Girlfriend doesntwant to have sex with me anymore?!
Question: Girlfriend doesntwant to have sex with me anymore?
started having sex after 3 weeks
have had sex couple times a week, good sex life
we got in an argument and i kind of told her that she didnt really give sex a break between relationships
since 18- (now 23) shes had 4 partners and there has really been no break....
anyways after that i guess she felt slutty, and she said she doesnt want to do anything sexual anymore, even hand jobs! UNTIL MARRIAGE.
i told her itd make sense if she was a virgin, then id wait for her, but we've already done it so whats the point... i also told her i honestly think of sex as a huge part of a relationship and think id honestly probably end up cheating on her in the future if we dont have sex. She says this is forcing her?
These are things she says " I dont want to be loose for my husband, and im not sure if were going to married so I dont want to have sex now"
what do i do??? have you ever heard of anything like this? this is messed.
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I guess she doesn't want to be with you anymore. She wants to break up. If she was virgin then that would make scene..
Wow, just wow.
You call her/imply she is a slut and then expect her to have sex with you? What is her sexual history to you (besides STDs) anyway?
Yes you are forcing her. She doesnt have to have sex just because you might cheat otherwise (and that is really awful btw, why not just break up with her???? ). And it sounds like she doesnt trust you or have an emotional connection anymore. Plus you sound like a dick.
Neither of you have to stay in a relationship where you are not happy.
you have to respect her decision. threatening her with cheating on her is forcing her or making her feel like she deserves to be cheated on which is not right.
she may change her mind once she gets over the fight, she may be saying these things because she is still angry about what you said to her.
what do you do? give her some space and some time. if you cannot respect her decision, then maybe its not the relationship for you if you put sex above her
if you care about her you will wait how long she asks you. try to seduce her she will give into it lol if you do something she never would of expected.. idk ask her if you could have sex with her while shes sleeping?
This relationship is doomed to fail and because of your dumbass comment, it's not looking like you'll be able to hit it one more time before it does fail.
get a new girlfriend that will have sex with you.
OMG sex is totally not a HUGE part of a relationship.
wow lol anywho ibet sex between the two of you would be so much hotter, passionate, etc. etc. if you would have waited longer than 3 weeks.
It usually works better when you really know the person and if you actually love them for who they are lol. like love everything about them, not just sex.
IDK just sayin.
Oh yeah and that was pretty dick-ish what you said. Seems like your only wanting the sex too. I mean if you really loved her you would never say such a thing to her. DICK. lol
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Why on earth did you even bring up past sexual relations? I would understand/make an effort to understand if that was what you were fighting about(not doing it enough, doing it too much, accusing each other of cheating, ect), but otherwise, this should not have been thrown in her face.
No, she didn't feel ''slutty'', she felt embarrased and humiliated, that you could even say such a thing. Now, because you did, she figures that you see sex with her a bad thing(because she has had ''too much sex''), she is going to give it the break you thought she needed.
Seriously, you should have seen that coming. You tell her that she should have given sex a break. So...What did you expect her to do? Just not have sex with anyone else but you if you broke up? What did you think was going to come out of what you said? What did you hope it would make her think?
YOU are contradicting yourself. You told HER that SHE had had too much sex, but that if she doesn't keep giving YOU sex, that you would just go and get some elsewhere. Um...Double standards much? I think she should dump your inconsiderate a.s.s.
Btw, yes, you are forcing her. You are giving her an ultimatium. ''Me have sex with you or me and some chick have sex''. What are her other options?!?!
I'm a 21 year old female, who has been in a loving, stable and sex-happy relationship with her fiancé for the past 4 years. He has *never* said something as stupid as you have.