17 and about to lose my virginity?!


Question: 17 and about to lose my virginity?
hey, I'm 17 and I've recently started dating this guy who I am really in love with and we both think that we're ready to take that next step in our relationship, we're both virgins but I've heard that when it's your first time it hurts like hell is there any possible way for it not to hurt so much?

Answers:

A lot of this is going to be purely mental for you. You are going to have to want this, accept it, and be in the mood. Remember that you're ready, that you chose this, that you are going to bond physically and emotionally with someone you love and who loves you.

Approach this with balance. Accept that it could hurt, but don't come in terrified that it will be nothing but pain. Accept that it might not be the best, but also plan on enjoying it anyway.

Get in the mood. Have your guy romance you. Music, candles, whatever you like. Kiss, caress, make out. Feel desired. Tell your guy this--he won't mind. You'll need to take it slow. He needs to get you to the point where you are impatient for sex, and you need to be willing to get there.

Have him massage/finger your genitals. It helps pleasure you, and fingering you can stretch you out.

Try being on top. It's a good way to lose your virginity because it gives you more control.

Lubricate! Lots of it!

And if it hurts, and it probably will, don't worry! The day after my first time wedding night I was quite sore (and sitting in a car for eight hours didn't help) but it was quite bareable! You'll get there, and the love you feel afterwards is beyond worth it.



Try not to be so tense, if your muscles are tight and your clenching because your nervous than it's really going to hurt. The best thing to do is relax and let your boyfriend take care of you, tell him what you like, where your comfortable, if you like it (confidence is good for guys). Enjoy it slowly, than maybe in the near future you'll be more relaxed, loose, and it will be better than the first time and it will be faster instead of slow ;)



Use lots of water-based lube, ask him to go slowly, and be sure to take a deep breath and relax. It may only hurt a little bit, or not at all- It's different for every girl.

And make sure to use protection!



use lots of lube and make sure theres lots of foreplay and you are fully aroused before he gets into you and make sure you are completely ready and relaxed



Tell him to go slowly




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