Should i continue on with our divorce or give my husband a second chance? Opinio!


Question: Should i continue on with our divorce or give my husband a second chance? Opinions?
Im 26 and have been married for 6yrs, When we met we were head over feels and couldn't get enough of each other, We married after 8mnths together, is 34 and travels the US & Europe alot with his job, which at first wasn't a problem for me as he always wanted me with him. I gave birth to our daughter 2yrs ago and she is the apple of his eye, At times we wouldn't see each other for a month at a time. If we did have time together when he wasn't touring i would be busy with the baby & he'd be in the studio, We we're really happy together and he always told me how much he was in love with me, He would by me flowers, hold me next to him & other times just spend hours in bed with each other. I love him so much but we argued many times of our minimum time we had together and distants. Things blew up one night as he was leaving to tour and it got very heated, he said that i was the reason we cant be around each other often, That i must resent him for holding me back on my youth, He shouted that he regretted ever meeting me, That if he never met me then he wouldn't be so in love with me & hate me at the same time. That really hurt me & when he was about to apologize i told him that i regretted marrying him, it still kills me that i said that and he told me that i should do something about it, Something he said to me is still in my head that i don't understand what he meant, He told me that This is our beginning coming to an end. and then he walked out. I filed for divorce and when he found out he called me and begged me not to but the distants and fighting was killing us that i thought it was the best thing to do, We have been apart for 5months now and the papers are due to be signed soon. He keeps calling me and comes by my apartment asking me to dinner even on days he doesnt have to pick up our daughter, when i tell him to give it up he tells me that he wont sign the papers and that we owe it to ourselves & our baby to give it one one shot and that he loves me too much to give up on me. I love this man to death but i cant go back to the way things were, i cant handle it. Any advice?

Answers:

Hi
I suggest you to give him a second chance divorce is a solution for BASIC and UNSOLVED problems and it's not your case,Your husband is gone because of his job he's not involved in your life that much and you need and love him this is the root of your arguments,ALL couples have fights and arguments ESPECIALLY in the first decade of marriage ALL OF THEM,so stay and fight for your relationship,you sound really lovely and it's great that your husband loves you,talk to him calmly and say you love him and need him just you are tired of being alone and taking care of your daughter alone talk about whatever you think is important to mention and ALL your reactions are because of this otherwise you love him like the first day,TALK TO HIM,you can go to a counsellor and they can help you to build this lovely relationship better and better.
Hope you give your relationship time:)



I know its hard when you love someone and you have a child with them..and when you are angry you say stuff you dont mean to say! but yall just talk now, date and try to work things out and see how things go from there..and i hope for the best! Good Luck (:



In my opinion I wouldnt think twice about giving him an extra chance. All couples argue. And being in a long distance relationship most the time is hard. But he obviouly loves you and you said you love him. Date him like you did in the begining and start over again. tell him what you want and let him tell you what he wants. I hope you guys can work it out!!! Good Luck!



you sound just like me ... i left my boyfriend because while i was pregnant last year he would call me every weekend telling me i should just kill my self and the baby because he wanted nothing to do with me and didnt want to deal with reality and then when i left him for a while he would call and tell me he wants to marry me and has a ring and etc and i left him a month before my son was born because he was getting too abusive saying hateful and hurtful things and i didnt want to raise me son around someone who hated his own flesh and blood. that being said id leave get a divorce... theres a big age gap and hes obviously still immature and arrogant and you are too young to be going thru this... kids that grow up with parents that are yelling and fighting constantly are 80% more likely to become deliquents by the age of 10 then raising a child on your own in a split house.




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