What should i do please help?!


Question: What should i do please help?
This may seem like such a stupid, dumb question. But Im worried. Please dont be cruel or mean.
I am 20 and for some reason my mind keeps thinking I am not a virgin, even though my ex boyfriend said I am as we never had sex. I even told my friends some of the things that me and my ex did and they said I am a virgin. My mind does this to me a lot of the times with other things as well ( I over analyze things sometimes). I keep thinking I might not be a virgin even though my ex said I am. He has no doubt about that as he is also a virgin as well and we never had sex. Please help me. I dont know what to do. I have no idea why I am thinking this way. A couple of days ago, I knew I was a virgin. I mean I have evidence that states that I am a virgin. Like I said to my ex 2 months ago: "Is it bad that I want to lose my virginity to you?" We were on skype when I said this. I never saw him after this skype conservation. So why the hell am I all of a sudden thinking Im not a virgin???!!! Serious answers only please. The reason why it is a big deal to me is because I want to stay a virgin until I am married. I want to know why all of a sudden I am thinking this.
Please dont be rude.

Answers:

You ARE a virgin. I remember feeling the same way as you are feeling when I was young. When a girl has other acts of sex and or gets fingered she feels that somehow she isnt a virgin anymore. However if you have never had vaginal intercourse you ARE a virgin! You are thinking this way because you know you had some type of sexual activity and are feeling cheated in a way that you are no longer a virgin when it comes to sex. As for your Skype conversation and asking him "Is it bad that I want to lose my virginity to you" it sounds like this guy feels akward in a way because you keep bringing up your virginity. Some guys are like this. I went thru the same thing. Hang in there hun! You are a virgin and I hope you save it for someone who is really deserving of taking your virginity. Remember you can always give it away but you can never take it back. AND like I always say "they call it your first because its never your last". Good Luck hun!

Personal Experience



Because you've been brainwashed into thinking that being a virgin is a real category that is important, so now you're paranoid and feeling guilty because you've developed a psychological issue with virginity. I think that is terrible and I feel very badly for you.



You are 100 % virgin and only your thought process has made you think which i feel you should not



Is there something that you did with your ex that makes you think you're not a virgin? I know when my ex and I talked about having sex and started to but then stopped I worried that maybe it still counted even though we didn't go all the way. If something like that happened then it could be causing you to think you lost your virginity when you really didn't. If you know for sure that nothing happened then maybe it's just anxiety over keeping your virginity thats making you think this way.



hugh i kind of know where your coming from

im a virgin but i don't "Feel" like one you know? im a guy though so i think its kind of different...i mean i don't have a hymen so loosing my virginity wouldn'tt be hard you know? plus when i masturbate i last long (ipracticee) so im pretty sure if i ever do loose it wont be difficult

HOW EVER this isn't about me this is about you lol so i think you shouldn't worry about it to much

but at the same time maybe realize that you are a virgin and that you dont want to go into a situation thinking "I CAN HANDLE THIS =D" and get your self hurt you know? find some one who you like and work on it




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