When will I get over my rape?!

honestly you'll never Truly get over it. it will still be there. i was raped when i was young like 6 or 7 so really young i'm 21 now and still remember it and because of it i have intimacy issues. it doesn't affect my day to day life but i can say it affects my love life. our situation is a little different from mine as all situations are. i'm in school to be a psychologist and i read about this all the time and it is a little hard to talk about and i feel i'm not saying what i mean to say but yea. you most likely won't get over your rape but u can move on with time. but anyway if you feel you need to talk to some one or anything u can always email or im me and i might be able to write what i went thru more clearly then writing it here where all can be viewed if you get what i mean hope this helps and sorry i can't clarify better

everybody is different! i was date raped 9yrs ago, went to counseling right after it happened and was back to living life (about 6mo later). 3yrs after that i began going through changes again til where i began having fear in men and been selevent since (5yrs). i'm now kinda back on track where i'm dating men but i still won't have sex (no interestt).

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GOD bless your soul.

Yo use a line in a play, "its like a brick in your pocket. You never forget, but you will get to a psychological place were you can handle it. And then send that energy outward, to your children and other women, the worst thing about society is letting rape be quiet, pushing it under the carpet. Its great that your talking it out. My own mother was as a child, in the generation were it was hush hush, and is really only now seeing how its still with her, bad coping mechanisms. Silly, but watch the movie with David Bowie called Labyrinth, and one line in there

You Have No Power Over ME!

your worth a thousand of hims

I do not want to offend you in any way....but something I have always wondered....and perhaps you would be so kind as to explain it to me. I thought that if a boyfriend, or an ex or a husband rapes you...it is nothing more than a violent act of intercourse, albeit against your will...it still just doesn't sound that horrible to me. I mean it is a violent act against you, but that's all it is..and I should think it is just something that you should be able to tell yourself...ok. it happened, and now it's over and I'm rid of him....and I sincerely hope he has been punished legally.....but then if this is the case....why is it still a problem?? I don't understand.
I think of some violent fights my husband and I have had, where we have said some awful things to each other....awful words...horrible words...and yet....in time, we can get past it and get over it...and resume our relationship. It will have a scar, yes, but it too will fade in time.
Perhaps you need the ex to apologize??? I could see that would go a long way w/me. Please, if you can...enlighten me. If you can't....I understand.