Desperate!!!! Our sex is becoming more of a responsibilty than fun? ):?!

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It sounds as if there are a lot of conflicts happening in your relationship.

What changed ?
Sexual problems usually happen because there are other aspects of your relationship that are not going well.
Have you tried to communicate to him how you feel?
Men are difficult to pin down when talking about feelings, but your relationship might be in trouble if you don't communicate about this problem.
Try to figure out what may have caused this change.
You say that you still love each other, so you really need to address this issue soon.
I hope things work out for you!

Sounds like sex has become the common bond between you. You both like sex and are comfortable with each other sexually, but the emotional relationship is over. You are masking the end of the emotional relationship with the physical sex. Sounds like the relationship is over, neither one of you have acknowledged it yet. Sex should be an enjoyable addition to a relationship, not the relationship itself.

make ur self turned on be4 u do it. mean really turned on. like 4 play

Sex is only truly enjoyable when you already feel close and then it just deepens the bond. You need to reestablish that. Think of activities (besides sex) that the 2 of you enjoyed when you met. Put sex out of your mind and take a walk on the beach or whatever you prefer. Try doing little non-sexual things for him that let him know you care. A love note by his coffee in the morning or cook him a nice dinner, whatever he would love. Do this without the agenda of sex at the end. You will find that once you (and he) are relaxed and happy the desire will come back with a vengence. there is no place for worry during sex

Sex can form a strong bond and feelings of love. In the long-run, that alone is not enough to sustain a relationship over time. Probably not what you want to hear, but I've been there/done that :)

If you're fighting and having difficulty finding common interests, then you might not be right for each other. It's really common for people to get sexually and emotionally attached to each other when it's just not a good match. You love him, and I know that idea hurts.

Talk to him about finding a common interest that you two can share together. Start a new workout regimen together? Dance lessons? An art or pottery class? Volunteering for a cause you both care about? See if you can build something to share that makes you both feel attached in a "more real" way.

Bottom line - ask yourself "we love each other, but do we LIKE each other? ... are we friends?"