Do I absolutely have to tell my mother that I got my period?!


Question: Do I absolutely have to tell my mother that I got my period?
First off, I have a not-so-good relationship with my mother. My father abandoned us 6 years ago, and ever since, she is barely home, she is at work. I stay home with my 19 year old sis. I am 15 years old, and I got my first period in November. Right now I am on my 3rd, cause I skipped December, which I know is regular in the first year or two. I know nearly all there is to know about periods, puberty, etc. I have done extensive reading online throughout the years. I have access to purchasing pads and tampons at my high school, and I have my own money because I babysit. So, my question is, do I have to tell her? I know eventually she will begin to wonder if I have it, but I know she will ask, and I will tell her yes if she asks. If I run into health issues, I will obviously tell her, because I don't want my health to be at risk. But otherwise, do I have to?

The whole reason I don't want to tell her is because 1. I'm not close to her and it would be embarrassing 2. I am well-educated and responsible and have this under control 3. I have a severe anxiety disorder, and I would never EVER be able to bring myself to tell her face-to-face. I would literally have a panic or asthma attack.

So...Do I?

Answers:

I am sure your mother will ask you herself - if she hasn't already guessed. I would not worry about telling her at all - she either knows or will ask when she wants to know - you sound well informed so don't be stressing yourself about telling her at all - you are coping well - maybe your sister has already told her. Try not to get annoyed about it all - I am sure it will all work itself out.



Just leave a post it note where she can see it. Like on her pillow so no one els will find it. That way you wont have to go trough the awkwardness of telling her to her face. And if she wants to talk to you about it then she can. Hope I helped :)



Well, I dont know just how close you are with your mom, I would say I am pretty close with mine but telling her was still hard. So I wrote a letter, if your not okay with talking about it express that, because I would think it is better to tell her now rather than have her hurt later because you kept it from her. So Yes I think you should just find a way to that works for you, im sure she went through the same thing! :)
Hope it helped



I guess not, I suppose she will assume you have your period, because the supplies are going a bit faster than usual.

Did you tell you sister ?

Just because your not that close to yoru Mom, doesnt mean she is not concerned, you know Moms know about this stuff.

Best way to handle it even if you have anxiety, is to make light of it, hey Mom when your shopping, we need some napkins/tampons.

Good luck and give your Mom some slack, I am sure she is doing her best, and it takes two to try to be close. So why don't you be the one to try.



You don't really have to. I'm sure she'd like to know, but it's your decision.
When I started my period, I left my mom a note in her purse. I didn't want to tell her face to face either. It worked, and she didn't mention it after saying "There are pads in the bathroom drawer".
Are you close to your sister? If so, you could ask her to tell your mom for you, and to tell your mom not to bring it up with you because you havew things under control.




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