is it possible that i have a loose vagina?!

OK, the FIRST time, you were a virgin. Unused. So, to him, you were 'tight' during sex. This is why so many guys want a virgin. They think it makes sex better, since tighter is read as better.

The second and third times, you were 'looser' because you weren't a virgin, but that has little to do with your actual 'size' there. You see, at first, you probably had a hymen, a membrane across your vaginal opening, that he broke. After that, it wasn't there, exactly (it was, but it was big enough for HIM to get through). With me so far?

Now, the next guy you're with may be larger or smaller, so he will react differently. Smaller, he won't notice anything normally. Larger, and you get to be a virgin again, as he'll break what's left of the hymen again, and you'll be tighter for him the first time. Oh, and this related to thickness, not length of the penis.

Basically, the old texts say that there are three sizes of women, and men. Think, small, medium, and large. Sorry, can't tell by looking. Well, when the guy is erect, sure, but otherwise, no. So, for most, they recommend picking the same type of guy as you are (if a girl). But, with size being an issue today, for girls, a small girl would prefer (usually) a large guy. Or, even a medium, so long as he's a 'tight' fit. Guys are the same, wanting tightness. So, you want to go smaller. Given the US's current craziness, there will be street-corner 'doctors' to measure you and see who you need, and probably have a list of johns to recommend. It's all about money.

But, here is your KEY sentence. "told me i was loose after we had sex and his fingers were in me?" OK, if you didn't misspeak yourself, he had just pulled out, after sex. Now, unless he was REALLY small, his fingers should be smaller than his penis. So, naturally, his fingers would find you loose, right after sex. Given a hour or so, you should tighten right back up. You see, you can stretch rather wide, there. Most girls can handle ANY guy walking around, and some of them are 13+ inches long, and who knows how large in diameter. Not to mention, if you know about the Birds and Bees, babies come out there. Few men are that large, no matter where they are from. During birth, you can be so dilated that I can fit my whole hand inside you, to help bring the baby out, or turn him around to be born naturally. This is where some women pick up 'fisting,' where their partners don't use anything smaller than their fists.

Normally, your vagina stays like your anus, closed fairly tightly. This is how a tampon works, as well as why you don't have bowel movements all the time, freely. But, when you become sexually aroused, just like when using the bathroom, you relax and the opening can expand to pass things, in or out. And, once engaged in sex, you tend to stay fixed for a few minutes, to hours, depending on the size of the 'object.' I wouldn't suggest a porn movie, but if you ever see one, with a before and after shot of the woman, you can see what I'm talking about. In cases where she has two or more male lovers, the larger one is the one she tends to fit, and the other one has 'free room' to move around. It isn't her, it's just nature.

There are two major times when a girl is 'tight' and can't help it. One, when she's a virgin. Then, when she has a baby. They usually sew her up, either from cutting to let the baby come out freely, or where she tears, and they may do too much. So, the next time she has sex, it may be like she's a virgin all over again. And, in some areas, they use chemicals to 'pucker' her there, to make her tighter, or even sew flaps of skin over her opening, like when she was a virgin. Often this is sheep or something else, but it replicates the 'virgin' feeling, at least for the man (it's also a con for a known woman to pretend to be a virgin to get married).

All in all, ignore your ex. You're probably better off without him. That would be an insult, either way, and as it is, shows his stupidity. I don't think he had any feelings for you, or he wouldn't have said that. Don't take it to heart.

no. he seems shitty, there's no way that you could be that loose after only 3 times. if you feel really self conscious about it do kegel exercises. kegel exercises have many benefits, not just sexual ones but its guaranteed to keep you tight down there. I find that they allow to have more pleasure during sex. kegel exercise can help prevent urinary incontinence as you age.

here are some basic ones I just copied from Web MD

http://women.webmd.com/tc/kegel-exercise…

~Kegel exercises are easy to do and can be done anywhere without anyone knowing.
~First, as you are sitting or lying down, try to contract the muscles you would use to stop urinating. You should feel your pelvic muscles squeezing your urethra and anus. If your stomach or buttocks muscles tighten, you are not exercising the right muscles.
~When you've found the right way to contract the pelvic muscles, squeeze for 3 seconds and then relax for 3 seconds.
~Repeat this exercise 10 to 15 times per session. Try to do this at least 3 times a day. Kegel exercises are only effective when done regularly. The more you exercise, the more likely it is that the exercises will help.

http://women.webmd.com/tc/kegel-exercise…

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There is no way your vagina is loose. That guy was an immature, rude person who didn't deserve your time or your body. And how does he know he didn't have a tiny penis?

The way a vagina gets loose is when you have a children. So there is no way you vagina is "loose" after having sex 3 times.

I suggest you really get to know someone before you give them something that as special as your body. That guy obliviously was not worth it.

It may mean that your hymen is popped or it may mean that if you are having the sex within a short time period of the next (within a couple days) that the muscles of the vagina have not tightened back up yet. If you go several weeks without sex, your vaginal muscles will return to normal.

Vaginal muscles open up after 1st or 2nd time itself after having sex...so that you should feel any pain or ruptures in vaginal walls... and then however it regains its elasticity in few weeks... so if u dont have any intercourse for 2-3 weeks again u will regain your virgin tightness...

P.S., I pity ur ex-bf who dint have enough gutts to think of a valid reason to dump u... finger can go in evn in a virgin girl... its good that u r over with a jerk..

Have you ever thought your X-boy friend was smaller than normal?? Men come in different sizes more so than women. To me it sounds like he has a small penis. If he complains you're loose tell him you can't help if he has a small penis, that's the reality.

Some girls have "looser" or "tighter" vaginas and that is just normal - your vagina cannot stretch out just from having sex 3 times, it may feel looser when you are aroused and muscles are relaxed but it will always go back to it's normal size!

If you are sexually excited it does "open" and will be slightly "looser" than when you are not excited...it's perfectly normal. Only having sex 3 or 300 times will not do ANYTHING to stretch you...that will happen after you give birth.

this is normal during arousal. it is not really loose. just well lubed, and swollen. no worries. even after childbirth; the vagina will snap back.

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You've already asked this. The answer was "no".
He has a penis with a narrow girth (width).

lol what a jerk! just ignore him
sometimes when you are more wet you feel looser but im sure your not loose

just ignore him.