sex is painful...i can't get wet.. and i bleed afterwards..what is wrong?!
Question: Sex is painful...i can't get wet.. and i bleed afterwards..what is wrong?
we four play for a little while.. to which he always gets wet to, but i rarely get more then a little, when he fingers me it hurts a little, and when we have sex it is extremely uncomfortable, and everytime so far i have bled afterwards, im really worried, sex isn't enjoyable for me and he obviously realizes as i don't make an attempt to fake orgasm, im sick and tired of enduring something that causes me pain when its meant to be all about pleasure, help--im at my witts end.
Answers:
Lubrication is essential to pleasurable sex.
And you can purchase lubricants (try to buy ones that do not contain glycerine or parabens. These ingredients can cause irritation in some women)
Do you feel that you are getting aroused during foreplay? do you tell your boyfriend what areas on your body feel good?
Maybe you need more foreplay. Have you tried oral sex ? Have you tried masturbation with a vibrator?
Maybe the problem lies with your boyfriend?
Do you have guilty feelings about sex?
Some women have a condition called Vaginismus - where the vaginal muscles involuntary contract and spasm and it makes penetration very difficult.
It would be to your benefit to get a good physical with your gynecologist.
There could be some physical reasons, maybe ovarian cysts?
It is not good that your sexual life is not getting any better. And the longer it goes on, the more you will begin to not want sex at all.
These conditions can be treated -
But, just maybe your boyfriend is not giving you enough foreplay.
If he cares about you , he will want youto enjoy sex and should be willing to take it slow...And welcome your suggestions.
If not, then he is not the one for you.
I hope things get better for you.
You deserve to enjoy sex!
more foreplay and use lube- most women take 15-20 or more of foreplay to be fully aroused- time for you BOTH to get some Real sex ed-
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice…
PS in my opinion if he Really cared about you he would take time and effort to Please YOU
my exgirlfriend had that same problem. we tried using lube and it helped out a bit. she never bled though. i would ask a doctor.
I would definitely try using some lube! It should help a lot.
buy lube! that should make it so much better, sex should not be painful!
It sounds like you are not getting aroused by the foreplay. If your vagina is not getting lubricated, then sex is very painful and the friction can cause bleeding to occur. Try some lubrication to your genital area before having sex. Something like astro glide or KY jelly. This can be fun and feels really good. Spend more time doing foreplay, and you will get more aroused. You can use the lubricating gel as part of the foreplay. No one can orgasm when it feels dry and painful. Also put the lubrication on your boyfriend's penis prior to sex, that increases the lubrication and smoothness of the feeling.
Having sex is a skill that needs to be practiced and experimented with. You and your boyfriend just need to have some more ideas about foreplay and how to pleasure each other. Let him know what makes you feel good. If he were sexually experienced in pleasuring women, he would never enter your vagina until it was well lubricated. That really hurts. Good luck and have fun.