maybe i'm not ready yet?!


Question: Maybe i'm not ready yet?
i don't know what to do.. i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we hadn't have sex yet.. he wants to and so do i but i have this weird thing in my head.. its like when i see him naked i feel like a child watching a naked grown up man and i just can't do it.. (i'm 18 and he's 19..) i don't understand it, is it normal? i've had 2 boyfriends before him and its been the same thing but i don't understand why..

i wasn't raised in a religious family or anything like that. i really want to do it but when we're about to.. i get scared and i can't.. i like him a lot, he's the perfect boyfriend and i love him but i don't know what's wrong with me.. =/

Answers:

you're either

1 not ready
or
2 scared of the unknown

but just make sure you have some sort of foreplay so that your stretched out
and make sure he understands he needs to be gentle



wow...Ive experienced something very similar. Do you have major trust issues with men? like your dad walked out? Were you possibly sexually abused as a child?

you may have been and just have blocked it out of your memory for a long time. I didn't re-discover that part of my own childhood until I started exploring sexually and had a traumatic event occur in my adult life...Id definetly see a therapist about this. Good luck



your just scared of the unknown..dont let him pressure you..but if you wanna do it use a condom!!!!!!!
and..make sure he is very gentle with you and masturbate a lot to stretch yourself so it wont hurt as much...good luck..it hurts the first time..is weird the second time and after that you will want it all the time! beeeeelieeeve me!



This shows you're not ready. If he really loves you then he would understand if his reaction is rude then dump him he won't be worth your time never date a guy who only wants you for your pussy cat.




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