Does it make me a freak? (very personal, no bs answers please)?!
Question: Does it make me a freak? (very personal, no bs answers please)?
Almost every girl/woman enjoys different things while having intercourse, such as touching, caressing, kissing, etc. but I tend to like the more erotic things such as having my hair pulled, being choked, being tied down, being told what to do (being controlled) and performing oral sex.
some people say it makes me submissive, but others say it just makes me a plain out freak, what is your opinion?
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I think you're normal. Every person has his/her own personality.. I don't like oral sex but i do like being controlled too... I think everyone is crazy in their own way :)
I think that sex is sex. Everyone likes it differently and as long as it is being done with a consenting adult, it doesn't matter what you do. I will tell you however, that while I don't see any issue with being tied down or hair being pulled, being choked it incredibly dangerous and many people have died being choked while having sex, so I do not encourage that. But the rest of it doesn't make you a freak. have fun!
You're not a freak it's just your sexual preferences. You're kinky. Which is fine. Don't let it bother you embrace it. Just don't be out there with every tom, dick, and harry. As long as you're not like a praying mantis. ( The female bites the male's head off when finished mating) Ha
You are you. What you do in the privacy of your own home is your business. It doesn't matter what other people think.
If you are worried about people thinking you are a freak then just do not talk about your sex life.
some people just like different things. Don't call yourself a freak just because you like something different from other people!
I don't see a need to put a label on it. But at the same time this probably isn't something that should be up for discussion except with your current sexual partner.
The things you describe are not strange at all. I would recommend being careful about the choking part because there are certain inherent dangers to that type of thing. But since in that situation you can't really use a "safe word", then come up with some type of unmistakable sign to your lover that he is getting too intense with it so that he can stop immediately. Even if the choking takes the form of forced deep throating, keep your wits about you and know your limits and make sure your partner knows those limits as well.
But beyond all of that, the types of things you describe are the things that enhance the sexual experience for you. If it helps you enjoy sex more, then just go for it.