sex for the first time, kinda sorta?!

The "popping the cherry" phrase is sometimes misplaced. Your hymen doesn't necessarily just "pop" after a few times of being fingered....in fact, my hymen never tore, just stretched. It all depends on your own anatomy and the size of your boyfriend. It is in fact your hymen that causes the pain. With time the pain will go away as your hymen stretches/tears. As for your clitoris being sore...take it easy next time. I recommend you use lube both externally and internally. Rub your clitoris with the lube and it will be less sensitive the next day. The marvels of decreased friction at work. I recommend that you try missionary until it stops hurting for you.

That was sex. The definition of sex, is when a penis enters your vagina.
Congrats, you lost something you can't ever take back.
It will hurt the first time because your vaginal wall isn't accustomed to being stretched like that. And, it will usually bleed even if your "cherry" has been popped.
Your clitoral hood is so sensitive because of the stretching.

Well if it was your first time, you bf penis was stretching your insides, as nothing that large has been all the way in. It will take a bit to do it all the way. Or maybe try a different position.

Same thing for the hood, it was stretched and it will be sensitive.

Good luck

You ain't virgin anymore, period.