Questions about anal sex ..im nervous?!


Question: Questions about anal sex ..im nervous?
Its me & my bf's 10 month anniversary 2morrow & i wanna try somethinq new
We've tried this twice & qot nowhere
He's very patient with me & im very comfortable around him so the only worry i have is the pain

Will i bleed ??
How far in does he have 2 qo 4 me 2 feel pleasure

How lonq do we have 2 qo 4 me 2 feel the pleasure

Will i have a orqasm ??

Is it ok if i skip the " stickinq a finqer or 2 in there " ..i really don't wanna do this

We've had unprotected sex many times but should we use a condom ..or can we qo without it

Answers:

If you'r nervous, don't do it.

I can't stress this enough - anal sex should not be painful, if it hurts stop, don't have anal sex just for his sake or if you don't want to, practice safer sex, and really it would be a good idea not to have anal sex until you've been experimenting with anal play for a while - having anal sex without any preparation or knowledge about how to make it safe and pleasurable is a REALLY bad idea.

Will I bleed?
If you don't practice safer sex then yes, you may bleed. Your anus doesn't become larger or lubricated as your vagina does when aroused, if you're tense, don't use enough lube, or if he's rough, then penetration will be forced and the tissues of your anus may be damaged causing splitting that may bleed. This damage will also put you at significant risk of infection and STD's

How far in does he have to go for me to feel pleasure?
How long do we have to go for me to feel the pleasure?
As with any other sexual act there is no specific depth or time, if you're not into it you may not feel any pleasure at all, you may only enjoy it for a short time or only after a long time, you may prefer him near your anus rather than inside it, shallow or deep penetration - it's different for everyone. The only thing that is certain is that if you are nervous or in pain then you won't find it pleasurable at all. Needless to say if you do not enjoy it or if you find it painful STOP - never continue a sex act if it hurts, if you continue not only is it no fun but if you continue it may cause damage/more damage.

Will I have a orgasm?
You might, you might not - again it's down to whether you find it pleasurable, as with any sex act, there's nothing to say 'You will reach orgasm if you do this', everyone and every time is different.

Is it ok if i skip the "sticking a finger or two in there"?
He's putting his penis in your anus, not sure why using fingers would be a problem, if you don't find his fingers in your anus pleasurable then there is a chance anal sex will not be pleasurable for you. If it is a problem to use fingers then you can use toys instead, as long as you keep them clean. You really can't go straight into anal sex, anal play like this makes sure you're relaxed and comfortable with the sensation, it also loosens your sphincter for deeper penetration or anus for shallower penetration so anal sex is more comfortable and helps to prevent damage for safer anal sex.

Should we use a condom?
Yes, obviously STD's are always a risk with no test for HPV in men and cheating, or even if STD-free there are always general infections to consider before going unprotected, but with anal sex there is a whole new level of risk to consider. Bacteria and poop from your anus could go into the end of his penis, that puts him at risk of infection, but also even if he cleans very well there may still be some left in his penis which would then go into you if you were to have vaginal sex. So condoms protect you both, and make it much easier to clean-up.

Practising safer anal sex means more than using condoms, it means using lube, it means experimenting with anal play long before the full anal sex, it means stopping if it hurts, it means not doing it if you don't want to. Practice safer sex; wait for now - you can always have anal sex if you want to at a later time when you are ready like your 1 year anniversary, there's really no rush, and that gives you time to do the prep work of anal play and learn a bit more about anal sex so that you can be more comfortable and safe.

PLEASE if you're really insisting on doing this tomorrow then read these first;

Butt Sex for Beginners - http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/howto/bu…

Anal Sex Lowdown - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice…

Anal Sex: No Different? - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual…

Why does anal sex hurt? - http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice…

Anal sex @ the-clitoris.com - http://www.the-clitoris.com/n_html/anal_…

Personal experience, and work within sexual health.



Ok - you really DO want him to spend time with 1,2 3 fingers to relax you and lube you up. This is not optional for first timers.

I strongly suggest you use condoms and get extra thick lube/Vasaline. That area needs extra thick protection.

Do this - Let him lube you up and relax you then go doggy style. He has to stand there while you push-back against him. There are spots where you will feel a bit of pain and if you are in control you can pause to get used to it. Or have him lay down and you go cowgirl style.

You probably wont have an orgasm unless you fondle yourself. The other way is to fold a pillow on the edge of the bed, sit on it and lay back. This will give him access to all your parts and he can manipulate you while gently having his way.

Anal is .. a bit advanced. It may not work right the first time or two - but a sex life is about doing new things over a long time.



it is highly unlikely that you will orgasm or feel pleasure, even. ive heard that it is very uncomfortable, and it does hurt. so i wouldnt recomend it.
and you cant get pregnant that way, so the condom is unnecessary unless youre using it to prevent stds. but if you have unprotected sex anyways (which you shouldnt) then you dont have to worry about a condom.



anal is gross.




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