. Obviously I am going to say to tell someone what happened, ideally tell the police about what happened so they can arrest him - know that no matter how much doubt you are in this was rape, he knew it was rape, he needs to be arrested for this as he needs to know this is not acceptable. If you really don't want to go to the police then at least talk to your parents or someone you trust. Maybe consider a therapist as this does have the potential to effect you long-term, as you may carry on thinking this sort of behaviour is okay, it's not.

I wouldn't talk to him - it won't change the fact that he raped you, if anything talking to him would potentially cause more harm to you because he may try to justify what he did, if you're confused now about the fact this was rape then having him try to convince you he isn't rapist scum is probably going to mess with your head even more. You need to be very clear about what happened, you don't need to tell him that it was not okay, he knows it was not okay - he raped you, if he doesn't understand that wasn't okay then you telling him isn't going to change that. Tell the police, they will be more than happy to explain to him that raping you was wrong.

If he didn't use protection then obviously go for emergency contraception and STD tests. You might find it helpful to look through these articles about rape too;

What is Rape & What Is It Like to Be Raped? - http://www.scarleteen.com/what_is_rape_w…

Dealing With Rape - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/crisis…



Yes, this is considered rape. Don't pay any attention to the guy who said it wasn't because "You consented." Even if you would have consented at first, once you told him to stop and didn't, he is raping you. Plus it is Statutory Rape because he is an adult and you are a minor. Make a report with the police right away and tell your parents! This guy needs to be put away.



Yes it was rape, he needs to be reported to the police before he does this to someone else. It doesn't matter if you were drunk or if you took your clothes off. You told him to stop and he didn't. That fact alone means he raped you, you should tell your parents.



You told him to stop, it doesn't matter if you took your clothing off for him, you obviously were pressured and once you say stop or no, it becomes rape. Please do tell your parents, its important!
good luck:)



You consented by removing your clothing, therefore you were not raped.

EDIT: Nice - add the most important detail later! Yes, statutory rape applies to your case.



I would consider that a rape, and you should tell your parents, so they can talk to the boy and tell him to go **** OFF!!! Hope this helps! :)



If u sayed no then it's rap I would tell your rents or a guidance counceler anyone



No not the exact one but its a kind of compulsion sex, so u could take it as one.



yes!! THAT WAS RAPE!!

I wish I could punch that douchebag for you

IF YOU SAID NO it was RAPE!!



i think so



Yes.



If you're doesn't agree to have sex with him and if he pushing on you than that's rape. Go to the police now so that he deserve the punishment he gets.



Personally, I would consider that rape, even though the lines between rape and pushy sex can be very, very blurred. Fact is, you said no.
And it makes a very big difference that he is 18. He is an adult and it is against the law for him to have sex with a minor, consent given or no.
What he did was wrong. This has consumed you, and it's very important that you address it.
Unfortunately, there is probably nothing that you can legally do at present. Any physical evidence is gone at this point in time, so there's nothing to build a case against you.
You have to do what you want to do, when you're comfortable with it.
I would suggest telling him how you feel through a text. If he keeps texting you with things you don't want to hear, ignore him.
And, I know it's scary and something you don't want to share, but it's probably very important to tell your parents as well. You don't need to go through this alone, and your parents can be there for you. They may even be able to help you deal with that guy, whether it be legal action or otherwise.
But, I caution you, this event has clearly traumatized you, and it will be difficult to deal with. That's why you need to deal with it as it happens. If you hide this or bottle it up inside, it'll be a huge burden to carry. It'll be something you always think about, most likely, but that's why you need to turn this situation into something manageable with a lot of support.
Good luck, dear. I'm sorry this happened to you.




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