Not able 2 hav an orgasm?!

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There's nothing wrong with you. It's actually not uncommon for women to struggle with this. You're certainly not alone.

The best advice I can give is: forget everything you've ever seen in porn movies. They are nowhere near realistic when it comes to how women achieve orgasms. Very few women can ever achieve an orgasm from penetration alone. What you see in the movie is faked for the camera.

Most orgasms come from the clitoris (a small, pea-shaped node that sits just above where you pee). Ordinary penetrative sex does not hit the clitoris, and so you would usually have to stimulate it with your hand (or with a vibrator) in order to reach an orgasm. Most women do this. Your partner will also often work with his hands, or perform oral sex on you, in order to bring you to orgasm separately.

However, if you've never had an orgasm before, then it's probably most important that you take some time to get to know your body first (and figure out what you like), before you try and rely on your partner to get you there. You can start out by masturbating (using your hand to rub your genitals, or other areas of your body), or you can buy a vibrator to use instead of your hand. If you are concerned about doing this alone, then schedule a quiet evening with your partner and spend time touching yourself in front of him, or letting him touch you, without moving into penetration. Make sure you both know that this is your night, not his. Explore different areas of your body. Try to move your hands at different speeds and apply different levels of pressure. Remember that there are no rules as to what's meant to work for you. We are all individuals and our bodies are not all the same. Go with whatever feels good to you.

It is likely that it will take you a lot of time to get there, and you might not get an orgasm the first time you try. It's one of those things where you get better at it the more you practice. :)

It's very normal for a woman to feel tense (or like she needs to pee) in the early stages of sexual arousal. This can make it more difficult to reach an orgasm, and it's something where you will just need to remember to relax through it and let yourself go. If you're worried about having to pee: go to the bathroom and then come back to the stimulation. It's normal for everything to get very wet as you get more excited, but at least then you can rest assured that it's not pee. :) Remember that the relaxation part can a long time, and there's no clock running on how long you're meant to have. Just go with it, for as long as you like. At the end of the day: you deserve to have an orgasm just like everybody else. :)