Is it normal to be scared of ... ?!

I'm sorry your friend said that to you! That's way out of line. It's totally normal to feel scared about sex. Not everyone "wants it" and not everyone wants it or is ready at the same time. Some people lose their virginities young and others wait until they're over 20. Either way is just fine.

Don't stress. You don't need to think about sex right now if you don't want to. Trust in the fact that when you're ready, sex will be an exciting and joyful experience for you. Then, focus on what you love and what makes you happy, whether it's sports or school or drama, whatever. Sex is still going to be there when you get older, so don't worry about it. There's no rush. And it's also totally normal to feel kinda embarrassed about sexuality because your body is changing, and that comes with all kinds of weird new feelings and weird stuff that makes you feel uncomfortable.

When it was ME in your shoes, I was totally embarrassed about sex too. It's normal and it's okay. Being a teenager is rough. Sometimes girls just get told about our periods; we aren't told about all the other stuff that's going to happen to us. Our voices get deeper too, we get longer limbs that might make us clumsy, suddenly we get way taller. Hormones make you feel more than sexual feelings, they can also make you anxious, scared, depressed, and lonely. These things just take time to straighten out, but they do.

Also, you don't have to let anyone know you feel scared. If they bring it up, just brush it off. You can say something like, "I'd rather just focus on the basketball team/my grades/getting into a good college while I'm in high school." Or you can change the subject. And don't be afraid to even say, "You guys are making me feel really bad. I'm not focusing on sex right now, so can you please just respect my decision?" Take time to have a teenage experience that's fun for you. This is a time to develop new skills that will last a lifetime; embrace your strengths.

Props to you for doing what you feel is right for YOU. If your friends don't respect that, then you need new friends, and I guarantee you that there are young women at your school who aren't thinking about sex and won't make you feel bad just because you're not, either.

I was once young and in the same situation.

People that are emotionally attached and feel securely in love with each other enjoy expressing their love sexually. I'm married and enjoy sex with my man. But if I did not feel secure or emotionally attached my stomach would turn and I would be afraid. That is normal.

Sex is not an object to be desired outside of an emotionally secure relationship that has limits. The casual sex portrayed on tv in real life would frighten most people and would not be enjoyable. People build imaginary worlds where these things are apparently enjoyed - but much that is portrayed is a living lie.

Casual sex lacks the ingredients necessary to really enjoy it as it should be enjoyed. And it lacks the meaning that makes the expression meaningful.. So don't sell yourself short.

Mom of four, RN

aw,this is so cute.how old are you honey?&my friend next to me is a MASTER she is 16&was also scared at first as is everyone unless your like a whore.lmao please dont get upset over something thats ment to be a happy pleasureable time in ur life,when it happens you wont be nervous/scared because you will want it(: lmao i hope this has helped -breanna<3

It's completely normal if you aren't ready for it.
I'm assuming your young so it's understandable.
You're friend seems like she wants to be "cooler" and more "grown up" so just don't listen to her.
Take your time with the whole concept of sex and keep it at your own comfortable pace. Don't let friends or boys rush you.

Of course it is! I'm 19, a virgin and i'm still scared of sex lol ..... but it's because my parents have drilled the idea that 'sex is not good until marriage' into me. Also, I'm scared of getting pregnant. You need to find a nice boy that can control himself and he'll wait for you until you're ready. :)

people are so different and their reactions to things such as sex will be many and varied. both your reactions and feelings are normal and you should not feel ashamed or that you are abnormal. and your feelings are not static and will change as you become older.

First of all you're young. Don't worry about having sex now, save it for when you're older and with someone you truly care about and would want to marry. You'll regret having sex just to have sex.

it depends on how old you are physically and mentally if your like 16 it will hurt and if your scared to have sex then you shouldn't until your ready

me

Totally normal. You're too young for it! Nothing wrong with that.
Ignore your horny friend haha. Don't sweat it.

YES! It's totally normal.
I was terrified the first time I had sex.