Never had sex before, I have a question?!
Question: Never had sex before, I have a question?
So. I've been with my boyfriend for four months. I'm a virgin, he's not. We're both eighteen.
We've talked about sex, about the consequences and whatnot.
And I feel like he's getting a little impatient with me. He would never make me do anything I didn't want to, and he's told me time and time again that he'll wait as long as I want to.
But it's just a feeling I have, you know?
Anyway. It's not that I don't want to. Cause I do. I'm just kinda... scared. I don't really know if that's the right word though.
I'm scared that I smell bad down there, that my vagina looks funny, that it's going to hurt... :/
Any advice?
Answers:
This is EXACTLY what's happening to me. Like I'm a virgin, my guy isn't and I feel like he's getting impatient, yet he says he will wait for when I'm ready. I totally know what youre feeling like!
And this is what I'm going to say and this is what I'm going to do: wait. Plain and simple. If there's a voice in the back of your head questioning it, you're not. You have all the time in the world to wait, but once you give your vigibnity away, you can't take it back.
Most girls are self conscious of what their vagina looks/smells like. If you genuinely want to have sex, I would suggest turning out the lights so you're more comfortable with being exposed (and if you're worrying less, you'll enjoy it more). If you're worried about the smell, you can take a shower beforehand because after that the smell is weaker. As for the pain, it isn't horrible, for me I just felt a burning sensation and if I got uncomfortable I just stopped and waited until later. Just don't let anyone pressure you into having sex when you're scared.
Your vagina has a naturally musky and heady scent. Some women have a stronger scent than others. No vagina looks exactly like another. Think diversity! Regardless, he won't care about its appearance or smell. He will simply be glad he's there.
As to it hurting, there probably will be some pain. How much it hurts will depend on your tolerance to pain, how aroused (and not nervous) you are, and how lubricated you are. Make sure he takes care of you first. He needs to orally and/or digitally stimulate you to orgasm. (Several, actually.)
Well, if he isn't getting impatient that's not real love then I believe that you should wait to get married before having sex because it is important sex is supposed to be a gift between too people when they are married because to a girl having sex is very important the us like how we feel after about.
But it will hurt because it would be your first time.
Don't do anything until you are completely ready. Otherwise if it doesn't work out between you two you will regret giving your virginity to him.
You could try doing other things first, if you are comfortable & ready for that. Before I lost my virginity to my fiance he used his finger to penetrate me and a vibrator. It got me comfortable being naked in front of him and seeing that he enjoyed it.
But remember, don't do anything until you're comfortable! :)
For the first time:
Are you ready?
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/boyfri…
Know what to expect:
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual…
Minimize or eliminate the pain:
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/pink/f…
http://www.google.com/search?q=pain+firs…
Have a good experience:
http://www.google.com/search?q=advice+fi…
Use Birth Control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-…
More:
http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/
I totally agree with Amelia, if your scared or nervous dont do it. Because one person i know did and she regreted it. So really if you feel like he's pressuring you just tell him you need more time. Also, it is common for some girls to be nervous and boys but still :)
I HAVE THE EXACT SAME QUESTION
it cant look funny we do NOT care