Is this normal ? Whats wrong with me ! :0?!


Question: Is this normal ? Whats wrong with me ! :0?
i think i have a problem . i am a 13 yr old girl who truning 14 and i think i have a anger problem . i can get mad really fast . my friends say i need anger management or theapy . i can be happy one minute but the next i am really sad or mad and want to be left alone . when i get really mad , my blood pressure goes up and my heartstartes beating fast i start shaking and i juss blurt out anything that comes to mind . half the thing i say dont even make sense and i say things i dont really mean . also i dont ket tings go .. i can forgive but never forget i will never drop anything a problem until i get even . this has cost me alot of trouble . im a senior in the 8th grade and thanks ot this problem im not allowed to go to prom or senior trip for cursing out the school principle , i want help but idk what to do . please help and no stupieed answers please

Answers:

Some of this is probably hormones bouncing up and down in your body but some of it is the way you train yourself to be. I had a terrible temper when I was younger but through the years, I taught myself to calm down and let things go. Anger doesn't solve a thing and most of the time makes your situation worse. When you feel anger coming on, take a deep breath and mentally calm yourself down. If you taught yourself to get angry fast, you can also teach yourself to calm down and not get angry. There is no reason for you to be using bad language at all and that is another thing you need to teach yourself not to do. Learn to respect authority, even if you don't agree with them. You will learn to respect yourself more if you do.

As far as forgiving and forgetting, what you say is true to a point but you need to learn to remember things only to the point that you can use the wisdom from it and not repeat the same mistakes over and over.... if you do keep repeating the same things all the time, then you are showing your immaturity so it's time to grow up and start taking responsibility for your actions ~ don't make excuses for them ~ and start making changes that only you can do. Go to the principal and apologize for your actions and let them know you are trying to change your attitude. Adults have no problem apologizing when they have wronged someone and it will help you to feel better about yourself.

Don't be so quick to open your mouth when something happens... take the time to cool down and think before you speak and you can avoid tons of problems down the road. I'm not saying this is all easy to do and it will take time but the more you practice good behavior, the quicker you will change who you are and people will like you for being a kind, caring person ~ and you will like yourself and find more happiness.

You might also talk with your OB/GYN and see if there is something you can take to keep your mood swings from being so drastic, something that may plague you for a few years as they continue to make changes until you reach adulthood (which is closer to 21 than 18 :) You can go to the store and buy St John's Wort which will help to even out your moods and since it's a natural product, you can take it a couple of times a month if needed. Take a week before your period starts and a week after it has started to help even your mood.

One thing I found that really helped me was Premarin, much like Mydol but Mydol didn't help me like Premarin did with my mood swings and the bloating so which ever one works for you, take it a week before you start and see if it helps ~ but remember, that will only balance your hormones and mood swings ~ the rest is up to you and what you train yourself to be. Your life is what you make it to be ~ a filthy mouthed girl with an attitude or a lady ~ and boy are they rare today !!! I hope you will choose to be a lady and set out to impress everyone with the nice person you can be :)

God bless you

Galatians 6:7
Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.

Proverbs 2:12
Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men, from men whose words are perverse,

Read Proverbs 31:10-31 about the Wife of Nobel Character.... you can model your life after this scripture so you can have a happy life and not one filled with tons of hurt and regret.



You're 14, this is a very wierd stage in life. You don't know how to react to certain things. It's completely normal to have mood swings but perhaps if they are getting you into trouble you should mention it to your doctor. You should apologize to your principal as this will show you're maturity.

Don't worry, everything will be ok :) x



No offense hun but that's not completely normal yes teenagers have CRAZY mood swings but that a bit over the top. I'm not being sarcastic, but i think you should get a councilor i got one for my terrible depression mood swings and they put me on a mood stabilizer that worked wonders.

mee(:



Life can be frustrating which can make you angry. I feel the same way most of the time. I lash out at people I love and get mad instantly. I would talk to your doctor or a school counselor. Counseling/therapy is a great way to help with this problem you are having. It will take time though, you have to want to help yourself



It sounds like you have anger management problems. It's totally common, and it's not a bad thing at all. You've just got a little chemical imbalance in your brain. You can't help it, so don't feel bad.

You probably need to see a therapist or counselor. They could prescribe you some medicine, or help you work on anger managing techniques, depending on your parents' opinions and the level of your problem.

Seeing a therapist isn't necessarily a bad thing, either. When I first started seeing my therapist, I felt like such a freak. But, you'd be surprised how many people from my school I see there. It's crazy. And my therapist said she has tons of other patients that go to my school.
I can definitely be scary at first. I was so scared the first few times I went, because I hate talking about my problems with other people (I have depression/anxiety and ADHD). But it's really not that bad once you get to know you therapist, as long as you like them. It's really, really important that you like your therapist, so don't be scared to request a new one.

If you need any help or have questions, you can email me any time:)
[I'm not sure if my email address is public on my page or not, so it's abbieintheskywithdiamonds@gmail.com]


P.S.
Here's a website you can go to:
www.angermanagementsolutions.com


Good luck! :)



The first step to solve any problem is to get to the source. Think of it like a garden being your personality. In every garden there are beautiful flowers (your good qualities that make you unique) and there are also weeds (things you need to work on such as your anger issues). The only way to get rid of a weed is by getting to the roots. So basically what I'm trying to say is you need to figure out your triggers your outbursts. You can start by asking yourself,

Am I comfortable and happy with my family life?,

Am I jealous of my friends in any way (they might always get the guy, have things you want, etc.)?,

Is a boy causing all of this?,

Am I comfortable with myself (happy with your body, personality, how you are doing in school either academically, socaily or both)?

Do I have someone (family or friend) that I can tell anything to (if not, that could be the problem)?

Once you figure out the source of why you are having fits, you can try to resolve them/it. For example, if you aren't happy with who you are, remember life is about creating yourself not finding yourself and that you are still young no matter what you think let high school be a clean slate and the rest of this year an anger detox. Also, make sure you hang around a good group. You have no idea how many girls I see, being in high school myself, hang around the wrong type of people and get burned because of it. A true friend never backstabs you (in case you aren't familiar with the expression, somebody who talks about you behind your back to other people), they should always be there to help/defend you, have fun, makes good decsions herself (doesn't do drugs, to involved with boys for her age, etc.), and most of all make sure your friends are completely and uterly reliable.

When you do get mad, think it through and stop yourself or squeeze your hand to make a fist and tell yourself in your head that its not worth blowing up about and that you are better than this. Also apologize to people you have blown up to, especaily your principal. Don't sass or give attitude to anybody (not your mom or dad either). You can do this!

A few tips for the future:
1. don't do anything you wouldn't want your mom seeing
2. don't give any attitude
3. hang with people that are genuine
4. watch what you post online (Facebook)
5. you can be anything you wanna be, go for it
6. believe in yourself
7. you are never alone
8. everyday is another chance
9.keep your loved ones close
10. BE YOUR BEST!

Good luck with life!!!!! I know you can do anything you set your mind to. Make your family and friends proud but most importantly be proud in yourself : ) Happy to help, yours forever and always,

JS <3




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