having trouble having sexy?!

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you could have vaginism or dispareinia - check and follow advices - see in link

http://www.women-health-info.com/98-PAIN…

I had the same problem when I first got married. I went to get checked at the doctor and it turned out I had a benign ovarian cyst that was causing pain during sex. A doctor visit will ease your mind that nothing is wrong physically.

Other that that, here's some advice for what helped me: Plenty of foreplay to get your body ready, use a ton (read: TON!) of lubricant, and try to find a comfortable position that works for you. Hope this helps :)

PS. Did you ever break when he entered you? Did you bleed at all? It may be that your hymen is still intact and that really hurts! Get checked out by a doc, they can tell you if it's still intact and can break it for your so sex will be more enjoyable. Also, during sex, make sure you're very relaxed and have your legs really wide apart.

There is always a possibility that you two are doing it wrong. You didn't really say what the problem is. Is it that he doesn't get hard, or that you can't get it to go in, or you don't enjoy it, or you cannot have orgasm, or he cannot have orgasm? See, lots of possibilities 8-)

Asking for advice on Yahoo is OK, but maybe you should try asking somebody in person. Best would be if the two of you could talk to someone who you both trusted.

What I would ask is things like, How much time do you spend cuddling, or kissing, or just being close in other ways? Does he get a hard erection? Does your vagina get wet? Do you like it when he touches you? Do you touch his penis?

don't be excited too much while you sex and try to foreplay.

experiment.

Stop putting so much pressure on the moment. Just let it happen naturally.

Look up different positions and try them out. Maybe the one or ones you've been trying just don't work for you.

Just remain calm and relax and it will work out.