Am I wrong to feel weird about this?!
Question: Am I wrong to feel weird about this?
We've always sent each other funny emails almost every day -- jokes, funny photos, sometimes naughty (like funny dirty jokes), sometimes a little sexy between us, but not pornographic.
Well, today's forwarded email was a slide show of women's crotch hairstyles....featuring things like a "landing strip" if you know what I mean. I questioned him about it and he said he thought I might like the ideas, and also apologized.
Some questions:
1. Am I wrong to feel weird about what he sent me? I know we always send goofy emails, but this was close-up crotch shots with "names" of their bush-styles.
2. I keep myself very trimmed and some areas shaved, though no landing strip or designs!
Am I supposed to shave my bush into some weird shape?
Is that what regular women do?
Is that what a typical man thinks is normal or hot?
We're supposed to get together tonight and I feel really insecure about myself now, like I'm doing something wrong. Or not doing something right? I feel like it was a HINT, even though the "styles" ranged from a thin strip of hair to a full bush to completely bare so which would be the hint???
How was I supposed to react to that??? What's normal for bush hair anyway????
Opinions???
Answers:
i dont think you should beat your self up for your reaction over this. it can be difficult with a newish relationship not to go a bit far at times with jokes that the other person may not quite like.
i remember i was 16, with a boyfriend of about 3 weeks, not intimate at all (we hadn't even kissed) and he sent me a email about how many calories are used up and muscles are worked out during sex! i was quite offended cause i thought he was pushing me into a physical relationship, and calling me fat all at once!
anyway, i think he thought it was a good joke, but not realising that you may not like it so much, i think it is good that you let him know and didn't just go along with it if you didn't like it. you shouldn't feel like you are doing something wrong. it was your reaction. i think you should try to act as normal as possible, he has apologised for it.
most women just do what you do, keep it well trimmed and shaved/waxed. but i think more are going for no hair at all as well, but its just up to your personal preference.
Normal is what YOU feel comfortable with. He obviously thought you might appreciate the slide show and probably even hoped you might take some of the ideas on board but your personal choice is just that - your choice. Differant men find differant things exciting but you need to be true to who you are and what you are comfortable with.
IMO you are not wrong to feel uncomfortable about what he sent you . It was in very poor taste and showed a lack of respect for you.
He is a loser
dump him now.
He thought you would like it, your a ******.
You're uptight and easily spooked, which is lame but not unusual.
Don't waste any of your time thinking about what pubic hairstyle the "typical man" wants. When given the opportunity to have sex with you, no man in the universe will pause to say, "hey, I don't like your pubic hair."
Once you two get intimate, maybe this discussion will come up. Maybe you'll outline the limits you're willing to go to, and maybe he'll express what he desires. But let's be straightforward here: If it's terrifying and embarrassing for you to think about shaving pubic hair, you have neither the maturity nor the emotional intimacy for sex.